Ladies' Column.

Western Star, Issue 51, 31 October 1874, Page 6

Ladies' Column.

OUR LASSES. Then* is a difficult busaincpS to be attended to. and which if not properly settled' will tend very much to depreciate ah the rest—l mean that mysterious piece-of youthl'u! life which bailie 1 even the wisdom of Sid'Jtnon to understand : the sweethe trting business, or. asdic tenne ! i ; , •* the wav of a man with a mai l.” The choice of a sweetheart is important, and shon! 1 not be hastily ma te r yet it just in this essential matter that » ur lasses "ad most grievously. They are too hnrrie I, and disposed to re-eive the attentions of the first that falls in their way. Such silly leirts are themselves either trifling coquettes, and fond of being, flattered and admired, or afraid less they should, bv-and-lne, be entered on the list of the unmanageable, and have to spend theij’ days in the- single-blessedness of maidenhood. But let me en'reat. our young women neither to be afraid nor rash in this important matter. Look about you, make enquiries. understand fully that you are doing right before taking a decisive step even in courtship, otherwise you may have to sk on the stool of unavailing repentance all your wedded days. Allow me then to set before you & list of wouldbe admirers, the whole of whom you should entirely discard and reject. There is, first, then, that silly, laughing fellow that indulges in ignorant witticism an i senseless banter. He has neither brain nor heart, and will do you no good either before or after marriage.. Reject h to. at once and for ever. The professed dandy that follows the fashions swaggers his gold chain, a smart cane, an i smokes cigars. iiis coxcomb head is inflated like a balloon,, his heart is stuffed with pri le, and bis fairy is too full of self-conceit to love any one sim erely. Discard him ; he is a match onl \ for a giddy butterfly like himself: The-youth that speaks lightly of the Bible and laugh's at religion and religious professors — Ueware! that fellow is infidel at heart, has little character to lose, and will bo reckless of your diameter, virtue, and happiness. Reject his advances, or he may ruin you, laugh at you, an* 'orsake vou at last, or doom you, to a lito of wadded misery. t.i.c profane youth that dares to take the came of God in isin ; that intcr.-pcrses Ins oars; -peeelie- with unli ly oaths and obscene cx previous. or insults veur modesty ip the slightest decree by word or deed. U ? is too. low fm ■rdinary respect, and forever to be avoided uvery female that has any sense, of decency am. irtue, and desires to maintain a character for modesty and respect ability. There is another whom it is well to,avoid —the youth that is sneaking ttr d idle in, his habits, ana ivesaracan, begging, dependant life, and,is udis 'race to his family alid friends. To bo sure, tin cllow wants a thrifty, industrious- wife to main ain him in his inglorious in lependency of state •abour. Slio must he; his elave—not hi* wife ; r-is drudge, to do all for him excepting ehew'jr.g hia food and putting if into his mouth,' for be

can manage that rather agreeable piece of work t°r himself, and is sure to select the most delicious tit-bit for number one. Yet stran»« to say, some- stupid lassie will accept ’the ijcr human animal for a sweetheart, and, in spite of aU trieuJly remonstrance., will, become hi a mi ’, Q{ » r abJe bond-slave for life.. r

The 11 tJlere is the inconstant trifler—hero there, and everywhere ; courting; a dozen time, y et true to none—like butterflies from flower to flower—like birds hopping f.-om bough to bougii never settled,, never sincere, and nev e ?to be trusted.. He is not a. lover, forhe is too fidgetty and unstable to love., He is not even an a uiirer,. for he wants the wholebelles of .the parish to admire himself; vmv agreeable manner,- fair-in exterior, respectable it mav b e in lircumstaneea, and abundant in smiles, be rna y attract and please the eye.. But be sure of this, his attentions are mere flirtations, and his flirtations and his fulsome talk is but emntv sound, for, like a ten shilling watch, ho is bright outside, but untrue and irregular,-id all his movement 8 - And there is stdl another of whom to beware-M the youth of jealous mind. He is a trouble* sorre and even a dangerous character.. He will vex and torme nf ; J ou with his unreasonable suspicions. He will seem as if he had-no con* fidenoe in your inl*o r ity ~as if evei-lasting on the. watch, nf' aid lest you should, speak, look, o* smile to another of the male sex blit his own dealself. To. he free in the company of, another u high treason, and to make him grumble and to he glum pish sour, and sulky, if not outrageously severe in his impertinent remarks regarding your* unfaithfulness and want of affection.. And if so. before marriage, what will he be after ? Depend upon it, you. will then have to be almost like a ntm, shut up and shut out from the ordinary socialities of life, and must keep at home,, see no male friends, on any occasion ; and even then his jealous spirit,, like a green-eyed monster, as Shakespeare calls, it, will imaginesome reason or,- other for, suspecting your in-, tegrity—fonaccusation and quarrel, which would render your-lifo miserable in the extreme,. Have, nothing to do, then, -with green-eyed'jealous-minded lovers, for. “ jealousy,” saith Scripture,, is cruel as the grave.” Now., I have told you what to avoid—suppose I tell: you whom to accept. Here he is then, the one in a thousand —therouth who is sober, moral, intelligent, serious,, industrious, truthful,, and honest as- the day »- resn" tful and respectable, and well-fitted to, mr e - happy home, and be a congenial coinpa oti o a lovely, and loving wife. Such noble you g men. though scarce, are still to be found.. But. mey are not to, be-caught with chaff, norare fhay enamoured with tinsel and show. The genu'r.e article, the true good-tempered metal alone attra-ts their notice and received their attention. They appreciate personal charms, but greatly prefer gem ler.ess, modesty, iutelligcn «v purity, character and neatness, to all other-qualifications.—r-Eschange.

The Empress Eugenie was always a favourite ■. . M with the priests. She Imp lately given £2,000 towards a new Roman Catholic Church nearCorent Garden, whic h is to be ctected byway of expiation for.all the ‘‘outrages” which have been, inflicted on the “ B!osse,d Sacrament" since the Reformation., M>. (I'hislclmrst she has, been embroidering vestment for the clergy and a stool and cushion for the officiating priest. She would not allow a simile stitch to be put in by any other hand than her own.

A itod'ihp 1 ' cricket, msi'ch has been plnyctl i«. Bucks between two elevens. Tlis Nash Isdi'p* in one innings scored" 115. against 86 in theiropponents! two innings. One lady contributed 61 run«i. A cricket match at Brighton, between. Su«rcx and Notts, ended in a decisive victory forSu grX; i •