HAPPY MARRIAGES

Taranaki Daily News, 8 May 1930, Page 17

HAPPY MARRIAGES

NEED FOR TEACHING. s DEAN JULIUS’ ADVICE. k That- young people, before falling in ® love, should be taught what was - meant by the comradeship of married t life, w-as a recommendation made by e- Dean Julius at the annual meeting of a- the Canterbury branch of the Society I, for the Protection of Women and Chila dren. He spoke on the J work of the t society. c Dean Julius said that he was astonJ ished to see the number of cases (789) > which the inspector (Miss E. Cardale) ? had dealt with during the year. It t showed that there was a great deal of ? immorality in the city, and the eases > quoted were probably only half of those r in existence.: ■. .The question of hus--3 bands who deserted their wives had been brought.\ up at the last Diocesan Synod, but it was very difficult to deal with. such men. .Tlie speaker knew of a case where a * husband living away 3 j from home had sbid-the house over hie f I wife’s head. There* should be some law ’ j by. which a • wife have a part ownership in. a house and its furnL 1 ture. The society’s work was to deal with failures, according to the annual ? report. No matter how keen members 3 ' might be to spread their work to deal > | with the sources of such failures, a diff i fusion of aims spelt less .effectiveness. ‘ Dealing with cases of separation, the 1 i Dean .said that it was claimed in. some I ' quarters that the remedy was to make divorce easier, but it was found that r sexual immorality was worse in Ame--1 rica, where divorce was easy, than in Spain) where no divorce was permissible. “I think the remedy lies in getting young, people before they have fallen in love,” continued the Dean. “When they have fallen in lose it is hopeless. (Laughter). They should, when young, . be taught what comradeship in the I ' I ......

married life is. I don’ t know who should teach this, for a wife would not like her husband to know what she has beeh telling the young -people abouthow to treat ihusbands. Single people might be considered to know nothing about the matter. •

I . “When one is young one pictures an i ideal, and then projects that ideal on i to the person with whom he or she ' falls in love. They gel married, and I then disillusionment comes. I think j that it would be a good thing if girls > were taught something of what a man has to face in his work, what worry is, and the effect of suggestion on temper, so that a girl will know what to do when he throws a leg of mutton at her. Half the trouble comes from ignorance of the comradeship of married life. I am not referring to the physical side, though that needs explanation, but I mean the spirit of living together, the spirit of give-and-take. “Parents are in a state of unrest/’ declared the Dean, in speaking on thje subject of children not under proper control. “This uncertainty is caused by the Stale having taken over so many of the parents’ duties, till they are inclined to think that all obligations have been from . them. In some cases school is the place where discipline is taught l ' and home is the I heaven where discipline does not exist, i I have much sympathy with the parents, for they cannot always tell where the State’s duties end and their’s begin. There is also the free spirit of the age, which makes it difficult, with other people’s children having much freedom, for a parent, to discipline a child.”

HEALTH BY SIMPLE MEANS. COLDS AND FIRST AID. If you have the suspicion of a cold, make an old-fashioned treacle posset, go to bed and stay there for twenty-four hours, taking little or no food, but drinking copiously of tepid or cold watbr. To make the treacle posset: Put half a pint of milk into an enamelled saucepan; bring, it to the boil, then mix in two tablespoonsful of treacle, and stir well. Take the saucepan from the fire and let it stand until the posset is cool enough to pour into a glass. There are some things to remember ,in an emergency! In a case of suspected poison, take a tablespoonful of mustard in a eup of warm water.

Simple burns are remedied with borax and a wet bandage; if the skin is blistered, try oil • and a piece of soft flannel.

If a child has convulsions, immerse him immediately in a warm bath and put a cool bandage on his head. When called upon to treat a case of fainting, lay the patient flat on the floor and loosen her clothing. Soak a sprain in hot water; this will considerably reduce the pain and the swelling. If you have to keep glasses and , medicine bottles on a marble wash stand | in the sick room, put a rubber mat ! over the marble. It will do away with I all the rattle of glasses which is disturbing to a patient. To freshen, the atmosphere of the sick room, burn some coffee grounds in an old shovel for a few minutes, and, of course, open wide the window, keeping the patient well covered the while. CORNISH MUFFINS. Mix .together, a pound of flour, two tablespoonsful of baking powder, one teaepoonful each of salt and sugar, and rub in one ounce of butter. Add, gradually, half a pint of warm milk and beat to a light dough. Roll out to half-an-inch thickness, and cut into rounds with a small cutter or an empty tin. Bake the muffins immediately in a very •' hot oven or on a griddle. Split and buttered at once, they are perfect; warmed and eaten the same day, you will still find them preferable to the commercial variety. I RUMANIAN APRICOT DUMPLINGS. I Ingredients; Two slices white bread, ; a little milk, 1 egg, 2 tablespoonsful sugar, self-raising flour as required, 6oz dried apricots. Soak the bread in milk; squeeze out as much of the liquid as possible and put the saturated bread into a bowl, , beating it quite smooth. ‘ Add the egg and sugar, beat for 10 minutes,-then j add sufficient flour to make a soft dough. Roll this dough out as thin, as cloth. 1 Cut circles with a tumbler and place in the centre of each one or two apricots, i which have been soaked, -washed and dried. Gather up the circle, press the ! edges together and roll it in the hands to make it round. i Have water boiling, in a large pot and throw in the apricot dumplings when all are ready. Boil from half to three- . quarters of an hour, drain well, and serve hot, sprinkled plentifully with sugar. i REFUSAL TO EAT. FIND OUT THE REASON. I There is many a young mother, even j in these enlightened days, who worries i if her child refuses his food, imagining j he must be “sickening for something.” j Of course, it may be a symptom of a i real illness, and this possibility should ; not be ignored; but usually some per- i j fectly natural and simple reason will be found for the child’s attitude to- . wards the meal set before him. Here are some of the most common /reasons: The whole scheme of his diet may be so rich that his digestion becomes overworked and, by way of protest, nature takes away the desire for

food. -The same applies in the case of I the little one whose plate is always I heaped with food which he .is expected to finish, The very sight of Tiis “helping” drives away all appetite. Again, a child may refuse food because of the way in which it- is presented to him. He may dislike his meat and vegetables all mixed up together, for instance. In this case, try making his dinner plate look more like your own, but also try to find some way in which you can illustrate the disagreeable side of too much fastidiousness.

Over-anxiety where the child’s food is concerned may cause refusal to eat, ! either because he wishes to attract atj tention to himself and finds this an easy ' way, or because he is of the type the ■ old-fashioned “nannie” called “con- ; trary.” This child requires very carei fill handling, but his food problem can ! usually be solved by using his own ’ weapon against himself—by showing I distinct reluctance to allow a second helping after a very sparse first one has ! been eaten, and so on. Such treatment i will very soon cause him to clamour : for food. “Contrariness” is a sign of , nervous unrest, sometimes following an I infectious illness;- and sometimes rei suiting from the general atmosphere of the home. It is essential to seek the cause and help the child to overcome this attitude it he is to live happily among his fellows.

Refusal to eat certain things may be due to a natural antipathy. If this is the case, a little of the particular foodstuff rubbed into a small scratch will cause the skin to assume an inflamed appearance almost immediately. Instinct, therefore, causes the child to refuse this food.

ORANGES FOR INVALIDS. (By Matha Magnus.) Here are some ways of serving orange juice in a nourishing form: I Orange and egg-white—Squeeze the '•juice of ripe orange Into a tumbler until Lyo.u have half filled the glass; add the • white of a,-new laid egg,, cover the glass, shake until the two are blended, strain, ' and serve) If preferred, the orange and egg may be shaken together in a widemouthed stoppered • bottle? Do not shake ‘ too ' long or the mixture will be foamy. ' Orangh' -drink.—Take one glassful of sweet orange juice, one tablespoonful of pure honey, half a teaspoonful of finely grated orange rind, and the juice of a lemon. Warm (but do not boil) all together gently until the honey has dissolved; strain and let the drink get cold. Half a glassful, with an equal quantity of ! soda water, is delicious. Orange egg flip.—Beat the yoke of a new laid egg with two teaspoonsful eof sugar until light and. thick; add a pinch of salt,..a .-wineglassful of milk, and half a tumbler -of orange juice. Mix thoroughly,; Beat the white of the egg to a froth,* turn the fifst mixture into the beaten .white, and serve in an attractive .gjass with a couple of sponge fingers. , . ■ )