EVERY LADY’S JOURNAL

Gisborne Times, Volume XLIX, Issue 4876, 23 May 1918, Page 3

EVERY LADY’S JOURNAL

4 (By “Vivienne.”)

PERSONAL,

Mr and Mrs H. B. Williams arc visiting in the south. ' Miss Hazel Nolan is at present in Wellington. Mrs MacLaurin is on a visit tc Wellington. : .Mr and Mrs R. V. Gully havb boon : visiting in Gisborne. . Mrs J. R. Kirk has returned from a vist to the south. ’ Miss Lylie Coleman lias returned from Kaikoura North. Mrs T. A. Craw-ford, who for flve years occupied the position of President of the Gisborne Women’s Club, has resigned her position. Mrs Crawford assisted the club in many helpful ways during her term. of office. The Gisborne Women’s Club is a most successful organisation, and the members have aided numerous patriotic causes during the war. A meeting of the c-lergy of this town was held at Te Rau College on Monday. A delightful lunch was partaken of, and helpful and interesting topics were ably discussed. Mrs Burnett, who has been the guest of Mrs Andrew Graham, lias returned south. The college boys and: girls are at present home for the holidays, and are making merry as usual. Several dances and parties have been given in their honor. Mrs Humphreys, of “Strathallan” eiitertained a .number of juveniles on Friday last, when a particularly delightful dance was much appreciated. Mrs Dymock, of Puha, gave a charmingly arranged party on Tuesday, when a very happy and .joyous time was spent. Mrs F. H, Mann is to be another hostess for the young people this week. Miss Aylmer has returned from a visit to Napier. The eight annual festival of the Chrstchurch competitions took place recently in Christchurch. The entries this vear constitute a record for the

OWUicuy, via., cio (igaiiioi *** year’s total of 1244. Competitioi from all parts of New Zealand wei heard during the festival. Mr J. J Rosewarne, of Gisborne, was appoin ed judge of the elocutionary sectioi A charming idea is the making < a patch work quilt for Brockenhurs Convalescent Hospital in Euglanc All the important towns in New Zej land are contributing a quilt for th good cause. Mrs J. B. Redstone i making up the Gisborne production Numerous Gisborne girls are on: broidering their names on the pal dies, so the quilt will be, no doubt a source of interest to many Gisborm soldiers when it arrives at its destin ation. Lieutenant and Mrs Jackman havi returned south. Miss Moore, of Dunedin, is givin< a farewell- pianoforte recital 01 Thursday evening, in Trinity Hall Mrs Watkins is the guest, at pres ent. of Miss Williams, at Pukehou Miss B. Murray is the guest o 1 Mrs J. C. Field. Homebush. Miss T. Chatterton is visiting ir Auckland. Mrs G. Carter went to Wellington recently to meet her husband, Lieut. Carter, who lias returned from the front. The marriage of Miss Florrie' Win- ! ter, daughter of Colonel and Mrs Winter, to Mr Leslie Balfour, of the South British Insurance Company, takes place at Holy Trinity Church on June 11Mr and Mrs Branson are visiting in Taupo. Miss Ludbrook has returned from a visit to Hawke’s Bay. Mrs Blackburn invited several young people to afternoon tea on Friday last to meet Miss Vera Moore, of Dunedin, who recently gave a most successful pianoforte recital in Gisborne. The guest of honor contributed several pianoforte items during the afternoon, which were very much appreciated. Fragrant tea and delicious cakes were served during a pleasant interval, The reception room was gay with autumn blooms. Mrs Palgrave is on a holiday visit to Auckland. Mrs and Miss Sniallbone have re-

turned! from a visit to the south. •Lieutenant Bullard has been visiting his relatives in Gisborne. At a reception attended: by Miss Marie Tempest, the topic arose of a girl who had refused on earl and married a wealthy young manufacturer. “She very wisely preferred a business plant to a family tree,” was Marie’s comment.

>_ A FORTHCOMING CONCERT.

a A particularly delightful concert will take place in Holy Trinity school-room next Thursday evening, May 30. It is being organised by the Te Hapara members of the Church of England, the funds being for their good work. A charming programme of items has been drawn up and arranged, amongst those who are performing is Mrs Drake, wife of g the recently appointed curate. Mi’s | Drake is the possessor of a charming voice, and her item should give great pleasure. Instrumental trios, pat- | riotic songs with stirring choruses, i character sketches, musical monologues etc., etc., will he a few of the - items on the uniquie and cleverly ■ drawn up programme.

AT HOMES.

Mrs Fred Parker, of Dunedin, who is the goest of Mrs Frank Barker, was entertained at several At Homes last week. Mi’s Frank Barker gave a large afternoon tea last week for Mrs Parker, which proved most enjoyable. The guests comprised the numerous friends of the'guest of honor. Mrs Parker was a former well , known Gisborne resident, her husband being manager of the Bank of New South' Wales here for several years, prior to taking over the bank’s ' Dunedin branch. Mrs Fred l Lysnar was another hostess, her party for Mrs Parker took place on Saturday. The reception rooms were charmingly arranged with autumn blooms. A j delicious afternoon tea was partaken • of. The guests comprised, for the most part the married friends of the guest of honor. Amongst those 1 present were Me'sdanies Field, Ritchie, Rees, Craig, Nolan. Blackburn, J Murray, deLautour, Stock, JexBlake, Pittar, W. D. Lysnar, H. .< Lysnar, Shcrratt. F. Barker, C. A. ] Fenwick, G. Stock, E. Nolan; Misses 1 deLautour (2), Stock, G. Pyke. B. i Murray, Priece, F. Field, B. Black- i burn. Mrs Lysnar received her guests in a modishly fashioned silk l taffeta toilette with charming trim- i mings. 1

HOLY TRINITY GIRLS’ CLUB. ’

r A delightful evening of music, song r and competition was lmld in Holy : Trinity Schoolroom on Tuesday. Ihe evening was arranged to mark the opening of the club’s new year, the competitions involved great fun and amusement. Making hats out or sheets of newspaper proved to be ot t fascinating interest. Some charming <= Autumn styles were the result, and should the price of millinery go up c any more, paper hats may he turned r out by the score and readily hnd sale. 1 A" congratulatory telegram, consist- < ing of the first twelve letters of the g alphabet, produced some droll and E quite extraordinary messages. lie- c sides the members of the Club, Arch- r deacon Paclce and the Rev. Drake

were present. ■ The business meeting of the club took place a few weeks ago, when the election of officers was arranged. Miss Eileen Daviesi was made president, .with Miss Green vice-president, and. Misses Iv. Smithsecretary, and Goff re supper.. secretary. The committee comprised Misses MclCinnley, Green and Friar. Hie members of the club are to meet every week and work for funds for the Memorial Wayside-Cross, which is-to be erected in the church grounds for fallen heroes of the_w.ni’. Once a fortnight physical culture lessons will be given by a capable instructoress (Miss Thompson) who is giving her services free. Orders of needle work will be ver v gratefully accepted by the club, and those interested should ring up number 137 and communicate with the president.

CONCERNING HOCKEY AND 4. NEWLY FORMED TEAM. The recently formed ITockev 01 uE j known as “The Huia” held its firs match last Thursday, when they me the popular High ,Sfchool players I The match was evenly contested oi ! the whole. The score resulted ii ! two goals to the School Girls, anc I one to “Hula.” ••• The latter being { i new team, several of the member! hacked practice and were, therefore | n °t in the top of' their form, bni should they turn out regularly, thej . would, no doubt, hold their own with i all comers. There were numerous | interested spectators present, anc there a flutter of excite- ; numt when the first “bully off” took place. The following comprised the ■ “Huia” team:—Mrs 11. U. Burke; Misses Jex-Blake (captain) and Ii • Barker, M. Rees, M. Bull, I. Barry, M. Kennedy, M, Hookey, Sherratt (2) and E." Gaddnm. The “Huia” colors are bloc!; and wbitc, and their ' neat sporting uniforms were much admired by the enthusiasts present, i Miss Ivy Barker scored the goal for the new team, and Miss K. Hei for the High School. Oranges were much appreciated by the players at half time after their strenuous exert cise. The “Huia” club are much to s be congratulated on the success of e | their first match. - j DROLLERIES. f j Sound travels at the rate of 400 fc ; yards per second. Exceptions to the rule: Scandal —1000 yards, j Flattery—soo yards, j j Truth—2l yards. Alarm clock— P STAGE GOSSIB. Miss Irene Vanburgh. the popular and brilliant actress, who has charmed London in it’s many moods and roles. “From grave to gay, from j lively to serene,” lias undertaken to j collect money for the actresses’ bed j in the ward of beds, to be added to the new Hospital for Women, Euston I Road, London. Miss Irene Vanburgh is the sister of another clever actress. Miss Violet Vnnburgh, both being daughters of the late Rev. Prebendary Barns, of Exeter, and j representing with unqualified success the union oi» church and stage. Miss j Irene Vanburgh is the wife of Dion ! Boucicault, the clever and versatile actor, who is the son of the famous dramatist and actor, the late Dion Roucieanlt. New Zealanders will he interested to hear that Ladv Susan Fitz Oar ence, who, with Melba, visited the Dominion last year, has gone on the professional stage, and lias been acting with Cyril Maude's company. She has a charming voice, which was “discovered” byJMelba, by whom, she war time might well appeal to even is a great friend of Lady Susan’s. Captain A. Fitz Clarence. Lady Susan’s husband, was killed in action in 1915. , VALUABLE HINTS. If you don’t want to crack a glass [ dish when pouring anything into it. ;he careful to stand the dish on a j doth wrung out of hot water. To clean currants quickly, place them in an enamelled colander, sprinkle over with n tablespoonful of flour, stand the colander on a pla - ' , and rub the currants lightly about The stalks and soiled flour wd] pass through the holes, leaving the fruit clean. WHAT CAMOUFLAGE COOKERY IS. Camouflage cookery means good vegetable stews with o little meat hidden in the recesses of carrot and turnip, cabbage and onions. There need be no sameness in iho stews; sometimes a. few forcemeat balls can be added to tlie pot, in other case potatoes sliced and browned can form the top layer. You can stuff thin slices of meat and skewer them up, I or you can make a pasty and hide a little mince inside it. There is a great chance now for the woman with plenty of initiative (says a writer in a London paper). - She realised before that her family preferred the same diet year in year out; hot roast joints, cold roast ; joints, fried steaks and chops, floury j puddings with jam and floury pud- | dings with fruit. Now, however. | that conservatism has been swept I aside, she takes a fresh and jntelli- J gent interest in her role, and the re- : suit is that the art of cooking is a } hundredfold more absorbing than it was, and bristles with possible tri- j umphs. HOUSEHOLD HINTS. If tea-leayes are ground they will make twice the amount of tea. Clean a, did] black marble .mantelpiece with a cloth slightly smeared with any good black boot polish. Then polish with a clean duster. When washing lace do not use starch. If some stiffening is needid, dissolve' two lumps of sugar in ivarm water and rinse with this mixture. Wheh storing blankets wrap them n plenty of newspaper and lay slices of yellow soap in the folds. VToths dislike soap and printers’ ink. Rub any kind of stain on a white tablecloth..with a little paraffin before sending it to wash. If this is done die stain ’will come out in theboil■?f you require a. steamed pudding | md the shops are sold out of snet, ust use a good-sized potato, chopped inel, in place of each ’lb of suet, md) the pudding will he as light as inyone can wish. . If a little of the water ,n which •ice has been boiled be added to the •insing water you use when washing vhite silk blouses they will have the sort of stiffness that the silk has vhen new. 'HE INDEPENDENT WOMAN OF . TO-DAY. WHAT THE 0 TRE ’ THINKS OF MATRIMON 1. “So’ you want to know what the nodern girl thinks of matrmiony? aid ai very charming and up-to-date -onno- lady to the writer, as she seatd herself comfortably in an. armchair nd tried to look as serious as po«s',1c “Well, take a seat: ami I]| n iny best to tell you. Of course, _ he continued, “I onlp speak for my--elf; but I can, truly say that I am xpressing the views of almost eveiy •irl I know, and they are not,a tew. ' “In the first place, yen must know

, that the girl of to-day is as far re- 1 moved from th c girl of a generation or f so ago as the poles from each other, j The pretty miss of Victorian times I waited at home for one thing only— J --a great passion which would sweep! her off her feet. She was given t) understand from the day she put her last doll away that woman’s supreme, anJ indeed only, object in life should be to. marry. This was Nature’s design, her parent’s wish and the expectation of her fricndi.3. “The consequence was that in every mail she met she saw a possible husband. The dead wli.Tli haunted her day and night was lest she should he an old maid ; and love, or the expectation of it, coloured her whole existence. Indeed, she had • little j else to think of. She led the most humdrum of lives, largely bounded by the home circle; if she went beyond it she was jealously chaperoned; and, except in very few cases, she had no outside occupations to fill her time i and--thoughts. j /'She know little of the werjp and j less of man, whom she was never al- | lowed to meet on intimate terms uni til she was engaged to him; and the I °dds were, that if she married at all, •she either married the first man who asked her, from that haunting fern l of being left stranded, or she rushed j mto the arms of the man who had j cast a, spell over her innocent and ig- I norant heart. And in both cases she Was as likely as not to make a mess of her life. WISER DAUGHTERS. “Now thc girl of to-dlay is as different from her mother arp). grandmother as ‘cheese from chalk.’ I don’t say that she is better (she probably is nothing of the sort); but she is certainly wiser an<]. more experienced in this respect. “To begin with, her ]if e is altogether different. She no longer stays ! at home, under the shelter of the par- \ ental wing, and sighs for and dreams \ of a husband who is to complete her [ destiny. She knows the world and i men much better than her mother s eye:- did, at least before she was mar- I ried; and she has few illusions about I them. B

“As a young girl she usually irises freely with boys, almost as on e of tl cm selves. She plays the same games, often with them; and she lead! leads the same free, open-air, athletic fife When she grows into you nr/womanhood, she either gees out into tile world to earn her living, or she continues to mix just as freely with the young men as formerly with th" boys. She meets them constantly at her work, or at games, at dances,‘pic|ncs, and so on; and thus gets to Know them, their good points and tlieir had, as well as she knows those of her own sex. . ‘‘And the inevitable result of this intimacy is that she has had no illusions about your sex, and that, when she has to choose a life partner, if •sue makes a had choice it i s not a misfortune so much as her fault. Thus i you see, if the modern girl marries ! she is m an infinitely better position i than her mother ever was to make a I wise and! happy choice. : But/if you think the average mo 1 - : edn girl worries much about mntnmqny you make a great- mistake Natuially, she has an eye to it as a. possh i brJity, even a probability; hut she: spends no sleepless nights over tlm I problem, I assure you. Sh e has toe ' many other things to occupy her j thoughts and time. To the med’ern j woman,marriage is r. 0 longer her! whole existence’; it is rather an I incident which she means to riiake the most of when _ the time comes. bor one thing, in very many cases there is no need to many unless, or until, she pleases; she is mistress ot her fate in this direction. She has no longer to choose between an undesirable husband and a future struggle or dependence. She can keen herself quite well, thank you. and i-eeds no man’s purse to support her emancipation. I here are millions of girls to-day, ade to. earn sufficient to keep themselves in comfort and even to make some provision for old age. who don’t oare a rap whether they marry or not -Large numbers of *hcm, indeed, have no wish whatever to secure a husband unless he is just the one t-bev want; i and they can afford to wait until he turns up. It he dcson’t, thev won’t •spend anytime ;i» weeping.' They can nib along well without him CAN AFFORD TO WAIT.' oti see what, .a difference this , mates As marriage is no- longer necessary to us, as V© can get on quite well without it (and as timegoes on we shall grow more and mm-e ' independent of it), we can turn a cold shoulder to any offers that come our i Way until (if ever) the right* man \ comes on the scene. Thus we are spar- f ed the worst fate that can be fall our 1 sex ' o union without love and respect I mid consequently, a wedded life of | misery; and we cap make sni p that § if we do marry we shall be suitably « and' happily mated. " |

“The modern girl, too. for the most lias no delusions about so-call-ed ‘love.’ She knows that it is often illusory and elusive; and she looks for a more solid foundation on which to build her matrimon'al edifice—the qualities that endure, such as character, a good, heart, a clever head, kindred tastes, and scon She also looks for the subtance instead or chasing the shadow of infatuation, 'file man she chooses must he able to provide a comfortable heme for her. He must be of suitable position and of an -education at least to match her- own. All these are vital to- a successful marriage; and the modern girl of tile type I have in mind—and there are millions of her—wants and means to have no other.

“Her ideal marriage is one, not- of sentiment (though sentiment, if of the right and lasting sort, is to- he desired). but- of true “palship,” in which husband and wife, each recognising that the ether is""human and frail, and ready to make allowance for all shortcomings, are one in sympathy and; aims, and can pull together amiably and helpfully in double harness. \

“Such is the husband' and such the wedded life that we modern girls look for, and; without which we prefer, as we can afford, to keep our freedom You may think us cold-blooded, unromantie, anything you please; butyou must admit that our method sensible, and that it has far greater possibilities of happiness .than that of our mothers and grandmothers, who mostly married because they must, or under the impulse of an infatuation which often proved as evanescent as it was foolish.” —Weekly Telegraph.