MEN FAIL AS LOVERS.

New Zealand Graphic, Volume XVIII, Issue III, 16 January 1897, Page 60

MEN FAIL AS LOVERS.

‘ IT is a question with me,’ writes Lilian Bell in the Ladies' Home Journal, ‘ whether a woman ever knows all the joys of love-making who has one of those dumb, silent husbands who doubtless adores her but is able to express it only in deeds. It requires an act of the will to remember that his getting down town at 7 o’clock every morning is all done for you, when he hasn’t been able to tell you in words that he loves you. It is hard to get a letter telling about the weather and how busy he is, when the same amount of space saying that he got to thinking about you yesterday, when he saw a girl on the street who looked like you, only she didn’t carry herself as well as you, and that he loves you. good-bye—-would have fairly made your heart turn over with jov, and made you kiss the hurried lines and thrust the letter in your belt, where you could crackle it now and then just to make sure it was there. Nearly all nice men make good lovers in deeds. A great many fail at some important crisis in the handling of words. ‘ But the last test of all, and, to my mind, the greatest is in the use of words as a balm. Few people, be they men or women, be they only friends, lovers or married, can help occasionally hurting each other’s feelings. Accidents are continually happening even when people are good tempered. And for quick or evil tempered ones there is but one remedy -the handsome, honest apology. The most perfect lover is the one who best understands how and when to apologise.’