WHY PEOPLE MARRY.

Waipawa Mail, Volume XXXVIII, Issue 8513, 5 August 1921, Page 7 (Supplement)

WHY PEOPLE MARRY.

jriZlNO MATRIMONIAL ** METHODS.

- for love and work for ♦fv tiie poetic advice and f' in the first fine frenzied "Love’s young dream," f"‘ii uncommonly rare and rof- 1 ' ot course, ought to be (and V*’ j, in most cases) the alla |i-powerful reason for l*“Vpi e getting married. Many, * r marry from other motives sake of companionship, nity’of interest, the desire for considerations, and s* [ it was reserved for an exwooer to admit, as he months ago in the London 1*7 court, that he was moved to V'. :j y s pite. and in fulfilment bet! '.matter of fact there are few * more enigmatical than the that impel many people to plung‘* matrimonial—mo- * Uen trivial, ludicrous, and by * 3* m keeping with the seriof the occasion. Conventional, to say the least of j7 t l,e reason given by a certain J. f or marrying his wife. BeIVknew her 10 s P ea *t the girl L so outrageously with scores of -j that he fairly longed to J her in.” so to speak. The .as* with which she twined men Lj jer little finger aroused his admiration for her. He j Her squad of w ooers, and in j |( jan a week she was as surely v ki* thumb as any man had | f y* n und‘*r hers. But he still ! renuine regard for her, and according to himself, they i happy a married couple as U possibly be found.

STONE-A (IE METHODS, fiat made you marry the prlf ** a magistrate asked a wo,those face bore “striking” evihusband’s affection. “BeI|e punch' d all the other felfjrads," answered, “and nofeliedare make love to me.” lotier good lady confessed that I3in love with her husband ber:<was the “only man who tfared to snub her.” While j3en were tumbling over each , Qpay her court and attention,

iiiTj treated her w ith absolute (pence and even rudeness. |fjßSHiuence was that she dead to bring him to her feet his knees. She succeeded, but her heart in the attempt. & protect himself from the lad--lus the reason which one of ■Kt promising of our younger lers gave for forsaking the

rfbachelordom. In the earlier lhe says: “From some cause in. perhaps because I had a uaie of good looks and brains, i imply pestered to death by pae mammas and by no

I reluctant daughters. The in became so odious to me Icould see there was no chance

tot uless I either made a hermyself or took the bull by Ins by making to myself a wife. K the latter alternative, and fed my lady friends by marryit one girl who had never l ie least disposition to marry lithe only one who could have lae happy.” fei2j from his window one t gentleman saw a lady pass xr* a striking resemblance to Ikxife. Hi made haste after ii having succeeded in obtain--1 ary information, jji married to him because of which she bore to one

It*bad tenderly loved, tee “he Was so like her bro■Hliam," was also thought by Into be quite a good reason

entrusting her future happi- > the man she married toXES THAT LEAD TO matrimony. w is are acquainted with the •flow William Cobbett, the 'utiier, Was attracted to the >vtom he afterwards led to Massing along the street one ■ Utention was suddenly arthe sight of a young g rl ■C a bucket of water, not a **atic act. surely. Yet she » purposeful in the doing Cobbett there and then de*be was the girl of all Jibke these, an indefinable ■*?. a rosy cheek, a tantal®ay ringlet, have time and fef*d havoc with the hearts led them captive to the •»al mart. h» with the returned Aus•di*r, who ruccessfully belaid of the Birmingham racing a girl whom he saw 1,3 minutes on a railway plat--1,13,1 from “down a comrade of the most “*0 in spite of all the ! lit* went home ; J BOO °f an “unforgettable l«b°- ons * s * alure justi- ‘ vian axiom, and brings 5 1l0 * C, * lf,r *’•' ,f,e scruffs l », n<c l‘ s . f°t‘ her own ktb« ahvays - figures of true romance. ! 813 INSPIRATION. lj 0f T * Car 1 R North of s not scruple to admit attracted towards a devote J helpmate by [=*** *be paid to his •». r «H„ a ‘ s * ie modestly r enough in all conlUjj. P one "nger, attentive bit con k' r '*Kation gradually Inspiration of his bfc* ij 38 ae l °l l a crowded ® e a *>°- “if 1 have at- ! ban fa** as a preacher the : tthat * 10 encourage*w!, r ,;':. iis "' ni ' r who Itiij] ,L < ’ nt ( *' v 'no was so k; "M or a r*T•fi*,. and the on-; V !hof frMl ’ ' merits pro-' Ivi'ho ’’'’xuainli'd with itdr*. u ! ov r having seen i *» ißo»r. a lutPr in the I .j " n!T "’hotltor any H 83 e xisted which kL-J 0 c "oclu(|p that a 1 * ,,h " ,p I" 1 "-: 1 Hott'rn ll " ar ' “nrt hand H Dl > lie SUCCvSSfuI. ; lt>r »M r r' 'Pondoncc cnthe gallant ! ,h *rnJ! ni *'i!. Pofinifßlon to kti,j„ n ''; ' v!,il 'h culminated ! tb. ‘o ossay life’s jour,*rtt , ” rnan and wife. It, '» ur vh dignitary, it ■ h ,! ' in ‘' o lhat Ctip’d *»a * ’ /" tnstanco whore * attracted to h i s f u - .

ture wife by the sight of her premature grey hair while she sat in a seat in front of him. Her complexion was like milk and roses, her voice like “Annie Laurie’s,” was low and sweet, yet nothing but "the silver threads among the gold” had power to draw his heart’s love towards her.

The fact that a very charming young lady was so devoid of vanity that she was capable of passing and re-passing a mirror without stopping to admire her personal attractions was the first thing which drew the attention of a rising London solicitor towards her. He argued within himself that there must he something very sensible and solid in a girl who had so little of the vanity of her sex. and to-day, when she is almost more popular than himself, he has no reason to alter his opinion. IS MARRIAGE A LOTTERY? And to illustrate the other side of the shield, how “pride and vanity goeth before a fall,” there is the story of the individual who chose for his wife a woman whose only attraction to him was her “exceedingly homely appearance.” This gentleman had been married before, and it was his first. wife’s exceptional beauty that led to her undoing, for she eloped with another man. To make sure that such a contingency would not be repeated he consequently espoused a woman who was as decidedly plain as h's wife was handsome. But, alas! she fell heir to a goodly fortune, and being as vain as she was ugly, was beguiled by the flattery of a fortune-hunting adventurer, with whom one day she decamped. Really, there is no end to the curious and unusual reasons which determine the life-partner for countless men and women; their matrimonial weal or woe is entirely on the knees of the gods—a matter of chance and speeulaticn. Pessimists, of course, say that marriage at any time and for wiiatever reason, is a git of a gamble—a lottery. Bo that as it may, and cynics and pessimists notwithstanding, many men, and women, too,’ are prepared to take the risk of wedded bliss or otherwise even when the motive is a trifle strange and unorthodox. Thus an enthusiast in the game of chess married his better-half "because she was the only girl I ever met who hart any conception of the game, and found any real enjoyment in it.” Still another took unto himself a partner "because she was the only woman he knew who couM play a losing game at whist without losing her temper, and who never ".-.iiert to Play trumps when he csPoq f or them.”