THE LADIES.

Otago Witness, Issue 1834, 14 January 1887, Page 30

THE LADIES.

By AOICM.

The world was sad— the garden was a wild; And man, the hermit, sighed — till woman smiled. — Oampbkll.

TO COHRESPOWDENTS

[Alice will be pleased to receive letters from lady correspondents on any matter of Interest to fchem, and to reply through the medium of this page, the norn ac plume only of the correspo"<llenta being published. Letters to be addressed •• AHc«," care oi the Jsdit6iO

ANSWERS JO COUKESPONDENTS.

B. H,, Thames. Auckland.— How am I tw thank you for your kino and cheering letter ? You' seem to te an old friend, *' Fickle Jack " having' won yomr favour.; What you say of " (.balk J '.pleasesmemuch. Headers, seldom know the motive ppwer that more* the author, bub 1 have spoken what 1 believe, nor thi»t from au idejil standpoint. " On the contrary, l.have taken the ills thnfc I have seen, and the grandeur of human love, and tried to deal with them as they are. My belijbf in a woman'e influence is unbounded. It works eifcher-for good or evil ana my one detire is to open thVeye* of my own sex to the mighty power that' lie* In their hai.da, too often, alas I unused.' An ordinary observer of human nature cannot fail to. see that the sympathetic and ■ woman! v kindness of s> good woman wil) soften and pu-Ifv even the most reckless of men. if my story accomplishes half what you believe I shall be more than recompensed. Gi.adts Leigh. — Thank .you for your confidence. I am in a difficulty huw to ad\ ise you. ' Do nothing in a hurry. Personally, I do not think' the fact of'onw being a Koman Catholic and 'the other a Protestant any reason at all why the marriage ' si.ould nob be ' a happy ona If the disposition*, of «ach are mild, and. * yielding. I nave known more thsn one .happy .marriage where one has been Catholicnnd the other Pjoteatant, but it lias always been where the disposition of each into avoid, not court, grounds of difference. If either one or the ether is dogmatic or exacting - unpleasantness is almost sure to follow (espeei- ' ally if there are children)' and the" weaker of the two be compelled to make a sacrifice. I de not likr to advise in opposition t«»yourmother's wishes, while I sympathise with you sincerely . Your age — eighteen— makes me doubtful of advising you to make <-ny firm stand, for fear what should seem your happiness, nnw might result in your sorrow late> on. If 1 knew you both personally it would be an eisy matter to decide, but not knowing the ai- position oi either, 1 cannot tell whether it la safe to venture on a life contr ct with such - material for difference. Wait andiee how matters

progress, mid lit me- hear from you again. A litt.e waiting eeems an eternity to youth, but • waiting in patience rthveya brings its recompense. (2) It should be "'waittug for you " -WiLLrs.— Thank jou.for yonr comt Umenrnrr remurk*. , \ am yery.gjud.you Itye •• Chalk "ao much. Xc». * I thiiik I can*saVely promfgn that it will l» - produ<!ed in book form when It has nib' it« court* ■in the Witness.'. /•:.■' -.•>.;' - -j .ft KmtE.— lf you »cml the flowers to-the'offlce I »b«il recefve th.em, «,nd with s very great {iteavvr*.