THE WOMAN'S WORLD.

New Zealand Herald, Volume XXXVI, Issue 11203, 25 October 1899, Page 3

THE WOMAN'S WORLD.

SELECTION OF BRIDESMAIDS. Ik selecting bridesmaids, it is not beauty that counts so much as style and carriage. Most brides take a great deal of pride in their bridesmaids' costumes, and want them to show to tho best advantage.

It is very important that a bridesmaid should walk well. The weddiiig-marches are more suited to grand opera stages than to church aisles, and. while Elsa's or Lucia's attendants can walk in gracefully to such music, the most graceful girl is apt to sway and falter, trying to keep time and step with the same strains.

The beauty of a faultless frock and tho stateliness of a picture-hat vanish when tho wearer is awkward and obviously ill at ease. A girl who walks well, whose head is well poised or. her shoulders, and whose hair arranges well, makes a good appearance as a bridesmaid.

BEAUTIFUL WOMEN AS TYRANTS. We generally associate the idea ityranny with the occupants of high i' ■. s, with clubs and chains, bolts and daik dungeons, with Siberia. But all tyrants do not. go about with the sights of tyranny in sight. All tyranny is not loud, nor aggressive, not avowedly cruel. There are „yrants who have sweet faces and musical low voices, eyes that- laugh or melt tears, lips that smile and woo, fingers that clasp and caress. There is a tyranny that is gentle, but no more to bo resisted than is the soft, steady pressure of the fog that crecps up from the sea and covers everything with its blanket-like presence. There is the tyranny that bears the guise of love, and uses its vocabulary. This is tho sort that a beautiful, frivolous, selfish woman can exercise over a large-hearted, noble, but, in her hands, a helpless and baffled man. It is the depotism that the wife, in her desire for material advantage, exercises over the husband who has aspiration for higher things; who, in her possiblysweet persistence, gives him neither rest nor peace, until, little by little, he has stifled all his ambitions, and become a seeker after things for which in his heart he does not care. Pink-and-white tyranny Mrs. Siowe called it.

Georgo Eliot gave an example of it in Rosamond, who became to Lydgate a sort of basil-plant, a plant that tradition says thrives on the brains of murderers. And in most cases the hopeless thing is that this tyranny never calls itself by its own name, , never sees its own face, but goes on its selfish way, and hold its own as stubbornly as any other tyranny in this strange world. WHAT EVERY WIFE NEEDS. She needs a good temper, a- cheerful dis< position, and a knowledge of how her husband should be treated. She needs a capability of looking on the bright; side of life, and refusing to be worried by small things. She needs a secure grasp of such subjects as are of interest to men, and should'not be above studying even politics in order to understand should her husband speak of them. She needs a sympathetic nature, in order that, should sorrow fall upon them, she may be able to give comfort to her husband. She needs to understand something of sicknursing ; a wife with no notion of what to do in case of illness is but a useless thing. She needs considerable tart and patience. The ono to enable her to know when to remain silent, and vice versa, and the other to put up with him when his temper is raffled. HOW TO' KEEP YOUR HUSBAND'S LOVE. Don't forget that although it is not easy to win a man's love, it is far more difficult to keep it, and requires some slight knowledge of men and their little ways. Don't, when he comes home tired and hungry, spring on him a multitude of little household worries, which, after his graver business cares, will appear to him as trivial in the extreme. Don't ignore the substantial comforts of a well-cooked dinner; it is said that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, consequently the latter should be humoured. Don't be dull and solemn as the grave, but be cheerful and liven him occasionally; no man is such a bear as to cavil at a bit of fun, and the chances are he will thoroughly appreciate it. Don't be constantly asking for money to pay bills; have a regular allowance and keep within it, either settling accounts weekly or monthly. Men hate being worried with household matters, which should be a woman's department. Don't consider it an insult if he remains at his club or at a meeting sometimes; a man enjoys a smoke and a talk with his club friends just as keenly as a woman doss her afternoon tea and gossip. Don't, above all, aggravate liim or argue with him. Vary few women realise how valuable silence sometimes is, and many a quarref would be averted if she could but forego the pleasure of having the last word. THE TABLE. Fondue.—Three minces of dry grated cheese, one slice stole bread, one gill of milk, two eggs, cayenne pepper and salt, loz butter. Break the bread up and put it into a 'basin; put the milk and butter into a saucepan, and when it is boiling pour it over, and cover down until quite soft; then beat well with a fork till perfectly smooth: beat in the yolks of the eggs, cheese, and seasoning; whip the whites to a stiff froth, with a pinch of salt, and stir them lightly in; pour into a buttered tin or piedish, put into a quick oven, and bake for fifteen minutes, and serve instantly. These should not be cooked long before they are wanted, as they fall very quickly. Albert Pudding.---Six apples, two eggs, S}oz citron peel, Jib icing sugar, half a pint of milk, loz butter, sugar, and nutmeg. Peel the apples and take out the core with a small cutter, and fill it with sugar and nutmeg ; stand in a buttered piedish, with a little water at the bottom of the dish, and bake till the apples are soft, but not broken ; make a custard with the milk and the yolks of the eggs, flavour with nutmeg, pour ovei the apples, and bake till set; put the whites of the eggs into a basin, a„d whip well; when quite stiff beat in gradually |lb icing sugar, spread this over the custard, cut the citron peel into strips, and arrange on the top in a pattern; stand in a cool oven till set, sprinkle with pink sugar, and serve cold.

Sweetbreads A NT) SPINACH.—FoIIr sweetbreads, one pint of gravy, 2oi butter, one onion, two bundles of spinach, half a pint of brown sauce, pepper, salt, and nutmeg. Soak the sweotbreads in warm water, and clean nicely, then stew them gently for one hour in the gravy with the onion; take up and press between boards and weights till quite cold, then trim nicely and cut into shape, cover with egg and breadcrumb, and fry till a good colour in hot batter; dish on a little mashed potato, pour round some good brown sauce (this can be made v.ith the liquor in which the sweetbreads were cooked), and put the spinach in the centre. To prepare the spinach, wash very thoroughly, cover the bottom of a large sauce- ' pan with water well seasoned with salt; put in the spinach, pressing it well into the water until quite soft,' then turn into a collander and press out all the water; put it into a small saucepan with loz : butter, a little pepper and salt, and stir until the butter is all absorbed"; then put into the centre of the dish of sweetbreads, and serve.

GENERAL NOTES.

Good fob the Skis.— good tonic for the skin is prepared' as follows: Mix together two ounces of eati de Cologne, one ounce of tincture of camphor, half an ounce of tincture of benzoin. A few drops of this added to the washing basin when bathing the face will be improving to the skin. "Woman" on "Lady."— sec-sawing that has been going on between the terms "lady" and "woman" for years past may be said to be now definitely settled. Thanks to proud and persistent misuse of the latter term it has gone down, while " woman" has come up, ana promises to stay there. They have completely changed places. Dishes and the Condiments—Roast beef should be served with grated horseradish; roast mutton with currant jelly; boiled mutton with caper sauce; roast pork with apple sauce; roast lamb with mint sauce; venison or wild duck with black currant jelly; roast goose with apple sauce; roast turkey with oyster sauce; roast chicken with bread sauce; broiled fresh mackerel with parsley sauce; fresh -salmon with cucujnber and cream sauce..