"DON'TS" FOR THE ENGAGED.

New Zealand Herald, Volume LI, Issue 15769, 18 November 1914, Page 11

"DON'TS" FOR THE ENGAGED.

ROCKS TO STEER CLEAR OF.

It is usually the girl who comes in for the greater portion of advice that is showered on newly-engaged couples. There are a few points, however, which it would be well for men to consider. For instance, don't think that your fiancee wants a present every time you go to see her. She does not. And it is quite unnecessary for you to take her flowers and chocolates at each visit. What she wants is younot your presents. Chocolates and flowers now ana then are essential in a well-regulated courtship. But carpet sweepers and chopping bowls are essential to the comforts of a well-regulated home, and money must be saved in older to obtain home comforts.

Don't shut your fiancee out from the part of ydur mind where you keep worries, cares, ambitions and plans. Talk to her about your work and your interests. She wants to know and will be proud of the confidence which you repose in her. Don't drop all your friends and old interests just because you happen to be engaged. You do not want them at the mo-

ment. But the time- may come when you. will be very glad of .them, and then, if yon have thrown them all overboard, you will be forcibly reminded of the old saying, "He that will not when he may, when he will, he shall have nay." Don't spoil her by extravagance during the engagement, or you will have a diffi colt time with her during the first year of married life. If you let her think yon have a fortune she won't be at all pleased when she discovers that the fortune dwindles down to a small salary. Don't think because -she is engaged you that you have complete ownership. Others have a little right to her time, too.