Notes for Women.

New Zealand Times, Volume XXX, Issue 6703, 29 December 1908, Page 2

Notes for Women.

(BY KATRINE.)

<ATEI?tS will personally attend all social functions o£ interest, for which cards may bo forwarded to tbo "New Zealand Times" office. Accounts of weddings, dances, and social events generally, sent in for insertion, must be properly authenticated. Katrina

will bn pleased to give correspondents the benefit of her advice on matters connected with the household, toilet. cookery, dress, and fashion etiquette. etc. On these and all other subjects of interest to women correspondence Is cordially incited.

kindness of others. T enclose a cheque for five pounds, to buy you some small gift that will remind you of how I. appreciate your thoughtfulness.—laitlifully yours, Nellie Melba.”

THE WORD “OBEY”

I cannot say that in my parochial exncrienco I have ever known the word "obey” (writes Dean Hedges in tlio ‘‘Girls’ Own Paper”) in the marriage service to be the root of bitterness. Objection is sometimes made to it. and tbo difficulty evaded by the reply that the woman 'is required to promise to obey because it is idain that tlio man will obey anyhow. It is a belated conventionality, and that is what is the mattei wih it. The husband is as much pound bv tho law of marital obedience as is the wife, but ho is not to obey her, nor js she to obey him: both are to be obedient to those higher laws ot reason nnd_ courtesy and love which are the laws ot God. if a marriage is right there is no need for any promise of obedience. If tne marriage is wrong no subjection, can mend it.

THE CHILDREN’S POSSIBILITIES

We never know what undeveloped and ©veu unsuspected faculties lie dormant lu us and in cadi oi.her. In. the education of tho young, for instance, how C*cen a new environment, the introduction. of a new subject, the contact with a now thought, will give the life a new bent and enlarge the whole vision. A student has sometimes gono through a v'hohj curriculum listless and unawakened till ho came to a subject that gripped him and the -whole man grew and expanded in tho light and heat, and all the pinnoses of lifo were transformed. What the eye never sees the heart never longs for” is a proverb that enforces th© importance of environment, the value of a Tick and varied treatment of a child s dawning faculties, opening up possibilities in different lines till one day the ebul may wake and grow.

TO BRIDGE PLAYERS

A NOTE OF AVARNING. ' "Popular Science Siftings’' strikes a warning note to bridge players, more particularly women players. There can be no doubt, this journal says, that the inordinate playing of bridge by some people is affecting their physiognomy. Very pretty women may often be seen who looked to be no more than twentylive—fresh skins, delicate features, dainty toilets, everything attractive—when they sat down to the card table, and as' the clock began to chime the midnight hour there was a pale, pinched, drawn, old look in their faces. It takes a wonderful deal of poise not to lose self-control, one’s temper, and one s money at tho card table. 'The loss- of tho first two often produces the loss of tho last, an vice versa, and the one woman who has poise enough to lose neither self-control, temper, nor money has poise enough to keep her fresh skm and delicate features from growing wan, pinched and peaked. But the other women—how about them? People cannot have forgotten the "bicycle face," as it is of too recent experience; tho hard, tense, muscular expression, with eyes at long range. Ijicse little deflections from the lines of feminine beauts’ make a good-looking s\ oman look masculine, and a homely woman look intensely ugly. The intensity with which a card fiend pursues her favourite pastime has a tendency to produce almost a counterpart of the bicycle face." The eves do not got the expression of long range, but the contract ed muscles corrugate the flesh at the corners and between the eyes, and a terriblo look of ahxiety comes into them.

HOES D’OEUVEES AND SAVOUEIES

■ The hors d’oeuvre or "appetiser is served immediately before the dinner, with the idea of stimulating the appetlit‘ should consist of a tiny; portion of such thing*? as oysters, caviare, olrves, gherkins, sardines, etc., while various “bitters," such as anchovy or loostor, are very popular heaped up .on tiny crohtes of bread. When preparing hors doeuvre remember they should be: X, In very tiny portions. 2. Rather highly seasoned. 3 'Dainty to look at. The savoury terminates the dinner, and ipav be sawed either hot or cold. it, like the hors d’oeuvre, should‘be served in small portions. . It may be comprised of almost any kind of ingredient, the following being always popular : Oyoters, caviare, smoked fish, olives, anchovies, cheese. The same points must be remembered when making them as when preparing hors d'oeuvros. Here is a delicious hors d'oeuvro i STUFFED OLIVES. Six or more stoned olives. The same number of fillets of anchovy. Two hard-boiled eggs. Two teaspoonfuls of anchovy sauce. .One ounce of butter. A small round of fried bread for each olive. Salt and pepper. Pound the. butter and anchovy sauce together in a mortar, then add the yolks of the eggs and 'seasoning, and pound all to a smooth paste; next rub tho mixture through a fine sieve. Have ready Gome tiny croutos of bread, spread a little of the mixture on each, and fill each olive neatly with some. Arrange an olive on each croute, placing a fillet of anchovy round the base of each. Sprinkle over a little cornline pepper, and arrange on a lace paper.

A very effective method of catching file*? is to take a square of stiff paper or cardboard and cut a small hole in the centre. Cover it thickly on thcunderside with treacle, taking care to put tjienfcy of the treacle round tile opening- Then place the cardboard, treacle side down, over a bowl of soapsuds, wiven the files, attracted by the treacle, will fall into the suds. This fly-trap is especially good, as no poisonous compound it used,—"The Nursing Times."

SOCIAL AND PERSONAL NEWS

Mrs Goro Gillon, of O’Korke street, Auckland, and Mrs Adams, with whom she has been staying in Wellington, leave for Auckland to-day.

Mrs Hamilton Gilmer, of Willis street, went to Kona Bay on Saturday, She will return this week.

Mr and Mrs Von Haast have k gone to Sumner, Christchurch, and during their stay there will occupy Broleseor MacMillan Brown's cottage.

A wedding of considerable interest was celebrated at Holy Trinity Church, Gisborne, on Wednesday afternoon. The brides was Miss Louisa Deason Robinson, fourth daughter of Mr ‘William Reginald Robinson, of Gisborne, and! tlio bridegroom Mr Herbert Johnston, of Wellington, second sen of Mr David Johnston, late Collector of Customs, ‘Wellington. The ReV. L. Dawson ThoInejs pMiformedj ‘the ceremony. The bride, who -was* given, 'a,way* by her father, and attended by her four sisters, worn a gown of ivory chiffon taffetas a la Empire, the tiny bodice finished with Brussels lace and silvery touches. She also wore* a wreath and veil and carried a shower bouquet. The bridesmaids wore daintily frocked in white moussel-, ino do soic|. The best man was Mr L Camming, and Mr Heath Johnston ar tod as groomsman. Mr SideboHoin presided at tho organ, and played "The } oice that Breathed O'er Eden 1 as .Clio bride entered the church, and Mendelssohns £f Wedding March" at the conclusion of the ceremony. Subsequently a reception was held at the residence of the brides parents at Haiti. The happy couple left on Sunday on their honeymoon trip, tlio bride travelling in a navy tailored costume and becoming white hat.

According to a London correspondent, Miss Vera .French. (Auckland), the really talented young violinist, has been fulfilling concert engagements in various parts of England and Males during the last few months. Recently she was with Melba down at Sunderland, where she met with an excellent reception for her playing of AVieniawski’s Polonaise in 1) Major, and compositions by Sarasate and Ysaye. Buckiiaus was the pianist of the party. The New Zealand young lady has a number of engagements in prospect, one to which she is keenly looking forward being the Stock Exchange coucrt at the Queen's Hall in February. With Backliaus and Plunket Green©’ she will bo heard at sx concert at RedhlTS* early in November. Miss French has, for some time past, had many private engagements. Capable critics agree that, her future musical career should be a brilliant one.

MASTERTON NOTES. Christmas and Boxing Days passed off very quietly, writes our Masterton lady correspondent. Christmas Day was cold and wet, and the few who ventured out were in winter attire. Most people found a cosy fireside more enjoyable, and stayed at home. "Happily tho weather changed, and the morning of Boxing Day found the sun shining. A kitchen tea was given last Tuesday afternoon at the residence of Mrs La Roche, Cole street, to Miss Annie AVbod, who is about to be married.

Misses Dupre and their brother, of AVellington, have been on a short visit to Mastcfrton. They stayed with their brother, Mr Frank Dupre.

Some of the members of St. Matthew's choir visited the hospital on Christmas aftertnoon and rendered carols, which wore greately appreciated by the patients, and also the staff. They were invited to afternoon tea. by the matron.

Father Christmas had not forgotten the sick, for there was ample evidence of his visit. A Christmas tree was placed in the fever ward, whore there were seven patients. Judging by the sounds revelry from their quarters, they are evidently on tho high road to recovery.

Mr N. F. Eager, who has been for some time with H. T. Wood, chemist, is about to sever his connection with the firm. He intends to take up a course of studies qt one of the theological colleges of the Dominion. Foreign mission work is the object he has in view.

Airs F. P. AVilson, who was engaged to sing the soprano ©olos in a production of "The Messiah" by the Masterton Choral Society, has gone to Napier with her husband# During their stay in Masterton they were the guests of Mrs F. AVhitton

A SAILOR’S WIFE

LADY CHARLES BERESFORD. Lord Charles Hereford has always been such a picturesque character, and has always figured so largely in the public eye, that the majority of people are unaware of the striking personality of his wife, who is one of the most brilliant and clever women in society to-

day. Before her marriage Lady Beresford was Mi.se Nina Gardner; she belonged to the ultra-musical set, and did a very great deal to encourage and help the opera in the days before it was counted the most fashionable of all society's many recreations. Lady Beresford is noted for the charming musical parties which she gires at her London house, and'for her artistic tastes, especially in matters appertaining to her clothes and the arrangement of her home. She numbers amongst her musical friends the brothers de Eeszke and Madame Adelina Patti.

SIR WALTER RALEIGH REDIVIVUS

Charley Pollock, a .who, on the occasion of the recent visit to Belfast of Madame Melba, laid a bundle of papers on the footpath from the hotel to the carriage to save the distinguished singer from wetting her shoes, the other day received the following letter: — "Eitz Hotel, Piccadilly.—Dear Boy,—l was much touched by your chivalrous thought for me in Belfast the other day, and I shall always remember it with great pleasure. I am glad to hear you are a steady, industrious boy, and a comfort to your mother, and I know you will grow up a brave, honourable man, for you have already given evidence of the possession of . exceptional qualities. Yon readily sacrificed your little bundle to make an easy path for mo, and I hope your path through life may be made easy and bright by the