HOW TO MANAGE A WIFE.

New Zealand Herald, Volume XLVII, Issue 14566, 31 December 1910, Page 2 (Supplement)

HOW TO MANAGE A WIFE.

VIEWS OP A MUCH-MARRTED. 9 monarch.

WOJIE.N WHO GROW SURFEITED WITH SWEETS.

I-; experience counts for anything t ,_ .. «"« of the. late King ChulaCt™"' Siam o„ ,he subject of wife ° should be entitled to the greatest r,*l" for his^ Majesty, it will be ieme*bS' had no icwev tha.i 600 wives, and « ] lU ]' household of 200 sons. A short timc£ . ; ,S dentli he discussed with great candour " p an of wife management, and expressed some very decided view,. According 2 Ling Chulajongkorn, the- secret of mans*. mg wives to let tiiem know that- they J, no. absolutely necessary to you. and a most effect ive way to impress this fact Uponthem is to let them alone a, liUk/ " Ihe very reason why you 'save so m trouble' -u«S llis. Majesty to an viewer, • is probably because you have oal# one wife. .Many of you have learned that large, families of children are best and him piest. It is equally true that Jai»rr e les of wives are best and happiest'. V\>h>ii you have only one \v : fe you are 'ikely to spoil her. You are like « mo' ier with only one child. She keeps on humouring • it until she gets it spoiled. She does not permit it to get a moments peace, and from too much management it becomes unman ugeabte. You make too much fuss over your one wife ; von humour her and vou spoil her. At heart the women of Siiun are not essentially different from those of Europe, and, therefore, the lessons you learn from the former may be applied to the latter. All worsen are fundamentally alike. As your poet, ityard Kipling, whom I esteem highly, says, ' The colonel's lady and Judy O'Grady are sisters under their skins.' The secret of getting along happily with women is to lei them alone a little. Let them see that they are not necessary to you. A little neglect at the right lime is better than a- whole lot of petting. Neglect brings her to you while petting sometimes drives her av,'av. If one. of my wives begins pouting at me, I simjfly don't go near her for two or three weeks. This

I WARM. "BRINGS HER BOUND. and makes her all smiles the next time she sees me. Of course it is harder to do this when, you have only one wife, but you can' apply the principle to a certain extent. If one of my wives begins to mope I leave her alone for a time and she soon cheers up. If I pressed her to find out what the trouble was she would worry the liis out of me. She would keep up the agony as long as possible, as you say. I think that American and English wives understand how to manage their husbands better than the men do their wives. They understand the value of a little wholesome neglect administered at the proper time. One thing especially that appears to me wrong in your methods of managing a wife is that you love her to devotedly at least, make a pretence of doing so. If you crawl «;iround on your hands and knee 3 before a woman, either literally or figuratively, she will enjoy ii., and she will want you to do it ail the time. That will become tiresome and you will quarrel. She will want to trample upon you all the time, and when she is deprived of this exercise she will feel hurt. She knows it isn't good for her, but she becomes intoxicated with too much power and wants you to keep crawling about in the dust. Of course it is right to love your wife, but not too effusively. Warners, as well as. men, grow surfeited' with sweets of any kind. You can

I EASILY BE TOO AFFECTIONATE. 1 Those husbands who get -up every morning and say to their wives before breakfast. 'I love you.' .become very tiresome. They haven't the least idea of tfie' true philosophy of wife management. Besides there wives know it isn't true that their husbands love them before breakfast. The husi band should give his affection moderately and judiciously, so that it will be valued and appreciated. Always give your wife plenty of work to do. That will make her. happy and keep her out of trouble. Make her sing, play, do* needlework and keep her busy at whatever work ie suitable for her. Never let 'her meddle- at men's work., I. have heard of your suffragists and I must say that Siam. is no place for them. In our country the women understand that they have no-rights, and consequently they are deeply grateful for any privileges we may give them. This gives the husband an opportunity to make his wife happy and contributes to domestic peace. Your women make you think that thev_are conferring a <rreafc boon upon you in letting you love them. They bestow their miles with the air of monarchs. This gives them the upper hand of you. How can you think of managing a superior being:who expects you to plead on your bended knees for the favour of kissing her -.and? Naturally it is the husband who confers a blessing by living his love. You deplore the evils of vour divorce eoprts. • ou can only remedy them by putting woman into her proper position, her learn that the highest object of life is to live for the happiness of her husband."