REFORMING HIM

Dominion, Volume 16, Issue 53, 25 November 1922, Page 17

REFORMING HIM

There are many girls and women with a zeal for reforming men that amounts to a passion. It is a kind of spiritual pride. Although they consider it to ba a nobler emotion, the truth is that it flatters their vanity to think that they can wield and exercise a predominating influence over, a man and alter the whole course of his life (states a writer in the “Daily Moil”). “I am the only person who can influence Harry,” said a girl to me once of her fiance. She thought it was true, and no doubt he told her it was true, i But I knew ho was easily swayed by many others. Drink was his trouble. And a month after marriage he relapsed. . ! Sometimes it is pity that makes a woman undertake a man’s reformation. She is “so sorry” for him. She foels that there is “so much good” in him, that. most people u don t understand him,” and that it is her “duty” or her “mission” in life to look after him. Well, pity, we know, is akin to love. But tho love that is based upon pity is not a desirable or a durable foundation for/marriage. z In the ultimate result the' utmost that one human being can do for another does not amount to a great deal. And a man must indeed be..a weakling if his character has to doj>end upon someone/els©. Influence may help a Strong man, ‘but’ to, a weak one it is often damnation.