WHY SOME MEN REPENT OF HAVING MARRIED.

Lake Wakatip Mail, Issue 2169, 13 August 1897, Page 3

WHY SOME MEN REPENT OF HAVING MARRIED.

EST HETTY WING. Because their wives dislike their bachelor friends, and are foolish enough to show it openly. Why a woman should ever feel jealous of her husband's male friends it is quite impossible for any human being to say, but the fact that she does is as patent as it is pitiable. Why resent the fact that your husband had a friend before he married you? One would think you would want to be kind to the man who was a sharer of your husband's affections before you appeared on the scene. Let me tell any young wife that in is not only unjust to want to cut off your husband's early friendships—it is tiie most foolish thing you can do. Some men are Induced to repent of having married because their wives interfere with all their innocent pleasures. They want them to give up smoking; they resent their belonging to a club; they think tbev should drop all interest in politics, and "stupid things of that sort." When a wife and a man's pleasures and amusements become rivals, a man may submit for a time, but sooner or later the reaction comes, and that wife has put her influence in peril. Sometimes a man regrets having married because his wife was so much nicer before she took his name. When a girl who has been charming, gentle, docile, and affectionate during the time of courtship and engagement suddenly turns round after marriage and grow* ill-tempered, peevish, self-willed, and indifferent to her husband's tastes and wishes, then, indeed, his disposition must be that of an archangel if he does not think the days of bachelorhood wore best, after all. He is als« rather inclined to that opinion when the girl he has married ceases to be neat and tidy in her dresft and appearance, and shows him pretty plainly that she doesn't think him worth making herself, attractive for, but that outsiders are entitled to all her pretty dressing. When be remembers how she used to study his tastes, and wear all his favorite colors, before he had the right to pay for her frocks, he contrasts the present state of affairs with the past, and it is an even chance if he does not think the past best. A man often repents of having married if his wife makes him less comfortable than l»is landlady did. When the food is badly cooked, and worse served, and a long course of cold mutton has had triumphant sway: when the misdemeanors of servants are the chief theme to which he is treated, then the happy days of bachelorhood are apt to shine with an effulgence which only a tenderly, regretful memory can impart. When buttons are conspicuous by their absence, and collars are fraying round the edge, without any notice being taken in a quarter where notice would be at once gratifying and effectual, then the husband wonders what idiot it was who first wrote of. i the joys of the married state. A husband is tempted to repent when the wife, who should be his helpmeet and his right-hand ill all the affairs of life, wastes his hard-earned money, instead of saving it : when she contends with vehemence that she must have a now frock, although she knows well enough that business is as bad as it can bo; when she will have something they haven't the least right to indulge in, simply because the Smiths have it, and she doesn't intend to be outdone by any of her neighbors—then a man groans in spirit, and wishes in his heart of hearts that he had never said "I will" at the altar.

When a wile snubs her husband in public, as some women, alas! ha.ve beeu known to do; when she treats his opinions with conteinptaud derides Bis statements, and openly expresses doubt of ids best stories; then—for each and all of these inhuman acts are sometimes performed by the woman who has vowed to love, honor and obey him—then the heart of her husband does not rejoice in her, but inclines to the other thing. Then does ho say to the friend of his bachelor days—if she has left him one :

"Don't yon go and make any mistake, old chap. Keep as you are, and you will never repent it."—"Answers."