ROMANTIC MARRIAGES.

Nelson Evening Mail, Volume XXVIII, Issue 262, 13 December 1894, Page 4

ROMANTIC MARRIAGES.

: '• Habper's Bazar." , Marriage in the old world is generJ ally a-matter of arrangement ; is con- • -ducted, more or lees financially, on basis of what is called common sense. Marriage usually results in the Isew eWorld from personal affinity, from some intense form of emotionalism, independent of material conditions or . fovburing circumstances. We Ameri-cans-are more romantic connubially than any other people under the sun. We are gradually growing lessso'as the -JEtepublic ages, but we are still inclined to consult our feelings rather than bur reason in choosing mates. Bomance is an excellent thing in matrimony, rtiuti it may be carried to far in determining the question. When it survives matrimony, and is found to be a large ingredient in its composition; after years of continuance, it is as .beautiful as it is commendable. It is •'* -greatly enjoyed by the married, and warmly admired by their intimates. * 9 Bqt, as a rule, the less dominant romance is in making a match, the larger is 6 its influence alter sobriety has set in. Young persons will sel- • .dom believe this, however, and they to learn it therefore by painful They declare that they love, and love is, in their partial opinion, sufficient for any conjugal enterprise, even in the face : of most adverse fortune. Where love , is, feith and hope are, and to the three .cbnfbined everything desired is pos- : ;. sible, and most things certain. They we. in o, state of eostasy, and the hard world is moulded and mellowed by their enraptured vision. They obstinately refuse to accept as true the assurance that wedlock must . Jepend for its outcome on prosaic facts . and figures, that it belongs as much , to arithmetic as to sentiment; that lwwjtself may not always withstand \ pinching penury and the trials it begets. . Those who will tell them so are '^pronounced doubters and cynics, end their warnings pass like the breeze. Alas I how many couples have discovered, ■when too late, wbat terrible • prophets those doubters and cynics have proved to be! They would not ;. i, heed when they should have heeded, and the time has passed for regrets & ■ #nd contritions. But there are always : .^ey couples as confident and as as the old, and there will be ; while; the, years go on. Such couples Iv .are convinced' beyond refutation that ':s/hearts and pulses that leap together :; ? |are^n earnest of the future, and a ;Vks6|i^ : grpund for od-operative_ house'■^:Js&sj&%^ Secular knowledge teaches gM^tneri^ise. ',;' Leaping • hearts and : V«pmS(9B guarantee nothing except their to leap:> ; And they often no purpos% and on very slight o< ?ati^^iPoung men and women n^^^p^^ without means and IVIKKHHP^^ without selfunder1^ forethought, yet precipitance or impru|^^M%g|s .far more frequently they tl^f^fl^Btt the result is grievous, and JNotnecessarily, either; temperament or Adaptation, but from |||i| M^^^^M^ ~s& -'ceaseless friction iffli^^ffi^^^ ib involves. ■ _ " Those