THERE IS ALWAYS SOME GOOD REASON.

Grey River Argus, 11 June 1904, Page 3 (Supplement)

THERE IS ALWAYS SOME GOOD REASON.

-Most people have some male friend who cannot get a sweetheart. And yet tijere seems nothing the matter, with him. He chats to quite a lot of girls, and goes walks with not a few ; in fact he is very fond of feminine society, but he cannot get a sweetheart. He is a nice fellow, a good talker, always ready with his joke, and most respectful towards all women. One* would think he could easily get a sweetheart if he wished, but, strange to say, if you put it to him, he will tell you that it's all right talking to and walking with the girls, but, somehow, that s all the length he can get. Iftere must be a reason for this, or is it that some men really cannot get sweethearts— are not permitted to get them, in fact? $nly in very exceptional circumstances hqg the latter had anything to do with j n every case there must be a reason, and m most a thoroughly good one to boot. * It is one thing being able ot talk to and entertain a. girl, but quite another matter when it comes to making love, and if a man wants a sweet-heart he must make love, so far. Now there are men— plenty of them— who can entertain girls. Good companions they make, ever ready ,«to play the cavalier, and so forth, yet the art of bye-making is -a sealed book to them. Let them but try to play the part of the amorous suitoi\.and they are doomed to utter failure. They, in short, look the ability to make love, and if a man cannot make love |he certainly cannot ge£ a girl to accept' him as a lover— that stands to reason. There are men who certainly try hard to get sweethearts. They would be content with almost any girl, bub no girl can they get, and oisen their own tongues are their greatest enemies— that is, their slanderous speaking and gossiping -ways. ; Strange it is that, whilst a woman is always ready to tell and hear slanderous ia-les, and ever ready to gossip, still these are things she utterly despises in the opposite sex ; so if a man shows a girl that he loves gossip and so forth, he will not be accepted as a lover. And small wonder, for women, although -fond of these vices, know the evil of them. ; Then the boastful young 1 man has little chance of capturing a girl's heart; he is merely a fool after all, and any girl can weigh him up after a few conversations with him. He is the man who is always superior to his fellows, either at sport, business, or anything else. No, he cannot get a sweetheart, and it is as well. The effeminate man, too, has small chance. No genuine girl will have anything to do with him. He doesn't go in for sport in. case of an accident happening ; he wouldn't take a girl out for a drive in case the horse bolted, and so on. Well, a girl cannot stand a coward, and this kind of man must be classed as a type of coward. Self -preservation may be his motive, but it) can be carried too far> and if so the person' is simply chicken-hearted— to wit, a coward. ' Ypur average gay. {Lothario cannot get a real sweetheart. He may know scores of girls, and may flirt with them all, but each knows him too well to become a sweetheart of his in dead earnest ; they are suspicious of "him. His little intrigues with girls are the danger , signal, and they fight shy of him whenever he attempts to pay what look like, serious attentions. One would hardly believe that a man, who was exceedingly liberal in giving presents to girls, would, have any difficulty in getting a sweetheart, yet it is so. •■...- True, he can very easily get girls' to walk about with, and doubtless some of them put in a neat bit of acting in the way of playing the sweetheart, but, then, that is merely .in order to capture those self-same presents. . ■ ' . > Girls are shrewd enough to know thafc such a man would make but a poor husband. He -as good as tells them that he would be a spendthrift, and no sensible girl wants that sort of man as a husband. • And of course the very mean man cannot easily get a sweetheart. He may almost ' capture a girl's heart, but, as a rule, before she absolutely pledges herself to him. exposure comes. In other words, dhe finds him out. He may one day unwittingly perform an action under her very eyes which dearly demonstrates the type of husband "he would turn out, and, be it .remembered, tihat your genuine girl detests meanness in n man, just as she dislikes one who is thrif tless. v There ia the middle course, and toe mail who can. touch the medimniß most likely to succeed' in actually captivating a girt;