COMPATIBLES.

New Zealand Herald, Volume LXI, Issue 18708, 14 May 1924, Page 16

COMPATIBLES.

In the case of P Elaine " and " Dick," it was difficult to believe that that ideal couple, to whose wedding ; the suburb crowded only five years ago, had reached | the incompatible point, and acknowledged it so. frankly. . But their 1 nearest ®md dearest might have seen signs of forthcoming squalls even in those halcyon days- of courtship I .4: They , had not an interest in common, save each other!.. EJaino'3 type ;, was the kind who feels that because a man loves her ho must be the predestined , mate of her soulalso he was ardent, virile, 'and genuinely kind. Dick sat and ' listened adoringly to Elaine playing Beethoven, r though the only tune he knew was the "Maiden's Prayer." But she had such a charming 1 profile] V ' 1 •' And what fun they made of . Dick's stodgy brother and his fiancee, Grace, who read aloud to each other in hornrimmed specs." : Yet there they are as happily married as ever, while the other erstwhile adoring pair can find no topic of mutual interest to discuss at meal times. " -liiia is just a warning to those, girls," says 'M.0.U.,' . who forget to ask themselves when a very, very nice -man shows signs of attraction, ' Should I still think him so awfully nice, even if he didn't notice me Or is it only because I fancy he's getting to love mo, that I'm inclined to think - 1 love .him. back?. Have we really got things in —besides just being attracted by each other?. Is. he the sort of person I'd want fox a friend, as well as just for a lover For, do remember, fascination wears off. Your fascination, as well as his fascination ! You'll need to love him for something more than just that way he's got of looking, or speaking, or lifting his head. . You'll need to try and detach your attitude towards him for a moment, 1 and say to yourself, ' Is he the sort of man I'd lov6 to bo with if he were just my fatheror my brotheror my son ? Or is it only that I'm so pleased and touched to think that he really .wants me

" Incompatibility is always there from i the start, if people only knew. . ; But-, being born actors, we so seldom notice it until we, too, like Elaine and Dick,'grow tired of pretending. On the other hand, perhaps it is by making the best of their 'incompatible partners!* (as thousands of men and women are at this minute doing, and keeping cheerful through it)perhaps it is by this cheerful acceptance of a not-so-very-bad job that they are laying up a fine store of strength both for them-: selves and for their children—which' is more than can be said for those who have. ' temperaments' and swear ' that - they' must and will lead their own lives."