POINTS IN GOOD MANNERS.

Lake Wakatip Mail, Issue 2294, 12 January 1900, Page 6

POINTS IN GOOD MANNERS.

I IT IS CORRECT j For a bride to retain her family name after her marriage; for example, " Miss Mary Smith " after her marriage to Mr. J ones may properly sign her name " Mary Smith Jones." To omit a wedding tour if the parties most concerned prefer to do so. When calling upon a guest to leave cards I for the hostess also,although the hostess be a stranger. | For a lady when making a call to send her ' name up by the Bervant and leave her card upon the hall table. To bow once only to the same person on a public drive or at any public function where pfeople constantly pass each other. To remember that the first law of courtesy I consists in avoiding all that will make one | disagreeable or irritating to others. To keep one's temper upon all occasions. To call persoually upon strangers before sending them an invitation to a social function. , To write " the favour of an answer is re- ' quested " at the lower right hand of an iui vitation card when an answer is desired. | To use sealing-wax and a seal for closing I your letters if you know how to do so neatly | and well. | To serve boiled eggs in the shell and to eat i them with a small spoon from the shell. | To refuse wine at a dinner party if you , desire to do so. Tt> bow u the person whose health you j wish to drink, raising the wine-glass to the lips at the same time. | To net before your friends the very best i your j>octiet aud your house cau afford. i Tc decide with great care upon the order j it which guests are to sit at table. | To recollect that manners reveal secrets, and that the greatest test'Of good breeding ig the Buddexi acquisition of fame or foitune. For a lady always to bow first to a gentleroan.

To return all salutations in the street, however humble the acquaintance may be, and recognise servants and tradespeople with politeness. For a gentleman to take off his hat when he enters a private office.

IT IS INCORRECT For those who have been invited to a wedding to ignore the newly married pair the season following. To depart upon a bridal tour in coßtumes that at once make the recent mariiage obvious to all fellow passengers in trains and guests at hotels. For a person to call upon a lady on any one of her reception days unless he has been specially invited to do so. To enter a drawing room with one's car'J in one's hand and to offer it to the hostess. To talk or to laugh loud so that the attention of the public is attracted. To use the expression " table manners " or " table behaviour.' -

To scold or give vent, in any way, to one's temper, either to one's equals or inferiors. To send an invitation to afunction.enclosing a visiting card, to strangers. To write " R.S.V.F." upon an invitation. It is now considered better form to make a request for an answer in English. To use a seal if you cannot do so properly. To break eggs iiito a glass or cup is considered tbe height of vulgarity. To decline wine at a dinner party on the ground of disapproval, or to offer any explanation fvi not accepting the proffered beverage f o drfnK toasts <tt ordinary dinner parties jr tc make speeches unless specially requested t> do so. Tc attempt social entertainments beyond oiie'f. purse and circumstances. Ti make the mistake of inviting people who are not on friendly terms with each othe* to meet ti the same function.

To attempt to live in homes so grand that one's manners are 100 small for them. Foi a gentleman to make any sign of recognition until the lady has acknowledge his acquaintance. To fail V. remember and to pleasantly recognise iiersons of inferior standing in life.

For a gentleman to keep his hat on in an elevator where there are ladies.