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Bruce Herald, Volume XXV, Issue 2624, 26 October 1894, Page 1 (Supplement)

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CARD COURTESY. A Few Up to Date Items Abont Visiting Cards and Their Correct Use. The recognized hour for calling and oard leaving in tho society of New York and other large cities is l>ctweoii 4 and 6 o'clock. If a lady lms a special day for being at home to visitors, calls should be made on that day. Tho question of the proper stylo for a widow's card is a much discussed one, and ono of which the decision must genorally be left to personal preference. It is generally conceded that a widow may retain her husband's narao upon her cards if she chooses, a common concession that- society makes out of respect for a feeling of sentiment. If the widow has a married son of the same name, she may add Sr. after her own name. Young marriefl people who wish to do so may for a year after marriage uso cards engraved: Mr. & Mrs. John Elliott Pay. Thursdays. 44 Lincoln square. These cards are meant for the acknowledgment of social obligations, which, 'as a newly wed pair, tho young people have received, and it is proper to uso them also after the first year in cases of congratulation or condolonco and in sending or acknowledging gifts and invitations. This docs not preclude the uso of individual cards. If in calling the lady asked for is not at homo, the caller leaves her card. It is allowable to write upon the card the name of tho person for whom it is intended if the person is stopping at a hotel. If it be the first call of the season, the lady leaves her own card and two of her husband's, one for the mtistcr and on* for tho 'mistress. If the caller should have found her acquaintance at homo/ she would hot leave her own card — only .the two of her hus-' band. After a church wedding, if the invitation was accepted, a lady leaves or sends a card or cards to her host and hostess. If unaccepted, she sends a card, or cards by mail or messenger on* the day of ' the marriage. If the invitation was issued J>y Mr. and Mrs. ,' tho cards should be so addressod. In the case of a wedding at the house, the same rulo applies as in the case of a church wedding or any invitation, whether accepted or unaccepted. If accepted, cards should bo left for host and hostess within a week or 10 days after. If. unaccepted, cards should be sent oh thedaiy of the ceremony. : „. And, to conclude these useful items, aoorcditcd by an exchange to a fashionable stationery company, in sending cards, general usage is to inclose a card in but on» envelope. . ' • ■"■