Recipes for Romance

Waikato Times, Volume 118, Issue 19762, 18 December 1935, Page 18 (Supplement)

Recipes for Romance

: VIEWPOINTS : FROM THE STARS

By MERLE OBERON.

JN THIS day when there are so many pretty girls, it is necessary to have attributes other than beauty to be sue-

cessful in love. I think that charm must be counted as one of the most important attributes It is my belief -that charm is distinctly a quality that can be cultivated. The keynote is sympathy. Every one—man and woman alike—has “low” moments and the one who can give warm comfort and sympathy is bound to be esteemed with affection. A keen sense of humour and a pleasant disposition are also important elements of

charm. Be sunny. It’s just as easy as to frown. A man wants a woman to be gay and happy, to be soothing and restful and sympathetic, with a light, .whimsical attitude toward life. He wants a woman who coddles him and spoils him and laughs with him; who adores and worships him and lets him talk about himself. A man will not care if such a woman is not a beauty. She has the qualities -that he seeks, that charm and hold him. I think that a girl should be careful to avoid gold-digging. She should' not forever be giving hints about when her birthday is or what she would like as a surprise. She shouldn’t always demand to be taken out. She should stay at home once in a while and be a charming and entertaining hostess. Let her reveal to the man that she can make a home attractive and comfortable.

Remember that, above all, there is no beauty and no cleverness in a woman that is so directly and irresistibly and permanently fascinating to men as a warm heart. It is the strongest and best means that I know, to win romance.

By MARGARET SULLAVAN.

TF I were a girl whom romance had passed by, I should endeavour to create it within myself. lam a firm believer in the vlieory that what we are

within we show without. Make believe that you have found romance! Act the part! . The feeling itself will make you glow and, add to your loveliness in many ways. With such faith, romance will become more than a possibility. ’ “Get your man’’ is a good slogan, but get him by fair means, not foul. If a store sells you something by misrepresentation, you feel justified in handing it back to it, and

you are naturally resentful. So don’t blame the man who feels cheated when he falls in love with one type of girl only to find, after closer acquaintance, that she is entirely different. I suggest, therefore, that you be natural

in manner. Be “peppy, but not boisterous; gentle, but not “sappy ; understanding, but not presuming upon a mans confidence. . , „ . Try to develop at least one talent. Music, voice or dancing is attractive to a man. He may know little about it, but if a girl stands out above others because of this talent, he cannot help but be proud of her. . , . Remember that when a man takes, a girl out for the evening he wants to give her as good a time as possible. Try to cooperate in every way. Show that you appreciate his effort and are enjoying yourself. 1 . . . , A mistake that mahy girls make is to look for romance at parties and whoopee places. A man who is bent on whooping it up isn’t in the right mood for romance. The girl that he plays bridge .with at the home of some married friend, is more apt to inspire him with a romantic feeling. He gets to know the real girl. He feels that she could comfort and sustain him with her sweetness and undertsanding. That is when she has a chance to find real romance.

By ANNA STEN.

T'HE girl who would win romance should, X above all, be a good listener. The girl who shows a sincere interest in, a man and what he has to say, is always popular. She ■should be careful not to appear too eagerly interested, but conduct herself easily and with sincerity. A well-placed compliment, with the same note of sincerity, pleases every one, and men particularly. Man wants to be the conqueror, and a word of disguised praise here and there feeds his ego and in return he will be attracted by the girl. Be nice to all men, not just the popular ones. Many men are quiet and resei'ved, and are greatly pleased by attention. They respond to attention more quickly than the popular ones. _ But the attention of 'the popular ones will be drawn to the girl who is being shown attention by other men. Just try it and see.' All men aren’t alike, of course. _ “Size them up” when you meet them. Find out what their interests are and you will find they are becoming interested in you. Be cheery and optimistic. Avoid bromides and cliches. There is little charm about a girl whose speech is spiced with “I’ll say so,” “Oh, yeah,” and similar phrases. Don’t be conspicuously dressed. Seek instead to be smartly but not extremely dressed. And remember that bright' eyes and a smile are the best cosmetics in the world. _

Above all, watch your voice. Take care, to speak distinctly. A brassy voice repels men more quickly than anything else. And a good voice attracts them. All so-called charm can be acquired. The thing to remember is that you can be charming if you really want to be. It’s not' easy, but it can be done.