The Home.

Lake Wakatip Mail, Issue 2279, 22 September 1899, Page 6

The Home.

The Rejected Lover.

The Cultivation of Daintiness.

A mistake is often made by mothers and nurses in consulting children too much wit'h regard to food. How often one hears a something like this : " Isn't mother's little To;lie hungry ? Can't she eat her nice dinner ? No ? Then what will she have ? Tot tie probably chooses the most unwholesome viands possible for one of her tender years, and later mi pays for her daintiness in refusing what was wholesome and good for her by pains of indigestion, whk'h make her cross and troublesome both to herself and other people. Now, would it not be much wiser as a rule to decide what is good for the little folks to eat. and not consult them at all in the matter ? A well-brought-up child with an ordinary healthy appetite eats what is set before it without desiring those viands which are on the ta'ble for the benefit of its elders, but which are unsuitable for it. Little children don't know what is good for them, and therefore it is unwise to consult them, and for the sake of peace ami quietness at meal times it should be an understood thing that what is put before them is to be eaten without demur. Of course, some children have strong aversions to particular kinds of food, and those they should not be forced to take. Many men and women are almost* slaves to their dainty appetites. They can't eat this, and they don't like that, tlill one wonders how they would fare if they were forced to live less sumptuously than they do now. They are not greedy, only absurdly fastidious, and all because in childhood they were allowed to encourage all their little whims and fancies. Talking of the food on the table ought always to be put down by mother or nurse. It encourages either greediness or daintiness, and. I think, particularly the latter. Children are like sheep in following one another, and if one objects to any particular sort of diet, he has only to say so a few times, and all the rest will object to it also.—" Home Notes."

The rejected lover (says one who has "gone through the mill") should not propose again too sunn. That will only annoy the object of his devotion, who does not like having to give pain again, and lias not had rime to change her mind. He should remain in an attitude of respectful Sorrow, letting her see by implieation that his hear! is broken and his life ruined, and gratefully accenting the position oT friend winch she is quite certain to offer him : she always wants :to I>p cither his friend or his sister when she won't he his wife. That only shows that she can't bear to lose him altogether. By-and-by. when confidential terms are established, and sbe has grown to feel it would be difficult to get on without his friendship. let him begin cautiously paying a little attention to some other girl. He must be as brotherly to herself as before. Then, when he has worked up her feelings to the proper pitch, let him gently say :—" Of course. Annie, if there were even the very faintest hope rhat you could ever, in no matter how long a time, get to care for me " And ten to one he will be lookliug at engagement rings that evening. What Is It? It is difficult to say what it is that enchants a young man's fancy, what par ticrnlar attraction, what " touch of hand. turn of head." because the observer is always more or less surprised that such feeble charms should effect such large results. One would say that it cannot be invariably beauty that decides—as if beauty had not as many definitions as religion or love—or there would be no lovely spinsters : it cannot be intellect, or we should meet no inane married women : it cannot always be amiability, or we should see no vixens presiding over households : no social position, or there would be no mesalliances ; nor money, or all the penniless maidens would be left to single blessedness. Ir must be some indefinable charm, some tone of the voice, some glance of the eye. some curve of the cheek, some tint of the skin that works the miracle.