PERSONALITY.

Hutt News, Volume 3, Issue 17, 18 September 1930, Page 10

PERSONALITY.

Itoport of a lecture recently delivered in Wellington, by an eminent phychologist. What is personality? It may be described as being that quality which is nmooaiaciotis'ly radiated from. each, one of us and which has the effect of either attracting or repelling us towards tttiose •with whom we •come in contact. It is •frequently on first impressions that we judge and are judged. Personality can <be acquired by eaxsh. one of us if we sure prepared to cultivate it. Our appearance plays a large part in this, as* will be shown later. It is not what we thave that matters, bat what wo are. It is necessary for each one of vs to "know himself before he can know, his neighbour. Dress plays a most important part in out personality for it is iby our 'manner of wearing it that first impressions are made. To be conscious that our dress is faulty, has the immediate effect of reducing our own opinion of ourselves. We are attracted to <tihe person who is dean, and well groomed, just in the same way that .we <are attracted to our pete, sue frae our «at or dog or bird attract us only when itheir outward appearance is clean and ttidy. It is just as important to the bird, or animal to make a (good impression on itself as upon the world. Ota* self respect manifests itself in. every-

thing wo do and so we are judged by the world.

It is essential that we adjust our manners to the" order of society in which we live and have our being. The gmile discloses our attitude towards life and plays an » important part in personality and should come from the eyes and not "from.' the mouth. Bewiare of <tihe person who smiles with Ms mouth, like the snarling dog or wolf. Smile to the world and the world will icome to you.

•Self forgetfulness is the very foundation of personality and should be encouraged, by striving to remember our neighbour. A conceited person is hiding behind a eamottflage of inferiority for he. is wondering what the world is thinking about him. Let us change* conceit into pride and see in every face a potential friend.

Each one of us is unconsciously judged by -his voice, every note, that drops from your voice finds 'an echo in somebody'a heart. Control your voice and you will control your temper. The hand-shake gives us a rapid insight iato character; we. are unconsciously attracted by the warm clasp of sincerity, as we are repelled by the limp fishy cold shake. ■■'_■• * Another most important feature of personality;.is carriage. ■ What a wide gulf of character there is between the erect bearing of self-confidence and the

slouieli of the cornerman or loafer. No aiian T>vi\o tloes not eatecm himself will gain the- esteem of lii?; noigkbouT, for in life, we are valued :tt our t>wn estimate and we have a sixth sense which eaiables us to Aveigh oure-elves. Every person '■ should have an ideal to look forwai-d to. Throughuu-t history it has been aanbitions and ideiils that have made men .great, they have Mtah.-ed then1 wa,ggon to a star. No man. shall ■be greater tJhan the vision^e sees and when lie has accomplished this he has accom]3lished all things. The person A\i:t.h.o-ut' origiriality or'individuality is one of t/he.tragedies of life. We have a dual mind— -n negative and a positive —and it is for each one of us to decide which we employ. There is nothing 'gpoocl or bad in this, world except we tlhink it so. The .most priceless things in life are our mistakes. Tho Ivingdrtiii of Heaven is witihin us. whomsoever shall seek shall find it.