VANITY FAIR

Wanganui Chronicle, Volume 74, Issue 109, 11 May 1931, Page 2

VANITY FAIR

BE TOLERANT. Try to distinguish between the various ways in whi ch people disappoint you, and this will help you not to expect too much. Some people fail in loyalty simply because they have not the same sense of honour, the same sterling character as you have yourself. It is not their fault; they arc capable of so much honour and no more, and it is up to you to now someone very well before you lest their loyally and fidelity. 1 once had such a friend, intensely intelligent \nd inspiring, who, 1 considered, let me down unforgivably, remarks the writer. Then I realised that 1 had trusted her intelligence, which was surprisingly good, and blinded by it had not seen her very obvious weaknesses of character. I3ul more people, 1 think, fail more in intelligence than even in loyalty. There, again, they are giving you as much as they can. If they cannot reach up to your leve lof thought, do not blame them. Come back a Hide way and wait for them, or reserve your thoughts for some one who will really jump with you. Be tolerant. Do not expect perfection, because it is unlikely that you can give it. Try to keep your demands on people fairly well pigeon-holed in your mind, and then you wont make the mistake of expecting faithfulness from the brilliant, unscrupulous friend, or intelligent understanding from the stolid, completely faithful one. And do try, when people disappoint you, not to accuse them of having let you down, when all that really let you down was your own visionary idea of them.