THE POPULAR GIRL

Sun (Auckland), Volume IV, Issue 1028, 19 July 1930, Page 21

THE POPULAR GIRL

SHE DOES NOT CONFORM TO A SPECIAL MAKE-UP

■ Girls who are popular do not by any means conform to a special make-up. Tvto girls of entirely different types may be equally popular in their circle, because they are liked tefr different characteristics. Think what a blessing this is. It gives us all a chance. There are, however, certain traits which are looked for In everyone, and others which are universally avoided.

You will find that the girl who is always liked is the one with a bright disposition. She meets you with a smile and something to say. She is cheerful, yes! But she doesn’t swamp j»ou with her cheerfulness. She knows when to give you a chance and she knows when to be quiet. Sympathy is another attribute of the popular girl. We all seek the person who will try to understand our troubles, who will show that she is with us. And sympathy can be cultivated, by adopting a tolerant attitude to other people’s faults and troubles.

The popular girl is good to look at. She is well-groomed and pleasingly dyessed. She knows that an ill-kept appearance can depress others, and also that, folks being human, they like to be seen with a neat companion. Self-respect also goes 'with the popular girl. She has too much pride in herself to play shabby tricks, and, tjhougli she never becomes aggressive, she will not allow herself to be sat on. She knows that people never like anyone on whom they tread. A characteristic which most people avoid is super-sensitiveness. This can be really nerve-racking. We are so afraid of treading on the sensitive one’s toes that we are in a constant state of apprehension. The hyper-sensitive girl becomes quickly offended, too. She imagines ills where they do not exist, and tha't alienates friends from her. If only she would realise that sensitiveness can be regulated by will-power and selftraining, all might yet be well. Nor is extreme reserve conducive to popularity. How can the reserved girl expect to be liked when she never makes any overtures, never responds to people’s friendliness? She sets up a barrier round her, and few people take the trouble to break it. It all amounts to this. No matter what kind of inherent tempera ment she has, a girl can become popular if she cultivates qualities which will make other people happy, interested and at ease. —R.L.