“My Ideal”

Hawke's Bay Tribune, Volume XV, Issue 125, 2 May 1925, Page 11

“My Ideal”

The Stars Chat of Love " Keep ’Em Guessing!" The movie “stars” contribute to a little symposium entitled “My Ideal Man.” (JIVE me a man with plenty of life (writes Miss Constance Bennett). I can’t bear quiet, dreamy men. He must be good-looking. But I want him to look as if he hadn’t graduated from apron strings. He must be able to show me tho amusing and interesting side of the world. If he’s got to have faults, don’t let one of them be jealousy. That will kill happiness quicker than almost any. thing else, unless it is penuriousness. Open-handedness — that’s another quality I demand. A little recklessness won’t matter so long as he’s not a fool.

I’m not keen about his understanding me. A little mystery about a woman keeps a man interested! Above all he must be a man who won’t think his career is all that matters. Cood Looks Don’t Count! Appearances mean very little to me (Miss Betty Compson declares) but my ideal man must care about the outdoors. 1 do. But he must not think that

games are an there is in life.

1 expect him to share my likes and—to some extent—my dislikes, because I think if two people are going to try to be one, they shouldn’t start by having tastes at the opposite ends of the poles. He must realise that I have faults and must love me in spite of them—not try to change my nature. He must be tolerant. He mustn’t be swayed by pettv jealousies, and he must be independent. “For Better, For Worse.” Here is Miss Kathlyn Williams’s opinion of the ideal man. My ideal man is a dependable soul—sympathetic, ready with encouragement when I’m depressed, and just as ready to rejoice with me when I’m elated. Ho must be a man who has a vast fund of good

humour—one who is able to live the vow “for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer: in sickness and in health.” A man who can stand wealth and temptations as i well as poverty and its privations.

Good looks aren't essential. Good temper is. “Love Comes Suddenly." I don’t want a hero—l want a man (Miss Esther Ralston says). Lot him be human and he’ll be ideal. I don’t care if he has a few bad habits so long as he is “tender and true.” 1 Good-looking? Well, a woman likes what she has to be admired, whether it is a new hat or a husband! She likes to have other women turn around enviously when she comes into a room with her male companion or glides by on his arm over the polished floor. Love comes suddenly and strangely, and goes away as swiftly and as mysteriously. It* never dies. True love lasts for ever. You might even marry someone else and keep that first love as an ideal. . At school I found my ideal. I think. T saw a boy there who seemed to me the embodiment of all that is upright and strong and fine and lovable. I never met him. He pro ba bl v never knew that I existed. Yet even now I think of him whenever anyone speaks of Prince Charming! Kind—Always. The ideal man should have good health (declares Miss Anna Q. Nilsson). He must be generous. The w° rs t faults is parsimony. He should have a hobby. Let him be kind always. I hat covers everythin‘s; while Miss Pola Negri’s ideal’ is as follows:—Six feet tall. A strong face, not necessarily handsome, but good looks are no bar to favour. Ho must be fond of outdoor sports. He must bo popular with men, since it is a settled conviction of mine that men who are not well liked by their own sex are lacking in an essential of manhood. He must have a sense of humour. Wife and Sweetheart. The ideal man, according to Miss Agnes Ayres must have a sense of humour, and she adds:— It’s thoughtfulness in little things that endears a man to a modern woman —it’s small courtesies and the every-day graciousness that keep a wife a sweetheart and a husband an ideal. A Man Indeed! He who mine heart would hold for long Must be a gentle man and strong. That’s a pretty fair definition of my ideal man (declares Miss Lois Wilson). He must, above everything else, be chivalrous at all times. Id like him to know how to dress well, how to carry himself, how to behave in any circumstances that might arise. But I don’t want a Beau Brummell! He must bo stronger and taller than J. He must have that vital thing, a sense of humour, and he must also have the great gift of imagination. I like a serious-minded man, but not too serious. A man who knows when to be gay and frivolous and when to be grave in my idea of a perfect man. He must’assert his rights and stick by his guns after he has made the assertion, no matter how many disagree with him. if he believes he is right. Strong and Gentle. The ideal man is not a “caveman” (Miss Aileen Pringle remarks). An all-masculine person is not far removed from the animal. My ideal must have dignity, courage, and strength. a> well as the gentler virtues. When 1 sneak of strength. I don’t moan a man who tries to impress you with hi< virility. Strength in itself is not essentially attractive. It is the way that strength is used. For protection, for instance.