OIL OF LOVE

Ohinemuri Gazette, Volume XXXII, Issue 4228, 14 February 1921, Page 4

OIL OF LOVE

WITHOUT JT, MARRIAGE WHEELS CANNOT RUN SMOOTHLY. (By Lillie Ross Clyne.) "I don't .love, him, for my whole heart is buried in my first love's grave. But he was &o lonely, and had no one to care for him, that's why I gave in and married him." * So spoke a young wife to-her mother. She wa& trying to seek some excuse for keeping alive the memory-love of the man she had lost. Yet it was probably merely a pose of "loyalty*to the dead. Her aigument that the man was lonely could not hold good, for had she honestly refused her hand because she could not give her heart, he would probably have found some other woman who could love him as a good husband deserves to be loved. During the early months of marriage, when the novelty exists, it may be possible to live amicably with one we don't iove, but there is the afterwards. The time when wills clash,. Then it is that the oil of love is needed to make the matrimonial chariot run smoothly. A woman recently wrote to the papors saying that although she had remarried she was not unfaithful to her first husband, for he was always in her. thoughts. Is that fair to the man who i'j supporting her? IF THE HUSBAND PRETENDED. "But he's such an understanding old dear. He knows I sliail always care most for Jim," is what another wife replied when I told her she was wrong in keeping alive the love of a man she had thrown over because he gambled. She was trying to make out that her husband didn't mind being second in her affections. If he pretended he didn't mind, he was a fine fellow. Too good for i a woman who hadn't sufficient refineI ment to at the least assume a wholej hearted affection for him. - There may be some little excuss for the marriages which are made out of pique because, although they are wrong, they are not a premeditated wrong. There's the same difference as between being cruel in the heat of passion and systematic, thought-out cruelty. Sometimes a man will marry a girl out of pity while,he has no iove'for her. Such a marriage might be happy provided he has not a deep affection for anyone else. THE MARRIAGE OF CONVENIENCE Wo can never be warmed by the sunslrino of happiness if a shadow love lies between us. The French marriage of convenience answers well enough in that country, but tho people have different natures and are differently built. Besides, there is no camouflage about it. As often as not there is no love on either side. This is easier to adjust then a marriage with intense passion on one sade and an empty heart on the other. Britishers pride themselves on their love matches, but unless the love is on both sides marriages cannot answer to the name. Nothing is so hard to bear as unrequited affection, unless it be the receiving of demonstrative love from one person when the heart and soul belongs to another.