LOVE YOUR HUSBAND.

New Zealand Herald, Volume LXVII, Issue 20722, 15 November 1930, Page 6 (Supplement)

LOVE YOUR HUSBAND.

HE'LL REVEL IN YOUR WILES!

BY U C. MOORE

It/'is a great pity that man has ac. quired so firmly the reputation of being the hunter. Perhaps in the old days he was, but, all the same, he simply loves to be hunted now and again. Unfortunately, however, he has been called the hunter g0 often that the majority of women think it is quite unnecessary—perhaps even' unwomanly—to make an advances at all, in any circumstances. Ihis, of course, is all wrong. There are times when a husband would give a ho Was in the world for the thrill of having his wife kiss him unexpectedly; yet, 1 am not exaggerating when I say that many men go through life without ever/knowing the thrill! There are a whole lot of queer beliefs connected with this idea that man should invariably do the hunting. One of the most important of them (and, at the same time, one that//has the least foundation in truth) is that it cheapens a woman if she shows too clearly her affection. Because of this, some wives will deliberately steel themselves when they feel tempted to become demonstrative, and pretend a coldness that is really quite foreign to their natures. If only they knew the I rutli w Inch is that Ho wife ever cheapened herself by giving her husband a surprise kiss. Befoije marriage there is a great deal to be snid in favour of reserve, for then the man is definitely hunting, and is likely to regard lightly what is too easily come by. But after muiriage the hunting is over. 'I he couple have settled down together, and they should each of them do all in their power to keep Romance alive. All wives will admit,-that "duty" kisses really mean very'little. The kiss of farewell in the morning, and of greeting at eventide, are both very nice—but they dc not produce the same glow that the unexpected one does. V* hen a man ciecps up behind his wife and kisses her on the. theek while she is washing up—why, she can feel that kiss burning for hours after. Surprise Kisses. In the same way, the greyest of skies can be made blue by her husband suddenly crossing to her as she sits in the armchair, and kissing Iter with the tern ark; " You do look rii<e to-night, old girl. K<>w what every woman should know is that this cuts both ways, and that one surprise kiss now and again will do far more fo keep a man in love than a. dozen willing responses to his kisses. So long as a woman is a bit of an/ enigma, she can always keep her husband on tiptoe, as it were. That is generally admitted. But il she never gives him a surprise kiss, never changes the usiial order of things by making love to him, there is an ever present danger that he will grow used to her, and (alas!) his own lovemaking will become less frequent, and less ardent. If, on the other hand, he never knows when she is going to utter some little endearment, ur come and snuggle down into' the chair with him, or throw her arms/ round his neck for a hug—then his interest must always be very much alive. •

Slip must choose Jipi' times carefully, of course. To lie always making love vould be as bad as continual aloofness, anrl as effectually. In fact, the husband who js given a surfeit of adoration is liable to become, bored far more ipiickly than he who never gets anv at all!

It is probably this knowledge that man nates to have love-making showered upon hirn that, has made women err on the cautious side. The happiest wife, obviously, is she who can find a happy middle path, and keep to it. is one very important point, Hiougji! If you kiss your husband by surprise, let it be disinterested.

For the. greatest mistake any wife can make (and only tori many of tliein of ill,- is to kiss her husband only when she has some favour to ask. It can only happen once. The man is thrilled; delighted at this show of affection. Ilien. when she thinks the moment, is ripe, she asks whether she may have a new hat or a new coat, or if he'll settle this bill for her. Immediately all I he. gilt is taken off the gingerbread. 'J he kiss is seen for what it. actually was—a bribe. And, although he may pay up, and pretend riot to have noticed anything, a horrible seed of distrust will have been planted in that husband's heart. To let a man think he has been kissed in order to " win him round " is to humiliate and wound, him. Out to let him think you kissed him solely because, at that moment you felt an uncontrollable desire to, is to go a long way toward making him a tlave for life.