WHEN YOU GO A-VISITING.

New Zealand Graphic, Volume XVII, Issue II, 11 July 1896, Page 63

WHEN YOU GO A-VISITING.

If your visit is to be one of several days or weeks you must make your hostess, if she has not been wise enough to state it in her invitation, understand in your answer not only exactly what time you will arrive, but exactly the day and hour when you will leave, and you will show great wisdon if, no matter how much you are enjoying yourself, you refuse to prolong your visit. During your stay you must find everything pleasant that your hostess arranges for you. Ask no special service of a servant. A good hostess will always offer a maid to unpack and pack your boxes, or show you some necessary attention. Thank a servant for any kindness she does for you, and when you are leaving give her, if she has devoted much time to you, as large a tip as yon can afford. Ladies are not expected to tip men servants. You must neither expect nor ask that your laundry be done in the house, and you must take great care not to leave the dainty toilet-table or the pretty room in disorder. I saw a beautiful duchesse table entirely ruined by powder, perfume and alcohol which had been spilled upon it, not to mention the damage done by burns in the lace from the dangerous curling tongs. And this was because a girl was careless and had not been taught, and did not realize that a lady was not a destroying animal. And after you return to your home you should write a letter to the lady you have been visiting, thanking her for all the kindness she has shown you, and sending your regards to the members of her household.