“NOT A MARRYING TYPE.”

Otago Daily Times, Issue 19529, 11 July 1925, Page 7

“NOT A MARRYING TYPE.”

“I doubt,” writes Sarah Speed, “if Lucy will marry; she is not a marrying typo.” “Of course, John will not marry; it is impossible to imagine him as a husband.” These are the remarks that most of us hear made sometimes of certain of our friends.

It is taken for granted that Lucv, happy in her work, a delightful friend with many interests, has decided that marriage is not for her; that John, a very pleasant person, popular with men as with women, enjoys being a bachelor. We believe that there are certain people who might even be spoiled by marriage, and it is always with surprise, and occasionally with a little regret, that we hear that, after all, they intend to embark upon the great adventure. There are women, as there are men, who have, through experience, through adversity, through the need of self-dependence, attained so great a degree of individuality that they feel that in marriage, with its enormous need of adaptability, they would beebme lost.

Wo ought not to dismiss such people aa necessarily selfish and self-centred. Probably they knew that their capacity for friendship, their ability to be of real service to many widely-differing types of human nature, thoir wider leisure, makes it possible for them to express themselves more generously as unmarried people. • Our married friends feel, I fancy, that nothing short of an overwhelming affection would have power to win them from their “unmarrying” ways. It is because they regard marriage so seriously, not because they regard it so lightly, that they remain unmarried.