GIRLS MEN DO NOT LIKE.

Auckland Star, Volume XXXIV, Issue 149, 24 June 1903, Page 2 (Supplement)

GIRLS MEN DO NOT LIKE.

A self-opinionated girl is never beloved of men. Not that they object to the opinions exactly, but the ideal woman must be yielding and willing to be instantly converted when her error is shown her. Men object to a cold girl, or one whose manner gives them the impression of coldness —for in nine cases out of ten it is merely a manner. Sometimes it arises simply from shyness, sometimes from a too whole-heart-ed desire to be coy. Coyness is delightful. The masculine heart rejoices in it. What can be more provocative, more charming, than that little half-shy, half-shrinking air? But a cold girl! The most beautiful face ceases to be attractive to the would-be lover when he begins to suspect its owner has little else to bestow.

Men dislike the posing girl, who is always trying to attract attention or enlist sympathy. She seldom gets beyond the pronoun "I," frequently alludes to herself as "poor me," and lives in her own sensations, thoughts and plans. They find her a bore, and would court heart-break rather than boredom. Men—at least the men whose opinions are worth anything—dislike the girl who is the least bit vapid in her mariner or speech. They may talk to her, flirt with her perhaps, but in their heart of hearts they dislike her.

Men are far from fond of the untidy girl. The girl whose buttons are for ever coming off, whose hair is always ill-dressed, and who habitually wears a half-finished air, never finds favour in their sight. A dainty freshness possesses a potent charm for the masculine beholder. It ranks higher than fashion. Men object to the affected girl— the girl who is for ever pretending to be something she is not. Such a. transparent pretence as it is invariably, too that deceives no one. Men object —but why multiply instances? Men like the girl who has sufficient .originality to form opinions, yet is intelligent enough to be convinced against her will: who loves fun, yet does not flirt; who has courage enough to be herself, yet ia never self-assertive; who is gentle, affectionate, and unselfish, and whose outward appearance is an indication of her personal refinement.