Why Widowers Make Such Pleasant Husbands to Get Along With.

New Zealand Graphic, Volume XXXII, Issue I, 2 January 1904, Page 60

Why Widowers Make Such Pleasant Husbands to Get Along With.

A girl remarked not long ago. with reference to the impending marriage of a friend. "Really, ami the man i widower?" Does this mean that a prejudice exists against widowers? Evidently it does, hut why ' There is surely no <ood reason why they should not make as desirable husbands as any man: indeed. one would think they would make better husbands upon the whole. Do they not. having been married, know all about woman’s little ways, her little eccentricities, her humours, and such like? They should, for in these things one woman is singularly like another. The main argument in favour of girls marrying widowers is this, namely, that widowers know what to avoid, as well as what to do. The one is as important as the other, if not more important. A widower knows the kind of things which offend or raise the temper of women. he has learned when it it unwise to use his tongue: he understands the many signs which show that trouble is likely to arise, and in obedience to them, he acts in a manner calculated to keep matters going smoothly. Then the "greenness” is off a widower. He has had experience of married lite, and can guide a wife in many ways, ami he is more tolerant than the aver age hot-headed youth: he knows that woman is a creature of moods and fancies. and acts accordingly. Therefore, a * r irl marrving a widower will, certainly. have mueh more of her own way than if she married a single man. The first year of married life is usually a somewhat difficult time for a young wife. She has so many things to learn, so many trifling items to discover: and. of course, if she married a bachelor he is in the same boat. The first year is a time of surprises—some pleasant, others distinctly the reverse If a girl marries a widower, however, she won’t have such a long time of the surprise business. He will be able to teach her many things. The girl, in fact, is in the hands of one who, if he be a sensible man. is a capital t.itor aim wise counsellor. If any little trouble connected with the household arise, or any untowani event happens, she has but to go to him and he will usually be able to show her the way out. Now "these things greatly trouble a young and inexperienced couple. They don’t know what to do: often enough a neighbour has to be asked for advice. One can thus see that the girl who marries a widower has an easier time of it from the very start than if she married a youth who had never been through the matrimonial mill. A voting couple, too. are often bothered with relations, some advising one thing, some another. You have no io,:’, what a nuisance relatives are to a newly wedded couple. But the widower will soon put his foot down on that sort of thing: he remembers what it was before. He will have none of it. and relatives are kept at a distance. It cannot be explained here all that this last sentence means, but if any oil! asks a few married women about the bother connected with relations she will get her eye- opened with a venD<> wut begin to see the advantage of marrying a widower? It i- very great, indeed. A widower. having been married, knows the right kind of women to select a- friends for his wife: the average young matt cannot be expected to gauge the character of different women aeettrateiv. The married man ean. as a rule, and thus the girl who weds a widower is kept right, so far as society goes. It has been said that a widower makes a harsh husband, but this is not true. He may not be so loving <>r sentimental a- : be average youth, but there is more rial worth in the love he does display. \ widower is really very tend.:’ ith a gitl. and treats his young wife with ureal respect, and as something to be greatly treasured. Il must be granted that a girl who marries a widower does not thorongldy a| preeiate what the rally days of matrimony really mean, iir the u-ual sense. Htr life is much smoother: there ate ■mt the worries, the battles, the inconveniences. the struggles, which are ■<»

The girl who weds a widower has an easier time of it in every way. There is no reason why a prejudice should exist against widowers. They make excellent husbands—not overloving. perhaps, but good, honest, sterling men are they in the majority of eases. So. if any girl who reads this gets an offer from an eligible widower, let her not miss the chance, but accept him at once —that is, of course, if she loves him.