“NOT A MARRYING TYPE

New Zealand Times, Volume LII, Issue 12199, 25 July 1925, Page 15

“NOT A MARRYING TYPE

“I .doubt.” writes Sarah Speed, “if Lucy will many; she is not a marrying type,” “Of course, John will not marry; it is j impossible to imagine him as a husband.” These are remarks that most of

us hear made sometimes of certain < t our friends. It is taken for granted that Lucy, happy in her work, a delightful friend with many interests, has decided that marriage is not- for her; that John, a very pleasant person, popular with men as with women, enjoys being a bachelor. We believe that there are certain people who might even be spoiled by marriage, and it is always with surprise, and occasionally with a little regret, that we hear that, after all, they intend to embark upon .the great adventure. There are women, as there are men, who have, through experience, through adversity, through the need of self-de-pendence. attained so great a degree of individuality that they feel that in marriage, with its enormous need of adaptability, they would become .lost. We enght not to dismiss such people as necessarily selfish and self-centred. Probably they knew that their ewpsa^ty. real service to many widely-differing types of human nature, their wider leisure, makes it possible for them to express themselves more generously as - unmarried people. | Our married friends feel, I fancy, that nothing short of an overwhelming affection would have power *o win them from their “unmarrying” ways. It is because they regard marriige so ee*ioiusly not because they regard it Bo lightly, that they remain unmarried.