Notes for Women

Otago Daily Times, Issue 19218, 8 July 1924, Page 5

Notes for Women

PERSONAL AND SOCIAL. Mrs A. C. Alatlieson is visiting Invercargill. * * # Mrs Edmond is leaving this week on a visit to Australia. Miss Edith Morrison, of Queen’s drive, Musselburgh, has left for Wellington. Miss Itir.a, Smart, cf Tomuka, is tho guest of Miss .Ella Williams, Pitt street. Miss Jocelyn Sumpter, of Oamanx, has come to Dunedin to train for tho profession of nursing. • * • Madame John stone-Topi i?s, of Wellington, is tho guest cf Mrs W. M‘Gillivray-Cordon, Berkeley House, Koslyn. Miss Dorothy I.aw, who went to Invercargill last week to attend tho Bows-Cbar-ters wedding, returned to town last evening. * * * Mrs F. M. Oldham had a delightful bridge party on Saturday evening at her residence, Stuart street. There were four tables. » ♦ Miss Kathleen Thomson, of Now Plymouth, who has been the guest of Mrs P. 11. Ham, is now staying with her aunt, Mrs 0. J. Ilowison, ih Roslyn. Mrs W. Boyd, of Morning-ton, gave a delightful cabaret party on Saturday evening in honour of Miss Kathleen Thomson, of New Plymouth. * * * Mr and Mrs K. A. Anderson and Miss K. Anderson, of Invercargill, passed through Dunedin at tho end of last week on route for Sydney. They will be away for about two months. « • • Tho Misses Fullerton have returned from Oarnaru, where they spent several weeks with Mrs Darling and Mrs Douglas. The many friends of Miss L. M. Clare. Plunker, nurse, of Balclulha, will be pleased to learn that she is making very favourable progress at Prospect House, where she recently underwent, a serious operation. «» • * Mrs Ibbotson, of St. Clair, gave a delightful bridge party at the Otago Women s Club yesterday afternoon. ’[hose present we re Mesdamos Isaacs, Hutchison, Bough, Johnstone, Coleman. Misses Gilkison and M Hutchison. • * » Mrs Duffy, postmistress of Roslyn, who will leave for (Jrepuki by the express train on Wednesday morning, has been tho recipient of a number of useful and valuable presents, including a gold-mounted fountain pen, from tho Koslyn Telephone Exchange stall', and a flower bowl and sweets dish from tho Roslyn postal staff. * * * On Saturday evening, at her residence in Highgate, Airs Avont gave a children's party in honour of her daughter Sylvia, a eleventh birthday. Autumn flowers, bright balloons, and many candles wore charming decorations, -aim tho children enjoyed themselves in playing games and competitions. Tho hostess was dressed in a rich black gown relieved with white, while Miss Sylvia wore a pretty little frock of pale blue taffeta. Those present were Misses Margaret and Isobol Seelyo, Nancy Bindley. Alarion Crow Lindsav Corbett, Nell Barth, Dorothy Scoullar, Molly and Thelma Stevenson Elizabeth do Beer, Edna Helmkey, and Agnes Neill, Masters Keith Lothian, Graham Lothian, and Stewart Avent. * * • New Zealand can lay claim to many sons and daughters who have accomplished much in various spheres. One of these Miss J imsio V. Fraser, who is fast making a name for herself in the realms of art. Charity has been well served by this Dum edin lady, for many concerts have been organised by her for the bone-tit of those in'need In addition, Miss Fraser is well able lo lake her part in the programmeas a singer, elocutionist, _ cellist, and pinnisto; but it is as an artist that Miss Fraser is best known, for oil paintings from her hand have been on view at the edin Art Society’s exhibitions. Alias Flaser has decided to complete her studies in Lot I’on and on the Continent, and will bo Icwiim verv shortly, touring New Zealand and Australia on "route, ami painting as sbe goes. She will be accompanied by her business manager, Air W. W. (Skipper) Francis. # Airs Walson Fhonnan gave a delightful tea party on Friday afternoon at her resi-de-ice, High street. Tho decorations of coloured loaves and jonquils were most effective. and tho rooms looked very pretty. Airs Shonnun, wearing a gown of plumcoloured morneain. received her guests in the drawing room. Those present were Lady Ferguson. I-ady Williams, Mesdames Glendining, M--.ca.ssev, Stock. Ni.sbeC G. Roberts. J. Roberts, Barron. Napier, Douglas Ramsav, Gallawav, Keith Ramsay, JLlev <’ Chapman, Fitchetf. C. Rattray, Cook,’ Edmond, Callan, Hart, Haggitt, AFLean. and Garth Gallawav, Misses Cutten Cargill, Morris, Hart. Ramsay. Webster (21 ’Rattray (2). Roberts, Glendming, Hnggitt, Edmond. Williams, C. Williams, Laidlaw Al'Korrow, and others. * * * On Thursday evening last a delightful fancy dross donoo was Riven bv Mr and Airs F J Williams at their homo in Pitt street ’in honour of Mi s Rita Smart, of ’lenuika.. Dancing took place in the bdliard room, width was gaily decorated with streamers of blink ami (angennp,.and with Chinese Drlorns. The supper room looked very pretty with a colour scheme of la vender an<l pale green, while a largo doll daintily dressed in these two colours _ was placed among small paper ladies holding confetti Coloured balloons and bright streamers carried bv the guests added fresh colour to (he’ scene. The guests rre«ent were Air and Air Hammer, Alias Williams (F-stern lady) Miss Smart (gipsv). Miss Walker (I'Vyptian ladv). Miss King (Gulch ffirl). Evolve King (harlequin), Aliss Anderson (Greet an In.!-), Miss Hudson (?”oloh lassie) Miss Blvth (pierrettc). Aiks I/me (Spanish ladv). ' Miss Buss (night). Miss Cameron fpiermt), Nliss Afnllor (French artist) t' : ss Wat'-mi (pierrot), and A*iss MTCay (Chinese lu.lv), Messrs Lavender. TCii.« ‘ Ilnrdie. Walker. Austin, Read, E. Bedd’y. D. Blvth. Felton, Carter, Garden, Hawcr’idge, and Watson (2). WEDDINGS. A pretlv wedding took place in St. John’s Anglican Church. Invercargill, on Wednesday hist, when Aliss Hyacinth Bows, daughter of Air and Airs J. E, Bows. ‘‘Warena.’’ Invcr-argill, was married to Air Robert' Gordon Charters, only son of Air and Mrs R S. Charters, of “Greenvalc,” Waikaia. The bride, who was given away tiv her father, wore a fmek of ivorv crepe henriette. with touches of palest pink and blue rosebuds, her veil forming a train was of pale blue ninoii with blue rosebuds and orange blossoms. Tile bridesmaid was \ij !w Neva Bews. v-ho wo-e an apnlo green moro-ain fmek vvilli touches of silver and lace, and a black hat with velvet streamers completed a charming toilet. Air W’. R. j!en was best man. .After the ceremony | j-e Southland ’rimes) (he guests were en'ertainod at (Lo home of the bride’s parents. The bride’s mother received the f-nests in a gown of beaded crcpp-de-ehine with black online velvet bat and black osprevs. The usual toasts were honoured. ■| rooms were prettily decorated with heliotrope .and green streamers, and the tables were arranged with chrysanthemums (o tone ’I'll" guests included the Rev. and Mrs J. A. I.m-.b, Mr R. M. Charters. AGs I S A'iller. Mi-s Bedford. Mr and Mr-; If, B. ’ Farnall. Air A. Christophers, Air aiid Mrs O. G. Christophers. Alisses I.aw (Dunedin'. Haiti. Snow, Aiding Oliver. Mfc-o's Wc It. ilea, 11. O Williams, .and p; II ATilLr When the happy pair left, bv car tor the I nkes. Airs Che Hers travelled ni i( coat frock of brown figured velour bat In torii' and silver fox furs, (ho gift of the bridegroom, * * * The wedding was celebrated at S( Peter's flvnreb, Caversbam. by the Rev. G. N. Tnron Thursday last, of Aliss Bessie Alullignn’, eldest daughter of Air and Airs F. Mulligan, of Kmiru Hill, Oarnaru. to Mr FdwaH Thompson, eldest son of Air and Mrs E. Thompson, of Arrowtown. 'Hie bridesmaid was Miss Pearl Grant (Arrowtown), while Mr Lewis Jcnkips (Dunedin) acted as best man.

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HOME ECONOMICS ASSOCIATION. The interest that, is being taken in the question of child training is evinced in the requests for books on the subject. A list of interesting and very readable books is appended :—“Child Psychology,” “Tie Dawn of Life,” “Five Years Old, ’ by Margaret Drummond; “Child Psychology/’ throe volumes, by Rasmussen; “Training of Parents,” by Abbott; “The New Psychology and the Parent,” by Crichton Millar; “The Child under Eight,” E. It. Murray; “The Mind of the Naughty Child,” bv Mrs Hartley; “Father and Son,” by Edmund Gosse; “Talks to Teachers. by William James; “Child. Study,” by CL H. Dix. THE MIND OF THE NAUGHTY CHILD. “The fate of every child is decided in the nursery. The child at. a very early ago has to become an actor. So many parents, and especially good parents, expect too much from their children, and judge them too frequently by a grown-up standard, quite wrong for their stage of growth. They expect them to bo too clean, too quiet, too obedient. This causes very often a continuous and most harmful nervous strain from the child pretending to bo what you want and think lie ought to be. He tries, at. a cost you do not easily understand, to like what you think he ought to like. It has filled me often with wonder and admiration to see the really brilliant way in which even the youngest children play up to the good-child part forced upon them by grown-ups. Much naughtiness and man}' violent unexplained tempers are really a breakdown in this part. The right cue is forgotten at the right moment, or the correct entrance is missed, and I feel it very necessary to urge upon every, parent to remember the very simple truth . that their child is a. child, and never ought to be expected, or indeed, allowed to have controlled emotions, and to act in the regulated way right for the adult. It is hero, as I suggested before, tliat the careless loving parent lias advantages from the child’s point of view. The over-conscientious, overgood mother so often demands too much, and by so doing frequently does harm to the child, which afterwards never can bo undone. “Enough has now been said. I have been dealing wilh the faults of the naughty child in sections; with boastfulness, with sulkiness, with destructiveness, with curiosity, with thieving, and with lying, one after the other. Wo have. I trust, learnt many new things which will fit us more competently to guide onr children, so that, we may help and not hinder them too much in the difficult task of growing up. “I think we may summarise certain important principles which have constantly boon .on'i'ativo —always I have tried to find a reason. Why? To discover what is causing the child to act in the way ho does. T have refused to regard my childish naughtiness as being possible to euro by scoldings, by punishments, or indeed by any kind of direct attack. The fault which distresses the parent must bo regarded as the sign of a hidden conflict that distresses the child. It is this conflict then that must bo discovered and dealt with. Never in any case can the kizv adult view bo accepted that the child does wrong because of original sin. The child docs wrong because lie suffers, usually through the blunders of those who are supposed to train him. His faults in behaviour are a relief for pain lie finds too intolerable to bear. If a child is happy, in harmony with his world, loved and loving, then the child is good, ddio influences that i nconsoiously ''affect children aro everything. Their eyes and ears aro ever open; they are eager for favours, for love, for praise, for someone or something to gratify (heir desires. And another truth follows from this. The spontaneous reception given to the general actions of children is far more important t!ian what is said to them about any particular fault. It is (bo things that you do every day unconsciously : the thoughts that you have, and the things you feel ; or all that perhaps you are trying to hide from your children, and also covering away from yourself, that are the real directing forces in their characters. Thus, this duty appears for all parents, and may not bo neglected “To train our children wo have unceasingly to train ourselves. Moral conduct is never easy. Wo all want what we do want. W r e surrender our wishes only Ixkjhiso wo find that we satisfy other desires by so doing. Wo are praised and rewarded for preferring to give up to others what wo want ourselves. And a practical lesson in cur training of children depends upon this. The parents must take the greatest passible care that bad conduct does not give children greater pleasure than good conduct. If children arc left unnoticed when good they quickly fool neglected, and if allowed to enjoy power when they are naughty, through the sorrow of the parents and the upsetting of tho nursery regime, they will continue to ho naughty whenever they are bored or for aii" reason crave some emotional relief. “One final word of advice. No parent ran hope to accomplish too much. Children have to be naughty. Wo do not. expect tho child to read until it has learnt its letters or (o calculate and work sums before it understands the use of figures: we do not. exneet it, to walk until it has stumbled and fallen manv times, er to use its tiny hands with nrerh-mn until it has broken many objects. Why. then, should we expect it to be good without learning to be good? Parents by constantly requiring from the child standards of conduct right for the adult, produce a strain which not only hurts, discourages, and irritates the child, but mav turn the creative force of tho young lifo back upon it--clf.”—Mrs Hartley. JOTTINGS. A string bag so fine that it will go into a small pocket or even in an ordinary pochette is a splendid idea for those who would somel lines combine shopping and pleasure. Til! it is needed the shopping bag remains tucked away. When it comes into use it is surprising how capacious and how strong such a lino mesh can be. * • • The cosy fireside, which is such a joy to us in winter, is bereft of some of its charm if tho fire irons look dull or rusty. If the rust is merely superficial—-for instance. if it is the result, of a little water recently spilt from the kettle —it can be removed immediately .with a woollen cloth soaked in linseed oil. Put if the rust is of longer duration it must- ho removed bv first applying turpentine and then rubbing with the linseed oil. * * * Lace curtains that are torn and shabby beyond ordinary mending may bo given a good appearance in the following way: After washing, drying, and starching in <ho usual wav, thov should be laid out, ready for ironing. Then take a small piece of curtain net, as near iho pattern as possible, and iron it on to the curtain while both curtain and patch arc clamp. It will adhere quite firmly, and when the curtains are hanging at the window tho repair is almost invisible. • * • In some rooms there is so much draught coming through Iho floor when the wind is in 'll certain direction that it will raise a thin carpet. To remedy this state of affairs mix lib of flour gradually with threequarters of a gallon of water. Ibis will he three quarts. Add a (ablespoonfitl of around alum, and boil to a paste. While the mixture is still hot, steep in enough sbredoed newspapers to form a puttv-liko substance, then force it into all cracks of the floor and skirling with an old blunt knife. Tho mixture will harden like papier mache. and seal the apertures so closely (hat all draughts will bo qxchulod. When covering button moulds with silk or any line materia! line this with flannel, q he buttons will look nicer, and they will wear much longer. \\ hen bullous have been torn off and holes have been left in the garment repair tho damage' in this way: —From a discarded garment, remove a button, cutting round it so widely so that you have a piece of material larger than the hole von wish to repair. Rush (he button through the hoU from the hack, and the attached souare of material will form a pateh on the under side. Fell (bis down all round, and cal el i down the torn edges of the hole. Buttonholes which have to stand strain may bo made stronger bv outlining with a row of machine spelling Ijefore. they arc cut and worked. • • • Few things are more dangerous to health than a neglected sink. Every sink should ho supplied with plenty of hot running water, and after each dish washing should bo thoroughly cleansed. If of porcelain or

earthenware (both preferable to zinc sink-' paraffin oil should bo applied sparingly with a cloth, and then flush the sink down with hot water. To ensure cleanliness in tho waste water pipe, pour down a gallon of really boiling water, follow (his. in a minute s time, with half a o-ill of paraffin and, after a minute or two, pour down more hot water. This removes all hard grease apcl soap deposits in tho pipe, and should bo done onco a week. AFTER THE PARTY. In these days of relaxed conventions, not many people pay (he formal call after being entertained, which was onco as usual as the written acceptance beforehand. Hut because formalities have waned wo should not forget our manners. Young girls specially need to be reminded that they must not take their kind hostesses v for granted. Giving a dance or a party is hard work, even if it is also huge fun. Guests can show their appreciation of this fact in many graceful little ways, a gift of flowers, a note oven a sentence over tho telephone, may convey gratitude for a happy lime quite satisfactory. Or a few girls may go together to thank their hostess. If they do not know her very well, they must trust, to rightlychosen words to express their appreciation. If she is an old friend, tho chances are that she will be hugged around tho neck. Rut whatever you do, don’t take your good lime and go away am! behave exactly as if you had forgotten it.—World’s News. PUTTING AWAY YOUR HAT. Even in the cleanest and most perfectly kept house dust is always descending. You cannot see it, but its effect will bo seen on your hats Velvet will look rubbed and worn, glossy straw will appear dull, pretty colours will ho dimmed. If girls would put their hats away at night wo should see less dingy millinery on young heads. Always brush your hat before putting it away. Use an ordinary hat brush for velvet and similar materials. Straw hats should be “brushed” with a velvet pad. It is well worth ycur while to stuff the crown of the hat with tissue paper, especially if you think you may not bo wearing it for a day or two. Before putting away furs beat them with a light, cane and brush them. Tree your shoes directly you take them off. If the bools and soles are muddy wash them; mud left on is very detrimental to shoes. A woman who is always perfectly shod adds (o this advice: “And always clean your shoes yourself.” A really satisfactory appearance is very largely tho result of taking pains and making a habit of carefulness.—Daily Chronicle. THE UP-TO-DATE DRESSING TABLE. The np-to-dale scent bottle is made lo represent an animal, bird, of quaint figure; there is a distinct charm about the figure phials for holding perfume, of which the cork forms the head. This is the design of a French artist who has also conceived n.u original toilet set .moulded in the form of a village. Each bottle for lotion or perfume is a miniature bouse, tree, school, or shop, verny quaintly portrayed. Among other new desig’-s in scent, bottles is one modelled in the form of the famous Sphinx in “alabaster” glass. Perfume burners are also made in the shape of figures. One of the prettiest burners is a small alabaster bowl set on a tripod. Scented candles are sometimes used on Iho dressing table. A now jewel box, quaintly and charming unique in design is covered with Chinese embroidery, and has iade rings on the top and sides. Fashionable hand rnirrows have x T ery short handles. Another novelty' is a mothrr-o’-pcarl nail polisher which opens to reveal a manicure case, fitted with scissors, orange sticks, and paste and powder boxes. A small flat round box from which hang three tassels, show? a new design for a vanity case. The powder and puff are in tho bos. and each tassel conceals a lip s<ick or salve. A little powder box. made of silver tissue, and mounted with ostrich fearth feathers strands, is a dainty trifle for evening use. —World’s News.