THOSE WHO CHARM.

Hawera Star, Volume XLVII, 12 November 1927, Page 17

THOSE WHO CHARM.

QUESTION OF PERSONALITY. X am quite sure that in real life—and particularly as regards women—it is not the assertive personality that wins, says a contemporary writer. We worship efficiency nowadays on every walk of life, and this has created a certain vogue for efficient women. In

many ways this is all to the good—l don’t like or admire helpless, muddling incapable people, but still less do I like efficiency rammed, as it were, down my throat! And women who have attained any success and position in their profession or business are rather inclined to adopt that attitude. I don’t think they could possibly make a greater mistake unless, of course, their career is everything to them and they are prepared to forgo all success and happiness in their private lives —and I don’t think I have ever met any woman like that! Be capable by all means, but don’t don’t shout about it You will eventually get, I think, what you ask for in life to a very large extent. If you are incessantly asking that people should

admire your strong-mindedness and business ability, they will probably end by doing so—and much good that will do you! Whereas if you make a gentler, more feminine appeai to them, their whole attitude toward you will

be the natural response to that appeal. We may admire a dominating woman but there is in human nature a certain

dislike of being dominated and subconscious resentment against those who put us in this position, admirable though they may be. On the other hand, we have all known gracious women. with gentle manners and soft \oices, who postively enslave those who know them, and never seem to lose

their admirers and friends. There may be nothing about them that suggests strength, and .yet those are the women who i should call possessed of a reallly strong personality.