WOMAN'S WORLD

Taranaki Daily News, Volume LIV, Issue 20, 18 July 1911, Page 6

WOMAN'S WORLD

(Conducted by "Eileen"). MAKING THE BEST OF HERSELF. WHAT WOMEX LIKE. Many women ardently desire popularity, and quite rightly too (writes "Isabel" in "Ladies Work"). To go out to some party and be a success; to have her hostess say after a visit, "This is only au revoir till—" a month not far distant; to feel that a hobbledehoy is happier in her presence; even to be asked for the address of a dressmaker —these are small joys that fall to the lot of many, an agreeable woman, who has no claim to be a beauty and no hope of ever inspiring a grande passion. But there is another type of woman who does not know the sweetness of such triumphs, perhaps for some trivial reason. She has not learned to make the best of herself.

"Miss B. is really a very nice woman, clever and interesting to talk to," said a man. "She has a beautiful figure too; but she will never be attractive, simply because she is so shy. She can't lift her eyes and look you in the face."

One feels inclined to say with the oW child's poem "One ugly trick has often spoiled The sweetest and the best."

It may seem cruel to lav a finger oa a defect like shyness, which brings so much suffering to its victim and appears impossible to cure. But even such a devastating complaint as ultra-shyness is curable if taken in time. If a child is only made to see enough strangers, and those alarming "thank-you's" and "how-d'ye-do's" arc insisted upon, it learn 3 to overcome this particular demon.

There are other directions in which i girls fail to make the best of themselves. Country and athletic girls are sometimes lacking in daintiness. The writer was staying in the house witli a girl who was everything that was unselfish and amiable, but she hurled on her clothes as if they possessed no interest for her, was very far from scrupulously neat,' and grunted wh«n she laughed! It does seem hard that a stupid little nervous trick should outweigh tons of sweetness of character; yet that is the way in which the world is constructed. Making the best of herself is, therefore, not only a legitimate, but a necessary sphere of woman's activity. It sometimes happens that a girl has been brought up in a large family mutual admiration society, or else in a small adoring circle; in that case it behoves her to practice a little self-criticism.

Just as we seldom enter a new room without taking in fresh ideas, and seeing something to admire or avoid in the color scheme, or the arrangement of flowers or ornaments, so by a little comparison wo discover the secret of 3 charming woman, and often find that it consists of apparent trivialities. In dressing to make the best of oneself it if* hy no manner of use to ignore trifling defects; far better to recognise' and then get round them, as it were. The women this year who are too stout, and yet persist in wearing the skimpiest ' garments, only succeed in looking piteous or ludicrous, according to the mind of the beholder. In the same way a woman with a dark or sallow complexion may as well make up her mind that white and pink roses will not suit her; there are always the red and yellow ones, equally beautiful. To some people all these considerations will appear a mistake. Making the best of horself, they say, tends to vanity, egotism, loss of spontaneity, than which nothing can be more restructive of charm. This is true if undue attention is given to the matter; but it must be remembered that life becomes increasingly complex. Everything is more carefully taught and systematised; for instance, it used to be enough for a girl to play the piano. Now if she plays an instrument at all she must play it well and study grace of position, and there are a thousand of such matters through life. A certain amount of care and study is absolutely necessary to a woman who would make the best of herself.

HEIRESS TO £120,000. JOCKEY'S DAUGHTER TO WED. Miss Nellie Archer, daughter and only child of the famous jockey, Fred. Archer, is to be married to M. Alex. Tosetti, a French shipping magnate. This lady was only two years old when her father died in 1886. He left her his entire fortune, of which she received control when she came of age in 1905, when the capital had increased to about £120,000. Her mother died a few hours after j the child's birth. She was Miss Ros« j Dawson before her marriage to Fred. Archer in 1883, daughter of Mr. Mfllthew Dawson, one of the most celebrated trainers of the last century. Miss KplHb Archer inherited also a large fortune from her grandfather. Mr. Matthew Dawson trained, among other famous racers, Ladas, Lord Rosebery's Derby winner in 1894, and SiMo, the late Lord Falmouth's Derby winner of 1877, which was ridden by Fred. Archer. Fred. Archer also rode Derby winners in 1880 (Bend Or), 1881 (Iroquois), 1885 (Melton), and 1880 (Ormonde). All the horses of the late Lord Falmouth, sixth viscount, were trained by Matthew Dawson, and it was he who brought the jockey to the great racing peer's notice. Among the famous horsesi thus owned, trained and riiden were Atlantic, Charibert, Galliard, Janette,' Wheel of Fortune and Spinaway. Lord Falmouth's Kingcraft won the Derby in 1870, but was not ridden by Archer. Miss Nellie Archer has never been seen upon a racecourse, her tastes lyin" in other directions. Archer's tragic end, due to the delirium of typhoid brought on bv ex«essive wasting in Turkish baths, was one of the most startling and dramatic episodes in the history of the turf. Evading his attendants, he took his own life with a revolver. ' It was in 1884 that the great jockey I I received the news of his daughter's birth l j as he returned to weigh in after winning

the Liverpool Cup on Thcbais. ''By Jove! What a splendid double!'' he cried. But next morning the little girl was motherless, and the father nearly broken-hearted. Only in riding could he l find relief from his grief. During ISBS he won 246 races out of 6f)7 mounts, more than one race in three. '

ALMOST A CENTENARIAN. Lady Outram, the widow of LieutGeneral Sir James Outram, Bt., K.C.8., K. 5.1., whose death at the age of &!) was reported lust week survived her husband by 48 years. Lady Outram was a daughter of Mr. James Anderson, of Bredgend, Brechin. Sir James Outram became illustrious for the part he took in suppressing the Indian Mutiny, and the marble slab on his grave in the Abbey bears the pregnant epitaph, ''The Bayard of India." He went out to India as a military cadet in 1820. After brilliant services in Persia in 1857 he Returned to India and was given supreme command of two divisions of thj Bengal Army at the outbreak of the mutiny. He brought reinforcements to ITavelock at Cawnpore, and temporarily retired frimi the command so that Haveloek might have the glory of relieving Lucknow.