"DONT'S" FOR WIVES.

Evening Post, Volume L, Issue 36, 10 August 1895, Page 2 (Supplement)

"DONT'S " FOR WIVES.

Don't talk too much about what "lovely timoß" you used to have when you were "free and single," or your husband may wish that you were so at the present time ; and it is a sad day in the life of auy wile when her husband cherishes that opinion regarding her It is a sadder day still for him. Don't treasure up all your daily trials for your husband's ears when he comes home at night. Don't tell him how naughty the children have been, or how badly the servant has behaved, or how the fire wouldn't burn, or how the clothes line broke with the week's washing on it, or how the baby has cried all day, or how the milkman left milk that soured in an hour, or how the grocer has sent bad eggs for good ones. Don't add all these things to the trials your husband has borne all day. He has had his anxieties, you may be sure of that, and, unless he is an exception to the general rule, he has not said anything at all about them to you. Don't " nag " at him all the time. That is the most hateful word we know, and the "nagging" practice is one of the most vicious. Much should be forgiven a husband who has a " nagging " wife — one whose -tongue is never still, and whose every word is fault-finding or complaint. Such a woman is a blot on the fair face of creation, and her husband has much to bear. Whatever else you do, don't nae your husband. Don't compare him with other men to his disadvantage. Don't tell him that you " do wißh " he was like this woman's or that woman's husband. Nothing can flatter him so much as your openly expressed conviction that you have the best and kindest and handsomest husband in all the world. No doubt you told him so once, and even if you think differently now, nothing but harm can come of your telling him so. Don't go about in slipshod and slovenly clothing before your husband. He may not say any t ing about it, but it will have a demoralising effect upon him all the same. Don't come to the breakfast table with your hair in curling pins because you are going into town later in the day, and the curl will all come out if 'you take your 'hair down before breakfast. Your husband won't see you when you are down in the town, and he does see you now, and wouldn't you rather look your best before him than before any other man in the world ? Don't ask him to be both master and mistress of the house. Don't ask him what you shall have for dinner, or burden him with the family marketing. Don't expect him to look after your servants, or to do things that you, as mistress of your own home, ought to do. He probably has his hands full of business. Don't look for perfection in your husband. He has not found perfection in you, has he ? Perfect men are so rare in this world that if one could be found he would be worth his weight in gold as a museum curiosity, and perfect women are equally rare. If your husband is as " good as the average," be thankful that he is no worse, and bear in mind that it rests largely with you whether he will grow better or worse. Of course, nearly all these " Don'ts " apply to husbands as well aa to wives. Men are no better than women, nor as good — they have their failings by the score ; but don't increase their shortcomings by showing them the weak side of your character. — The Home Messenger.