WOMAN'S WORN

New Zealand Herald, Volume XLV, Issue 13796, 8 July 1908, Page 10

WOMAN'S WORN

MAKING'THE BEST OP THINGS. | Looking -' on the bright side is an atti- ; tude of mind that can be cultivated and truly. ' Instead of moaning and groaning about past, present, and possibly future troubles, it is a duty -we owe not only to ourselves, but to our family and friends and our little world, to cheerfully make the best of • things, to smile and look pleasant, as the photographers say. So shall ,we feel better in health and temper, . and many of the worries will disapper as if by:magic. Worry is a habit that grows ■ rapidly, : and the more it is indulged in the stronger ; it grows till'V' everything I goes inong, ;;•' and there are only dark -clouds over everything to cheer us on our, way. We ft el martyrs, misunderstood; ; and badly ,/ treated, •./: and others who have to bear our fancied grievances come to regard us" as a wet blanket, miserable, and radiating misery all round. This should not be 50../ Let us enjoy the good things /of life keeping '■ the v sorrows of yesterday in the background, and. refusing to meet future troubles half way. Many give their troubles too much place in their thoughts, and exaggerate their importance. Even trouble has its place, for trouble is necessary for developing a certain side/ of our natures ;,' sympathy comes by suffering, and the very things 'Which -hurt and grieve us are helping to make our nature / strong and delightful. '

Don't, my dear girls, whom nature'; has ] not; endowed with her precious gift of beauty, v. think ■ that on that account you have no compensation in your lot. >/; . • > *.! Don't become . soured and visit your ; misfortune on all; the world, .which is really not to blame for it. i ; ' A bad temper, added ;to a plain face, is a .misery. But good/temper, sweetness, and unselfish manner can make a plain woman even more charming than a pretty one. i - Think how fleeting is beauty at its best, and that you can never suffer the ; pangs of the beautiful woman who sees a', her charms fading. / r":V:/> ":{!v- ; .•.-.-;■ V,;;::.- : /: Remember that ; when a man makes love to you, it is for your teal self, not for the mere outward attraction iof beauty, which may vanish in a moment by an accident. TO WIVES: "DON'T NAG." /There; is nothing in the world so irritating, : even to; the best-tempered husband; as a nagging / wife, ; and H many "an , unhappy homo owes its misery to this most distress-.. ing of faults, and women, we' are sorry to say, are more addicted to this trying; habit than men. Regarding nagging before a third ; person, nothing can be more aggravating J or ; ! distressing "'. to ; ; all; parties 'i present, ; for ; it' is quite impossible for a third person to take the part, openly, of either husband or wife; so if you have ■; this;. wearying j: fault,; at all ; events keep it as private as possible.;; There can never be ; peace in '■; a" household in which a nagging wife resides.' : Such a wife will often drive the most domesticated of husbands to his club, for; at ail events he can get peace' there, and/that; is -what ] a : man most requires after his daily work; ; and ;if rest is not to' beobtained in his own home, it is only natural that he should seek it elsewhere. ' ' Nagging is a very difficult habit to overi come, and it needs ; great determination to | rid one's self of such; an ; incubus. ;' i But it is not by any j- meais impossible to "win this great triumph over /self— triumph that will not only benefit you and your husband, but all who come in contact with you in the daily round. ; / Don't think and brood over trifles in your husband's absence; this will only make yOu feel dull and inclined to grumble and nag when he returns.

; Try to put self aside a little, and take into consideration how hard he works, so that if , he does now and then play" billiards, or stop out chatting with a friend, remem-. her it is not. because he loves you any the less, or 'that his home is less dear 'to him ;■ and v don't greet him on his return .with cross-looks and; naggings. '-',■/■.'■ \ Remember,' a cheerful wife is necessary to make , a cheerful home, and the two combined make a happy husband.

WHAT IS REALLY A CLEVER WOMAN. A clever woman is one who looks well after the ways of her own household. A clever woman is one who undertakes nothing, that she does not understand. A clever woman is one who is mistress of tact, and knows how to make the social wheels run; smoothly, _ A clever woman "is one who makes the other woman think herself the cleverest. • A clever woman is_one whose ability is never unpleasantly felt by the rest of the world.

A clever woman is one who alwavs makes the best of any situation. " y ; A clever woman is one' who acts like hot water on tea }<j she brings the sweetness and strength out of everybody else. A clever woman is one who acknowledges her neighbour's; right to live, who doesn't thTwodd She Jloiie is the motive power

BACTERIA AND PETTICOATS. f3°^u baCteria agaln! How they interfere with pet extravagance, • dog, our ep8 ' ? ° iSOR P leasure > a «<i cast a & A over everything. A hospital nurse has denounced ;. the silken ) pffiat-S garment beloved of all women; and now our innocent pride in its rich fron.E£ has departed. Instead of being a cherisS ed possession, we fly far from it on account of the danger lurking within its folds and finely-pleated and i flounces These gather iip the. germs" of tuberculosis : measks, and the like, and ibtSdSetffl into the family circle, so we are told The reason why the silk petticoat is fixed upon for condemnation. is owing to its *** «£ washable A woman wSo owns one or two of these garments wears them constantly, and, as washing would spoil them they become perfect harbours or Sa germs. , The same objection does not Told ; with regard to the skirts of Sooffea dresses, because ; women : lift : them '' if tlev are over long. The silk petticoat W ever,, is never lifted, and it gathers the sputum of a 'sufferer; fromltulSoSs as>the wearer walks; along the paveS? other buildings. If the skidTwS£ washed when soiled the danger would be St ly lessened; a*tit is, the poison seminated by degrees at her own fiiride been caught. The moral of this is never wear unwashable underclothing of be. confessed thai th?Whi£ o^e' witflf dainty freshness, is for *£ for -the cost of laundering two, or three surf.' skirte a week, ; it^ " compared ttlom?' ° f °* lCinne disea^So;

ON FALLING IN LOVE. • .Ladies formed by far the greater portion of a gathering which listened with gSrtS tend)-to a lecture given in London by Dr ..Slaughter on " Selection and Marriage?" or caused by .the- Eugenic Society ™f 0 one objected, B aid the doctor, to flJSfifiSffi of the unfit or the segregation of the insane or the feeble-minded, the criminal, or -the;; drunkard. But when they suggested certain ways of carrying out they were told that they .would be creaK a sort of .jury for the, examination of SS dates lor the matrimonial stakes, who should present themselves for standard cert? ficates. People, they said, feU in love, and no one could i say whither . it came 0 went Marriage was open to the operation 1 of all sorts ; 5 influences. Those who had been in love probably were sceptical, but in fall, ™S. ± m love they observed { certain very de-• finite ; modes of action not controlled from the outside, but from the inside.' Marriage is the human mode of selection. People looked: upon the present order as if there" was some kind of fate" connected with it " which made it impossible to vary any of its conditions, but there was . probably no human institution which had : had so many varieties as marriage, determined by parti-: cular sets of circumstances. ■•■ ; *^...';.

A.FEW-NURSERY HINTS. When medicine is really required,atei" * spoonful . of castor oil is the oaiest, but avoid the habit of giving drugs in and out - of season. : Liquorice should always he ' kept in the house where there are children it being a simple yet wholesome aperient ' Get a clinical thermometer, and when ever your; child's health gives you anv ' anxiety, take the temperature at once ,' and act accordingly. If very feverish *>•„ to cause alarm, send for your < doctor ; at once, and put the child to bed, :keeping"-It as quiet as possible until he comes. , Give children plenty of plain, wnolesmne food, and give only salt as ix condiment—. no pepper, mustard,■: or strong sauce. Littie or no meat, but fruit of some kind everv day.' ' Dress . them comfortable • let them •be quite warm; but avoid overloading them with clothes; healthy children can bear ' cold better than heat, and it is very weak ening to pile thick, heavy clothing on them' Allow plenty of breathing space in the children s bedroom; give up your ■ drawing- - room or "best parlour" if necessary, and use it as a sleeping apartment rather-than crowd too many in one room,,