POPULARITY.

New Zealand Herald, Volume LI, Issue 15748, 24 October 1914, Page 3 (Supplement)

POPULARITY.

■■ ■ ■ ■ ' m THE GKEAT. DESIRE. All normal people like to be liked in th» little world that forms about each of us. It is a gracious trait to wish to be art agreeable presence and recollection. Fine natures are ever appreciative of appreciation, though they resent flattery. Many girls and women wonder why others less companionable than themselves are sought after, and their society valued highly. Shyness and self-consciousness, sisters of clumsiness, are unpopular. The world is manysided, and even en its most limited form'of village, dancing class, office, or shop, will not merge all its interest on one individual. Selfishness is unpopular. The world loves a self-sacrificing soul, and one " at leisure from itself to soothe and sympathise." Criticism is unpopular. We each have peculiarities we do not care to have made public lectures. Complaining is unpopular. We could all complain all day if we chose to show cause why we should. Malicious gossip is unpopular. The world is not pleased with the worst construction being put on words and actions. Be friendly. Everybody likes the goodwill that is expressed in tone and look; the quiet, often silent understanding that here is 'me who wishes us well in everyll»u.g . _ Cmideration for the rights of others is popular. Don't monopolise con,versation, or anything else. Loyalty is popular. Companions and employers re- : spect those who respect their confidence and affairs. Respect for the rules of society is popular. It is the small civilities that make daily existence toleroble. Charity is popular. To be liberal in mind and service is good. It widens the individual outlook, and helps .everybody. Pleasantness is popular. There is no need for untruthfulness brutal facts. Every, body is better than he or. she "seems.' Any-" body can find fault. -The pleasant person finds something worthy of praise. Cheerfulness is popular. There is nothing to add after this. It .we cannot be cheerful (not giggling or noisy) anywhere and anyhow, there is no chance of out popularity. Cheerfulness is the world's need. ' ,