Effects of divorce on children

Press, 25 September 1980, Page 16

Effects of divorce on children

Sir, — Your article (September 23) makes sobering reading. It clearly indicates that New Zealand laws relating to custody and access are out of step with public attitudes. Common sense would say that the loved child of two parents should be able to spend equal time with each parent, i.e., joint, custody, which may take* many forms and variations according to circumstances. Why should a judge beforced to decide which parent should have custody? Joint custody should be the rule rather than the exception, and the bitterness of custodial battles avoided. Social workers: should routinely be involved with these children, promoting contacts with both parents during the crucial “transition period” and beyond. Difficulties with conflicting loyalties must be handled carefully to try and avoid later behaviour and psychiatric problems. We live in a so-called “civilised” community; let iis have civilised matrimonial laws. And let the children’s interests be truly paramount. — Yours, etc.,

DR E. G. SIMPSON. September 23, 1980.

Sir, — Research on the effect of divorce upon children also indicates that their adjustment depends on the adjustment their parents make. When this is positive and good, the children are able to cope; when parents do not adjust the children are more likely to show psychological problems. Divorce is one of the most severe stresses people can suffer. It is important that the community accepts that professional help .is available at this time and that there is no stigma in seeking it. This is a positive way that separating parents’ can reduce the stress for themselves and their children. — Yours, etc.,

ADRIEN V. GORDON, Clinical psychologist.

September 23, 1980.