The Home.

Lake County Press, Issue 906, 12 April 1900, Page 7

The Home.

The Cultivation of Daintiness. • A mistake is often made by mothers and nurses In consulting children too much with regard to food. How often one hears a something like this : " Isn't mother's little Tottie hungry ? Can't she eat her nice dinner V No ? Then what will she have ? Tottie probably chooses the most unwholesome viands possible for one of her tender years, and later on pays for her daintiness in refusing what was wholesome and good fur her by pains of indigestion, which make her cross and troublesome both to herself and other people. Now, would it not be much wiser as a rule to decide what is good for the little folks i<, cat. and pot consult them at all in the matter ? A well-brought-up child with an ordinary healthy appetite eats what is set before it without desiring those viands which are on the table for the benefit of its elders, but which are unsuitable for it. Little children don't know what Is good for them, and therefore it is unwise to consult them, and for the sake of peace and quietness at meal times it should be an understood thing that what is put before them is to be eaten without demur. Of course, seme children have strong aversions to particular kinds of food, and these they should not be forced to take. Many men and women are almost slaves to their dainty appetites. They can't eat this, and they don't like that. till one wonders how they would fare if they were forced to live less sumptuously than they do now. They are not greedy, only absurdly fastidious, and all because in childhood they were allowed to encourage all their little whims and fancies. Talking of the food on the table ought always to be put down by mother or nurse. It encourages either greediness or daintiness, and. I think, papticularly the latter. Children are like sheep in following one another, and if one objects to any particular sort of diet, he lias only to say so a few times, and all the rest will object to it also.—" Home Notes." The Training of Children. Two counter inducements to right conduct largely employed in the training of children are—a fear of punishment and a hope of reward. While it is undoubtedly safer to appeal to a child's love of pleasure through a promised reward than to endeavour to secure good behaviour through fear of punishment, yet it must be" acknowledged that neither incentive is the best motive for right-doing. Children should early learn to fear the wrong-doing which is the occasion for punishment, rather than the punishment itself, while the punishment should be looked upon as a blessing, a helpful aid in overcoming evil. Again, goodness that is secured by promise of reward, or that which is paid for by indulgences and privileges, can scarcely be counted genuine virtue. To do right Iwatisp It is right should be the underlying principle upon which all good conduct is based. There is an old saying that virtue is its own reward. The happiness following the child's inward consciousness of having done right is a natural reward. In this consciousness, and in the approval of those whom he loves, the child should be early led to find his satisfaction. With the child whose right training neyiui In r.ie cradle has been nurtured by that true sympathy which, whenever existing between parent and child, forms one of the most powerful l'om<s in education, othor rewards than these will lie unnecessary. How often do we hear a mother thoughtlessly say. "Now be a good child while I am gone, and I will bring von something nice." A child is told to il> his work well, and some special privilege will be granted him : to give up lo some younger member of the family come desirable treasure and something I letter shall be given to thorn. Such treatment tends ?n divest his mind of nil sense of obligation to do right for right's sake, and to lead him to.feel that It is optional with himself whether he shall do as he was bidden and gain the promised reward, or consider his own pleasure and lose it.—" Home Notes." The Japanese Home. The Japanese have an exquisite taste in decoration, and therefore to one with /an eye for the beautiful their houses are charming. The arrangement of colours in them is quite delightful, as is also that of flowers, and the decoration of their walls with pictures is quite unique. ,In a Japanese sitting-room with its toko walls and hanging pictures and the pictures on the framed partitions, one never experiences that weariness so usual in Western drawingrooms, where the medley of decoration on the walls and over the apartment generally makes one feel as if one were sitting in a badly arranged curioshop, which one would give a great deal to be able to set in order. Instead of this there is always the right amount of decoration for beauty, but never a bit too much. In Japan the family never clusters round a table for a .meal, like Western or other Asiatic peoples, but each person has instead a separate table a foot square and a foot high, and always beautifully decorated. When eating they kneel on a mat with the little lacquered table in front of them. On this is generally placed a small porcelain bowl heaped up with deliriously boiled rice, a number of little plates with fish, radishes, &c, and several lacquered wooden bowls containing soup or meat. Instead of a knife, fork, and spoon, two dainty chop sticks are used ; these are either of lacquered bamboo or wood, or else of ivory or silver. The cooking of course varies much from that of European countries, and one point in it which is noteworthy is that everything is so prepared in th* kitchen that the use of knife and fork at table is quite unnecessary. Soup is drunk from the bowl, just in the same way as wo should drink tea or coffee •from cups. Table etiquette is very strict amongst well-bred people. A maid-servant always waits, kneeling at a little distance away with a large bowl of rice before her from which to replenish the small ones, and a lacquered tray on which to receive and to hand them ; ••!»-.—"Home Professor Hajak of \". ana has declared that smokers a:-.- loss liable to diphtheria and other throat diseases than non-smokers in the ratio of 1 to 28. The learned Dr. SchP'' also gives us to understand that sii' a is always positively forbidden'in i>-. .. riological laboratories, because it is known to hinder the development of the bacteria. The North American Indians may claim to be the original smokers of toacco. It would certainly be difficult to jnceive of any pipes more quaint than those used by these " warriors." The stems are flat, most curously ornamented, and the bowls not less curiously. Some of the most valuable specimens extant have been yielded by ancient North American Indian graves.

A» eminent English dcnerai. Sir Henry Haveloek was born a? Bishop Wearmourh on sth April, 17*.»5. His father, soon after his birth, nurehased the estate of Ingres, near Hertford. Kent, arid Haveloek obtained the rudiments of his education at a school at Hartford. He wa,s removed thence to rhe Charterhouse, where he was a contemporary of Thackeray, and where the religions impressions he had derived from his mother's teaching ripened so excellently fhat he used to ■collect small companies of *his schoolfellows to read sermons, and converse upon what they read. On leaving the Charterhouse he was placed with a barrister, but a natural military bias soon turned him from the legal profession towards that of arms, and in 1815 he obtained a commission in the Rifle Brigade. In the interval between th:"s first commission and lS'S,',. he served in England, Ireland, and Scotland, travelled in the North of France and in Italy, and studied the theory of the profession he had adopted. Transferred to the 13th Light Infantry, ne embarked for India in January, 182:'.. bavins; previously fitted himself for service in that part of the world by studying Hindoostanee and Persian. While on his voyage his religious feelings were powerfully awakened and he became what he remained to the last, a true and zealous Christian. On his arrival in India he was stationed with his regiment at Fort William. Calcutta, but on the outbreak of the Burmese war in April. 1524. was placed upon the staff of Sir Archibald Campbell as deputy assistant-adjutant general. He (proceeded to Rangoon, and took part in the actions near it. Attacked by liver complaint, he was compelled to return, first to Calcutta, and then to Bombay, and the Heccan. The change of air and rest restored his health, and, eager to resume his duties, he sailed back by Madras to Rangoon, found'the army at Prome, and fought with it at Xupadq, Patanago, and Paghammgo. On the conclusion of the peace at Yandalo. he ■was associated with Captain (afterwards Lieutenant-Colonel) Lumsdeh. of the Bengal Artillery, and Dr. Knox, of the Madras army, in a mission to the Burman capital at Ava, where they were admitted to the monarch's presence. Haveloek was twenty-three years a subaltern. In IS3B he obtained a captaincy, and 'thenceforth 'his promotion was more rapid. He gained the rank of major and the cross of Companion of the Bath in IS4". In the following year he became lieutenantcolonel by brevet, adjutant general to the forces in ISoS, and brigadier-general in 1537. His real worth was appreciated by few until the outbreak of the Indian mutiny called him info a foremost place, and showed how ■worthy he was of it. With a small force he then checked the sanguinary progress of the rebels, and fought his way through immense hosts, armed and drilled by Englishmen, into good soldiers, to the relief of the small garrison at Lucknow. and the capture of ill-omened Cawnpore. He had not boon long at Lucknow before a disease, which in the excitement of battle he had not felt or had neglected, grew upon him apace, and he was even dying when the news arrived from England of his promotion in the army and elevation to a Knight Commander of the Bath. Sir Henry did not enjoy his honours above a few days. His disease assumed a malignant form, and he sank rapidly, but manifesting the calmest submission to the Hivine will. On the 24th of November hte end was obviously near at band, and "He summoned his eldest son. who 'had been his affectionate and patient nurse, to listen t<> his parting words. "Come," lie said, "come, my son, and see how a Christian can die." In the evening he expired. On the following day a grave was dug for him in the Alum Bagh. and he was buried there, in the presence of Sir Colin Campbell and his sorrowing comrades, with the military honours proper to so gallant a soldier and the regret due to so devout a Christian.