WOMAN'S WORLD.

New Zealand Herald, Volume XLIV, Issue 13480, 3 July 1907, Page 9

WOMAN'S WORLD.

I EVERYDAY IRRITANT*. j I It is usually the little things of life that are the- most difficult to bear the daily] :j*rs and frets that cause more actual pun ititan the great trials and sorrows, because), I the former ere never-ceasing always pro-!, j sent. wherai.«—generally speaking—the!: Tatter once laced and of the past do not! occur again. j' | Members of a family living together;, .often quite unconsciously, ait as irritants,! one to another, simply through "little I ways' tliat might easily be overcome if an' i effort were made, in that direction. .Such I habits as biting the nails, pricing up unci' J down the room while talking, «. chronic "sniff," or unceasing .'-•wing of the crossed j Jog, ami. in the special case of man. the i eternal caress Of a cherished moustache—;' itrifles though they be, are of suilk-ientj I importance to rentier daily life miserable)' • to the individual who sutlers from nerves; and is obliged to live among audi— to her' ui' him—nerve-destroying influences. j The way to make the wheels of domestic life run smoothly is to study one another's' 'likes and dislikes, try to avoid what dis-| ! pleases or worries, and respect the feel-* lings of those, about, one. "li you cannot do! i.iiiything to help, at least do nothing to; jannoy —tins train of thought lived up to,l | will go .1 long way towards securing borne j Happiness. ! it is generally believed that the placid, amiable disposition is the one that is thej easiest to "get on with," and that gives! the least trouble in the home; and the supposition is uueu HiJiiJied. lint not m- ! 1 aeuuentJy your \L>ry placid, amiable per-! iirequentJy your very placid, amiable per-! j.-.oii is also very tliougntless and careless,! tliat carelessness bring;, a tram ot uouOita! I iu it« track. When it is, a characteristic j ui me head of the house the domestic regime will naturally sutler in consequence. j * THE BAD LUCK OF AVERAGE Gnat;. j I A common accusation against the woman ul business is mao sue is averse to marriage, remaps it may he true that sue m not willing mitt eager to marry sumo incompetent man auu support nun; out the U'ul-'ii is, says a. writer 111 an .Aiiicrienii | oAcnajjge, me association 01 men ana women in ijusmecrs, wiiiio it has sometimes ica to' results less uesirauic, nas also ueen. responsive lor tiuiusuuus oi nnimugeo. ii the matter were looked into, it would doubtless Ue ioiuiu unit many more leiinuino typewriters, sieuOgiapiiers, and Ijook.teeners marry teachers, wuose work keeps uiieui almost exclusively among ennui and women. ' liie explanation is simple. xuere are many ou.-ine,>s men who'have 110 interesting social relations, or no liking lor society in its lormai tense. At the same tunc, they are not misogynists, aim iViien thrown into daily ami lamuiar cuii- ' tact witu pica.siug anu attractive women, cue result is ivnut might he anticipated, between the young women, thrown oy Ijiimj »icss into intimate contact with nun, ami others .whose weaitn gives them every aociai opportunity, more is a stratum in iViucti gins have lower chances to marry man in the two classes mentioned. . Their lathers, while not rich, are in circtunotauces to he able to keep tno daugntcrs I 01 the family at home, wuere they lead ! a narrow Jim with lew interests or* clisi tractions. A powerful personality would j escape, lrom these limits, 01 great beauty ■vouid he liberated— beauty is like a, I city set on a inn, ami cannot be inuue-u. I xSut tliese are only average gins, not stnk- | nigiy origin or neautuui, yet olten quite I as pleasing and attractive personalty as !Lne girls win) many--oiuy, tney are never | thrown with men lit bucii a way as to p .iWio any deep or lasting impression on ij tneui. | It is not the modest, gentle angel of the jj Household that is chosen, but perhaps a | uiiorus-girl, or a showy,' tu-wtiy ■• chemical oionde■— at all events, a woman who is . somehow en vue. The girl, or woman, oi the home, domestic, devoted, lull of sweet feminine instincts, would make the best wile, but she is precisely the one who is often passed by and ignored for the eaJtc oi less admirable types. Because she has bread and shelter, and need not go out in , the world to work, it appears as though ) she is doomed to an unfulmted womanhood and must feel her youthful sweetness . withering away in " cheerless celibacy." IN WHICH MEN AND WOMEN DIFFER. Perchance they differ in a good many ways, but this one does notice, especially now that the holiday season is commune--1 mgand chums are going away together, j how differently men and women treat their friends. A mail goes on his own way i serenely; if (lie other man wishes to do the same thing he does it with him: ii 1 inclination, however, leads in another direction he follows it, and both are happy, not taking nor giving offence. A woman, on the other hand, who trees away or visits another feels? that she is x not doing her duty unless she is with her friend the whole day. They, as it is put not i refmedly, perhaps, but still expressively, , "live in each other's pockets," and though the pursuits of one may be quite anterior to those of the other, still they must share them, ifi matter how unhappy one or both may be. it is a. nice feeling, of course, to know » that a. friend is willing to forego her own . pleasure, 111 order to 1,,. with von [( i. good and loyal (0 stick to one another i and possibly women get to know cadi oilier, am indeed, the characteristics of their men folk far belter than do ii—c same men. Nevertheless, our kindness : • devotion, and loyally must he tempered, j with discretion. if we are to be happy and; make others comfortable it is not always l , the most pleasing method never to be free I lrom one person, no matter how nice j • Jiven husbands and wives discover this and are pleased to go their own way oc-l casionally; how much more likely then is it that friends are better sometimes apart i bo separate paths now and then, and voii will come back fresh to each Other: ''tis good advice, and worth following, whether] you are away. for a holiday or merely tie-! 1 guest or hostess in a house. - ____ _ ' A SOCIETY LADY'S BOTTLING BUSINESS. i ' Lady Algernon Gordon-Lennox, Lndvi •Warwick's sister, is establishing a fruit-1 bottling business at Broughton, Oxford-! I shire. She has a perfect genius for or-! ganisation, ami her new enterprise seems ! . j certain to succeed. Lord and Lady Ai-j ; gernon Gordon-Lennox prefer country to I ' town, and Broiighton Castle, which thev rent from Lord Save and Sele, has been • much improved and beautified by Lady! . Algernon's perfect taste. There is not i cleverer lady gardener in England than! | she, and the beautiful gardens ' at I j Broughton Castle, with their hundred's! of different kinds of roses, were designed I 1 by her. Lady Algernon has done much to encourage village industries bv forming classes She .secured the order foi the wrotight-iron lamos for the electric light in the chapel of the Pyx at Westminster. The work was carried out under her personal superintendence at a village near Broughton Castle. Dana. Gibson, '■ the famous American artist, lias ordered carved woodwork for bis New York house from Lady Algernon's classes. — . ■| ENGLISH SERVANTS THE BEST, j j The thoroughly trained English servant . is, in his way, the most perfect kind of servant to be found anywhere, and in I his station and for bis duties lie is not ■ to be matched in the world. Where will you find any men so competent in their! work, so completely, trained and apparently emotionless in manner, so punctual, ' so clean, so smart, as an English butler, coachman, footman, or valet'—Country I Life. i

I THE NEW GIRL. ! Foolish people engaged on the unexcitling pursuit of cheap wit will tell you that the new girl i* dowdy. I; true that she is given :«> dres-io.; to look like herself instead of modelling her appearanee on milliner's show girl.*;' or even on the l actress of the moment, but she is quite jas fond of looking iuv as is good for anv j human soul. lb ideas of what is nice I and what is nasty, though otcasiomdly juistorted by spasms of admiration tor ram'e I painter or some agu oi the past, arc not ! 'ess reasonable i ban most. I Tho new girl falls behind none of th« j.mat 11 ms of old year.*—even the grest sotds of the early Victorian age—in her eye tor ,beauty. The room* which she cnntrol*) are quite as eonifoitable, and a! leas! ~s good Jto look at as those of the. earlier tins. She is as useful about the Iruim a- giria jof an older style. It >S i,.,i [~ tJ H . x , matiters that ."he has fallen from !>:niilt'i!€ j But there are oth.i-. She lies L<> ib an jOllO his a. right to expect from « woman. [She is nearly us. blunt as her brother She jhas none of the old happy feminine skill in saving you from miking » fool of yourself, and letting you think yon have all your own way while you ar-> i;oiii-.' hers. | And. after all, the firs! duty of" woman, j though it may not lie the whole. i,« to be la diplomatist. But the new girl cannot Ciijole, and she has never' bfeu taught to ■.beguile. ! WHITE CURTAINS. j Sonic people only use these in 1 lie s.umjmer; others with near neighbours need them all the year round, even though I hoy [are backed in the winter with eu-v woollen ciutaius that when tlniwn keep out I the draught*. In the towns, it" you have .many windows, it is a constant battle with | the smuts, if yon would keep vol ,r < irritants deis/nt, and yet have enough ventilation and fresh air. Nothing make? a house j look worse than soiled and dirty curtains which once were white; better far keep | to dark ones than these. A plan used to enable the upper sash of the window to. I be always open without undue damage to the curtains is to nail a piece of double white muslin on the frame which will fill up the open s-pace. If is quite wonderful to see how black this speedily become as the smoky air filters through. , Oh the hack vvindows this may he put oui,ide, hut „, the front it mutt go 'inside so as to show less. Hut it ,',, not at all a bad I. »• Many people do up their curtains at home and thus save expense., much wear and ear to the curtains-, for however good the Jauudr.es may be. you will be able to bo much more careful of your things yourself, to do this satisfactorily at home you need a oor Jarge enough to take your curtain, "' out. Laid down at night they should be almost dry in the morning, at any rate dry enough to be ready for ironing. ' Take earn particularly of the point., of the pi. ' ''".' which should also' have been Kl ■ J"»g'«tenccl as you put (he wet curtains down. A cream tint is besl got by u«in~ the cream starch. c "' " b