Fashions and Furbelows

Star (Christchurch), Issue 17035, 8 May 1923, Page 4

Fashions and Furbelows

Notes b\> Special Contributors

WOMAN’S LIFE

SOME GOLDEN RULES. Just be simply and happily yourself. You have a personality, an aura, a temperament inalienably your own. Do not distort them bv efforts to copy others.

Be kind and helpful to everyone you meet—especially the “lame dogs.' “ She was always kind and gracious,” would be the most wonderful epitaph anyone could earn. Keep yourself young and simple by taking delight in common things. Look upon yourself, not as twenty, thirty or forty years old. but as just coining to the prime of life. Avoid worry. Do not meet trouble, nor cross bridges until you come to them. “ Of all the troubles of my life, three-quarters never happened,” said a Japanese sage. Qjioose your friends wisely and with care. Keep them with, greater care. Select your husband with infinite more Suffer fools •gladly and answer them according to- their iollv. Never quarrel with anyone. Try tosec other people’s point of view even when they are'most tiresome. It's always just possible they may have one. Cultivate toleration. Remember you have faults of your own. Think how hateful people would be if they had no faults at all. Maintain your independence. Do not allow yourself to be a parasite on anyone el'se’s time, brains or energy. Be mentally self-sufficient and selfsupporting. Then only can you help others who are in need Cultivate your sense of proportion. Grasp your opportunities. There will always be good hick and bad luck, just as there will always be poverty and crime and suffering. But Luck can be wooed and won by recognising the working of cause and effect. Cultivate a sense of humour, but distinguish between humour and horseplay. Avoid vice. Also excessive virtue. Strive to know yourself. It is much harder than you think, but on the knowledge depends your peace and real success in life. Bo self-controlled. Be temperate in thought and word, as well as in deed. Rejoice that there are people with different views from your own. Think what a dull world it would be if we all thought alike! Never dwell upon a failure or look back with regret. Our failures are our stepping-stones by which wc climb to the -stars. SERA RHINE.

ON CHOOSING A HOME

He who sets out to buy a picture cun usually give, with certain reservations, a. clear idea oi : what- be wants, and. if he refuses a canvas which might reasonably have been expected to satisfy his requirements, is generally able to explain the cause of his distaste. The house-seeker, on the otfcer hand, when offered a home that seems to fulfil all his preliminary demands, will often inspect it almost

THE LATE MRS A. GUNDERSON.

The funeral ot the late Mrs Anita Gunderson, who died on Friday, took place. at the Limvood Cemetery yesterday morning. Many friends ot the deceased lady attended. The Rov F. X. Taylor, vicar of St Luke’s, read the burial service at the graveside. The chief mourners were Mr J. Gunderson, son. and Messrs John and Frank Ban field, brothers. A number of the deceased lady’s nephews were also present. The pall-bearers were Messrs A. L Cropp. E. -Boulton. J. flalliu, S Bushed. H. Banneld and G. B anti eld. A large number of beautiful wreaths adorned the hearse. Wreaths were re ccived from the officers and itafi' of the New Zealand Refrigerating Company, girls ot the New Zealand Refrigerating Company, Mr and Mrs Soanes, Mr and Mrs Gentles. Signor Antonio Xofcari ello. Dr and Miss Marks, Mr Edgar. Mrs Kirk, Mrs K. Roberts. Messrs R. and G. Bnnfield and family, nephews. Mr and Mrs A. L. Cropp. Mr S. Qropp. Mr W. Kirk. H. and S. Stewart. D Thompson. Mr and Mrs Gerald Morri son. Molly and Kit. Mr and Mrs O. $ Burt. Mi' and Mrs T. J. Edmonds. M. and Mrs Hazell, Mrs Bushell and Cyril, Mr and Mr# Lloyd. Rubino and family, Mr and Mrs Arnold Soanes. Jack Soanes, Mr and Mrs F. Tattle. Reg and Margery, Ballin family. Crown Brew ery Company. Mr and Mrs Blakeley am! nephew. Mr and Mrs Claude Lewis. Mr and Mrs H. Burt. Mr and Mrs W. Wil liams. Mr and Mrs Graveston and family. Mr and Mrs Fowler. Mr and Mr.? F. Ban field.

against his wijl, knowing, as he enters it. that he can never live i n tins place, but unable to find words with which to excuse his caprice. A picture and a friend change also ; each seems to reflect our mood ; but neither is so intimate, so much a part of our veiv being, as the house which witnesses the coming and the passing of dreams, and hears, as no man may hear, our innermost secrets. In it the past endures and the future shall reveal itself. ff we imagine happiness we imagine it in tins room, by this fireside, in the light of \< nder window. Here our plans arc made, our work "s clone. Here sounds the football of those, who bring good and evil things. And when we choose a house we do more than make a choice of beauty, convenience, or comfort : we accept an ever-present- influence which shall colour our lives and leave its mark upon all that we create. Ts it possible, in these circumstances, to establish, even within our own minds, the principles of our choice, as we may set up a recognisable standard of aesthetic judgment?

REMOVAL OF GREASE SPOTS.

Grease spots, foes of a well-groomed appearance, are routed mo3t effectually if attacked very soon after appearingIf allowed to remain, dust and foreign matter will collect and increase the difficulty of removal. There are three ways of ousting the grease spot : by laundering, which emulsifies the grease : bv absorbing in dry substances such as powdered magnesia and French chalk; and using the * * dry-cleaning chemi- ! cals such as gasoline, benzol, naptha, i ether, chloroform and carbon ietra i chloride. CAREFUL LAUNDERING. Laundering is possible 011 cottons, white or washable silks and woollens and should be done in a solution of a good neutral soap and warm water. A lew drops of ammonia in the water will be of advantage. Never use very hot water or rub soap on wool or silk as 1 this yellows the material, causes shrinkage of wool and makes silk tender. Work the garment in the warm soapy solution, having special care for the spot. "Where it is not practical to launder the material and the grease stain is fresh, it may he absorbed by powdered magnesia or French chalk. The material should be laid on a fiat surface and a generous layer of powdered magnesia or French chalk dusted completely over the spat. Work the powder gently into the fibre arid as soon as it becomes gummy shake it off and apply a second coating of fresh powder. If the stain is stubborn let. it powder. This treatment should remove all the grease. When the spot has disappeared, shake out all the powder and brush lightly but thoroughly. DR V-CLFA NIXG C HEMICALS. Where the spots have accumulated dust, they will be removed more readily by the dry-cleaning chemicals. Tht* correct way is to place clean, soft folds of cloth or blotting paper on a flat surface to act as a pad for absorbing the grease and dirt as the chemical works on them. Change the pad as it becomes soiled. Lay the material face side down and spongp the reverse side with the chemical. Do not rub with a heavy or circular motion, a? this tends to spread the spot, causing “ rings."' Rub just one way of the material with a firm touch, using the chemical freely. If the spots are not removed by this treatment, dip them into the chemical and brush gently with a small brush, which will loosen any insoluble particles in the material Then go over the area with fresh chemical. Gasoline and naphtha are readily obtainable, but are objectionable because of the odour they leave in a fabric. Benzol is expensive and is inflammable, but its odour passes away rapidly. In using any of these chemicals precautions against fire must he exercised. Chloroform and carbon tetrachloride are non-inflammable. It is not easy for the housewife to obtain carbon tetrachloride under its chemical name, hut it is present as an ingredient of the advertised “ non-in-flammable ’’ cleaning chemicals under various trade names. They are excellent solvents, are not expensive, arc safe and therefore most practical.

VALUE OF TACT IN THE HOME.

LUBRICANT WHICH OILS DOMES TIC WHEELS. (By A MARRIED WOMAN.) A woman may have all the virtues under the sun, and yet, if lacking in tact, be found unsatisfactory as a wife. Of all the gifts dealt out to mortals by the fairy godmothers who attend their christenings, perhaps the most important of all for a woman to secure is tact. In the home life a woman's tact is the lubricant which oils the wheels ano keeps the machinery working harmoniously. without strain or discordant note. I ? ps and downs wil! no doubt come to upset the smooth tenor of her married life, but these little rifts are only natural, for, after all, the ideal wife to lie perfect must be human as well as tactful. The little rifts will not remain open long, and tact will play as big a part in their repair as love. We have recently been told that happy women make the best wives, but whnt exactly constitutes a really happv woman? I# it not one who in forget fulness of self achieves the essence of a-loving tact, enabling her to gloss over all discordant vibrations arising from the friction of opposing wills, or cajole and beguile obstinacy, without its knowledge, into a smiling compliance? The understanding, tactful wife who knows just when to speak, and when to hold her tongue, how to deal with her husband’s little weaknesses without condemning, possesses also the art of bridging over successfully the innumerable difficulties that arise in any household. She converts chaos into settled order, at the same time finding and giving happiness, for a happy wife makes a happy husband. Tact to a woman, whether dealing with husband, children, household affairs or other women, i* as diplomacy to a politician—the magic carpet which carries her safely through all the pitfalls of married life.