LADIES' COLUMN.

Timaru Herald, Volume XIIC, Issue 13904, 15 May 1909, Page 2 (Supplement)

LADIES' COLUMN.

Social Doings for the Week. (By Chcllie,). Miss Burt returned to 'Diinedin on -Monday. Mrs. Wilkin and her two sons loft for Wellington yesterday.

Miss D.--Strachey-left on Wednesday for Cliristchiireh. Miss Urine is visiting Timaru. and is staying with .Mrs. .Miles, Wni-iti' .Road.

Mrs Sfcubbs and Miss Cutueld (North Canterbury), are staying at Sefton House. .

Mr and; Mrs Lonarga'n left on Tliurs-. day for Chri'stehurc'h, where they intend to reside.

Miss Kipponhergor, Christchurch, is staying with her sister, Mrs (Dr.) Patterson, Pleasant Point.

Miss Maud Anderson, of Rangiora, was the guest of Mrs. llume( Elizabeth Street),- last week. ' Mr and Mrs Norman Bell, of Dunedin, who have been visiting Timaru, returned south this week.

Miss Kohn, Wellington, is spending a short holiday in Timaru, and is the guest of Mrs McCahon, North Street. The .Misses Campbell, Mornington. Dunedin, who were the guests of Mrs W. H. Foden, left. for the south this week. The Rawhiti Club's Ball, held in the Assembly Rooms on Thursday evening last, was a delightful and enjoyable function. Oak foliage and greenery formed the- decorations in the ball room, and the effect was further enhanced by mirrors and 'pictures. The stage was very tastefully arranged arid decorated. , The arrangements were perfect, and reflected great credit on the committee. The supper -tables were prettily decorated. with yellow . and white chrysanthemums and autumn leaves. J noticed a great -number of Empire gowns, made up chiefly of soft liberty silks-, ■ and- this mode of gown has become extremely'.-popular'. No small wonder, as they are. most graces ful and becoming.. Among those present were :—Mrs. C.. E. Thomas, wearing a handsome :gowh of black sequinned net over- satin. Miss Rhodes, dainty ; froek of pale-pink silk, trimmed with- lace. Miss: Brodrick, white liberty silk, -with',- net rsleeves. .Mrs Dr Gabites,. black'glace silk, purple velvet evening wrap. Mrs E. M. Arthur, handsome gown of -turquoise bine silk velvet, beautifully embroidered with sequinns. Kerr, cream silk frock, with pearl trimming. Miss Ethel Kerr, white silk pink floral sash.

Glover. grcv and nink irook. Miss p v it u . Glover, trained Empire gown of pniE ninon. Miss Mcßeath, graceful gown of cream net over, white- silk, trimmed with bands of pearls. Mrs. K. G. Turner, black chiffon taffeta and cream lace. Miss T. Turner, prettv frock of pink chiffon .taffeta. Mrs Beckingham, black glace silk arid cream lace. Miss Beckingham, white silk and lace. Miss Beckingham, trained J rock of cream silk. Miss Beckingham, white muslin with panels of glace silk. Mrs Gordon Wood, trained gown of black,merveillieux silk. Miss Wood, cream satjn, the corsage draped with lace. Mrs Wilfred Rutherford, cream messalirie silk. Misses Hav, ivory silk frocks. Mrs Coxhead, black silk. Miss Elsie Coxhead (dehutan.ce) soft satin. Mrs.Boys (Auckland) black silktrimmed with silver seqninned net. Mrs. W A. Hurdler, cream toilette. Miss Eraser, white muslin and lace. Miss Hole, pale green glace silk. Misses Maitheson, cream silk Empire gowns. Mrs T. D. Young, black silk and lace. Miss Muriel Young,, white chiffon over glace silk, trimmed with silver. Miss Gunn, green silk. Empire gown, effectively trimmed with silver. Miss Alice Gunn, white silk Enipire gown, the corsage draped -with'.chiffon. Miss Battes. .-heliotrope "silk, : with bands of green velvet. Miss Kippenberger, princesse . robe of-; white silk. Miss Wareiilg (Temuka) pale pink silk. Miss Wareing, green silk and lace. Miss Ash well, floral silk. Miss Not* (Sydney), Empire, gown of • pink chiffon taffeta. Misses Hedley (Seadown), turquoise blue silk frocks. Miss Miles, pale green silk. -Miss'.Emily Miles, white silk, with\velvet-streamers. Miss Pringle, lovelv frock of white ninon with bands of glace.' Miss Margaret Pringle, (-ream silk poplin and lace. Misses King, cream silk frocks. Miss Fussell, white silk and lace. Miss Currie. princesse robe of cream silk. Miss Bontifex. pale pink ninon. Miss Ma bin (debutante) lovely white silk •trained gown. Empire mode, the corsage draped with chiffon. Misses Edge, white liberty silk and chiffon. Amongst the gentlemen present were —Messrs G. U. J-ru-st. Dv uiinn. C. I'ringie, (ixmn (2), Mabin, Eraser, Malthus, Allan, D. Dreaver, W. Staff, Ensor (Cave), Horton, Zeisler, Sterndale, Hindley, Polson, Hole. Beckingham. Wood. MeCahon, G. Kerr, S. Harold, Glover and Lawson.

GORGEOUS BELTS. Home Paper. With the approach of spring the mind of the girl turns to belts and ties. .Vo matter how great is the vogue for the, costumier's creation, with pleasant weather the blouse and the simple washing skirt regains its own, and a belt is needed.

The girl's wardrobe will not lie finished if she does not possess at least, one embroidered ■■ belt . whose colour can be matched in tips and stockings, possibly in hatband and parasol. To buy such, belts costs so much that the- resourceful . girl will make her own. . Every sort of embroidery is in favour. Heavy linen is used for many of the belts either- in white or colours. AYhite ones are generally decorated iii white''throughout, with a white leather or white enamel buckle. Coloured linens are worked sometimes in white mercerised cottons, again in several tones of the linen. Tims a belt to be worn with a gray linen suit has a conventional design in several tones of darker gray lightened wit'll touches of silver thread. Where a belt is to be see much service it is as well to omit this touch of silver, as. though it is supposed to remain, it will not stand the. wash and constant exposure to the air.

For more elaborate wear there are fascinating belts worked on moire or corfled belting or on heavy satin ribbon stiffened with buckram. Quite a feature of this work is a jewelled effect in colours. One pretty belt on pale blue moire belting has a continuous floral design, somewhat conventionalised. The large flowers are worked with an outline of French knots in severai rows, and the centre of each flower is formed of smart blue jewels. Another smart looking belt on gray satin has a design of scrolls and discs worked in two colours of steel beads picked out with blue jewels. Still a third belt is worked on tan coloured belting, with brown and white daisies. The centres of the white flowers are studded with yellow jewels, while the brown daisies have red jewelled hearts. These jewelled beads for ; faiicy work can be found in any art needlework shop in all colours and sizes.

A smart belt to be worn with a dark blue tailored suit, is of dark blue corded belting stamped in a bold design of chrysanthemums, heavily padded and worked in satin stitch iii old blue, Chinese green, and a dull coppery red. A belt that would go well with the ever popular white serge suit is of heavy white: corded silk, worked in a. conventional pattern. of many petaled flowers.

A girl who has taken ut) hammered brass "work has nisjde herself a fascinating belt of narrow cut brass with ah open pattern. This is made from such thin sheets as to be.pliable,, and is worn over different coloured ribbons which shine through the design.

THE NEED TO CULTIVATE CHARM.

. Why do some girls have favours showered upon x them?- Because, no matter what is done for them, they

never fail to be gracious and grateful. Let tile person beware wiio has readied, the age of receiving when she looks on favours as her due; it .will not be long before courtesies cease to come her wav.

No matter iiow generously inclined or how cynical one may be m talking of gratitude, we resent 'it in onr hearts when the nice little things we do for others are taken too much for granted. We prefer gusli, even though we knowit to be insincere, to the curt thanks that are merely ••manners," not appreciation. The girl who is most apt to fall into this error of indifference to favours is she who has much done for her. At first she is deeply grateful when older women take her on a trip in their motors or include her in little dinners to which others of her .set are not invited, but by and by she grows accustomed to these attentions, aiid instead of being pleased to receive invitations is resentful when she doesn't get,them. There is no popularity that will longwithstand taking favours as one's dues. To feel the world owes One a living or our friends owe us favours is the (juick•est road to financial and social bankruptcy.

If we got what we deserved most of us would have few attentions; half the pleasure that comes our way is from the gracious thought of some friend. .Never make.the mistake of underestimating that graciousness or of being so conceited as to think it springs irom your attractiveness. The girl who can count on her favours continuing is she who takes the pains to write a gracious note in return for an invitation, and who follows it up with a spoken word of appreciation when next the giver is met. There is no social coin that has bigger buying power than the ability to he grateful without being fulsome. The latter smacks of insincerity, and ttisgusts where it was meant to charm. A lew well chosen words of pleasure and gratitude count more than a long letter of meaningless gush.

It is less one's power to express gratitude that needs cultivating than gratitude itself. We are all iuore % or less inclined to take things as a matter of course, particularly it the donor has .heaped us with favours. Tne next time some, one does you a kindness note how you take it. If your involuntary thought is, "How sweet of her!" your appreoiativeuess will not need cultivating; if yon think, " Why shouldn't she do it:-'" you have fallen into the grievous social error of taking favours as your duo. It is not merely good manners to he grateful and know how to express it: it is good policy. It you are not appreciative by nature assume it in the interest of your reputation. Ue very sure that the gjrl who thinks

it too much, trouble to. acknowledge a Kinuiie&s or, ivno is neglectful of small attentions -will have cuu.se to repeat her uiigrateiulnoss. Avhen she begins to wonuer why her. invitations' fall oil, let:-her look .here tor ilie reason.

Then there is the charm of the good natured girl. That is an all-conquer-ing qualuy that litis made many a plain gnf tho envy of her prettier . sisiers. -Mid ;t is iioL'.'difficult to be good nauired, as tlie World understands the term, it may be cultivated.

In its essence good nature is a con-j sicleratum for the feeling of others. It is; perhaps the basis ot tlie truest politeness. Remember that others have just the same desire for happiness as yourself, and just as much right to it. I'he girl 'who grasps at every opportunity for herself, riding rough-aiiqd oyer the wishes of others, is never popular, is never spoken of as "that charming girl." She may succeed for a time in dominating others but never for. long, and, a .full measure .of dislike and neglect awaits her in the end.

Many girls who go everywhere and do everything owe their good fortune, not to good looks,' or wealth, or wit, but to their good nature and consequent charm. Avoid selfishness, a defect that grows in the character h'ke a weed,; avoid hurting others ;» cultivate an oven temper and a gracious 'manner. You will have manv more friends. i