WOMAN'S WORLD.

New Zealand Herald, Volume XLV, Issue 13868, 30 September 1908, Page 9

WOMAN'S WORLD.

THE HAPPINESS OF THE. WIFE. ARE MEN MORE SELFISH THAN WOMEN? It is' a known fact admitted by philosophers and men of. learning that women on the whole are most unselfish; but nobody has' been able to soy the. fame of man. The average man views the world and its doings with regard to himself and his own advancement and comfort. Being satisfied that his own concerns are flourishing he may look around and give a thought to .somebody else. ■'■.' ■'■' ; Should he ; happen- to he-married the somebody else will probably be his wife. From his -earliest years Ire male member of the community makes it his business to look after himself. As «i hoy, he is willing to share anything with his; sisters, to the extent 1 of taking three-fourths himself, and handing* ova; one;' being careful that any. unsound portion does not come within his own share. ■■ -■ ..' ■■■■•- ';■: >;'-. : Through the. years that follow he pays the same marked attention, to himself. A week-end at seaside "is .' necessary to him at- intervals during the. 'summer, ami during, the winter he will willingly .pay. his money and go to see .a football match on a S-utudav afternoon in ,the 'best of seats, regardless of expense. • - - ' A good deal "of- this selfishness is -ingrained'- during the boys'upbringing. .So many, wives, are ready... to concede to their husbands the tit-bits of the .family dish,,be.-., • cause they are the wage earners. The husband holds this position in many a home, and his; ton- grows tip * to'expect i similar concessions. ■■■■; Therefore he 'starts in life with, a tendency to be selfish. So, although mail;'is riot naturally .a more sel- ' fish, creature than is' woman, he is so by force of circumstances ;■ and .it must be remembered before condemning him for this vice ■ that' ho goes the'way' the : world pushes him. ; '■■■•''- ' •-'■'■'-;' '/-■••'■■■-- /;•;;-'' ■ Women "suffer mostly ,from 'this selfish-'-', ness because of. their own . love Tor husbands, ..fathers, and .- brothers: : * The wile does , dt wish to call her husband's attention, to the faults she sees, but Suffers' In silence, hoping that he wilt' tee them . himself. It is a mistake; the Inst thing a selfish person sees is his own selfishness. i .The mother does wrong to . make a god of her son and gratify all his Wishes; If her husband bo a selfish 1 man she. may cure him by talking to his , : boy:of.' the 'beauty of unselfishness. -So much "depends..on ..a: boy's leaching, and nothing in after life clings to him so closely as the lessons of Ins mother.- , :.' : . * -...-. ... . _-, Selfish, as he generally is, the average man is to be reclaimed without over-much difficulty. It depends on the woman—wife* i sweetheart, mother, or sister. And there are more unwelcome tasks in the world, for an unselfish, man. Ie a blessing to any household: ;./ ' //. .':; -" '._ .'-, \'<„. .~• % WORTH KNOWING. . " Few small .matters are,mora.annoying when machining with ordinary finesilk ''.than is the ease with which • the reel; unwinds too rapidly, .causing the silk to become entangled underneath. .To obviate, ..this., all that "is, necessary is to cut-iv. small disc of cloth or felt the same size, as 'the bottom ■ Of the reel, and place this below it, resting it on the machine-itself. ■-.--.- - -".--;■ -.'■,.- , Should the lining of a coat slain : the blouse with which it ,is wornthe- ' latter should always be treated before 1 sending it to be cleaned, even if it is of a washing description, such as white lawn or muslin. Dabbing the stain with" chlorinated soda or oxalic acid should be resorted to; the I mark : and' the adjoining material being rinsed immediately afterwards in lukewarm Water, or, if the stain appears to be obstinate, it should,; be rubbed again with the chemical, and/laid ill ; the sun for about/ ten or./ twenty minutes, the greater the heat .the better...; ■ ,-,.- , Special; treatment,/ always: necessary when washing cream silk lace;. such as Spanish, Maltese, and Chaulillv. After the lace has been dipped in soapsuds,-it should, be hud to soak over-night/in hot milk-- or, : , half milk and half , Water—to which a little ...borax, has been, added, blueing being avoided. , In the- case of -black lace, it should' be soaked in. a. little• strong tea, and then rinsed. in a solution made of the;proportion a,pint of water and a teaspoonful of gum arabic to a teaspoonfill of tea. ,/.,r. ~-;.\//:/.\//7/v i' ,;;/ . -:,./;.,,,/ HOW LONG 'SHALL I SLEEP?, ..., A good rule to-follow is to sleep until one awakes refreshed, -whether that -is in five hours or ten.. : : : ''\ ./•/:/ If possible, do not •'& .called. This is • particularly important for growing/ chili ami. Some parents,- make a fetish of early hours for their children and think - so. much .of-.getting them out of lazv habit's i that they do, not consider.-.their ■ nervoussystems. ... ... .. , Even when you must. go. to work at an early hour,, do not train' voiitieelf to depend on an alarm, which gives a-shock to the nervous - system. Go, to bed with tho; fixed idea in your , brain to awaken at a certainhour, arid it rarely fails that your eve's pop open at that minute. -v- - • • - - . A** ? well to sleep/ until refreshed, it is .not. welt to, indulge in the habit, of turning over for another .nap. - Get up assoon as you, Wake,;. and you will, not be sluggish and, stupid for several hours of the morning. ;;;--•.••■;-.-.;;.. "•: .'• ■'.; .-.-■-'■ ;■:■;,.... :"■ DouT be one of those, persons who says: with mi air,, "I never sleep ..in.! the day-: time. If you have. any regard for. yourlooks and health you will take, a.:short rest each, day, even though you think you. cannot/possibly sleep, It won't- be long before you, are saying, "I believe I met : dropped oft," and will feel better andbrighter for it .the rest .of the day and evening. ''..'* ' ;,;■■-" • Remember there is nothing like sleep to build up and-restore nerve power. ,-,.',■ ■'■ .., ; CARE OF' OUR POSSESSIONS. Fuller's earth is excellent for cleaning suede gloves. ; Put the gloves oh the hands, and; rub the earth in well with a small soft, brush. An old nail or. tooth brush answers the jiui pose admirably., Some people use a mixture of the earth and powdered alum/ in equal quantities. White kid gloves may be rubbed with cream of tartar, and if very slightly soiled it will make them look like new. A piece of flannel dipped in benzine arid allowed to nearly dry before it is applied is more efficacious lor really soiled gloves and after the lie'rt'/Jrie they should, be .rubbed again With, breadcrumbs' until all stains and dirt are removed,, changing , the : crumbs as short as they become soiled. ...... - A good method of washing chamois leather gloves is that of/placing them on the hands audi, washing them in tepid soft water, using plenty of pule Castile soap. ■ The gloves should .then be drawn off the hartds, arid pulled out straight,/,ana then passed through a. wringer. ' They '..must'' then be rinsed in water of the same tern-" perature, straightened out once more, and S again passed through the Wringer. The ; gloves should then, be Well shaken and I hung to dry in the open air in a .stiaclv' place, and never laid to.-.dry. hi front of' I the fire or over a- hot-air radiator. ! Blotters' and writing-table accessories made ol black leather should never be I cleaned by ntbbirig; them, with a damp leather or cloth, as is sometimes done To i renew the surface of the leather a mixture made of the pfoportion of two teaspoontuls o sweet oil to a ,tablespobiif of fresh milk Will found most efficacious, and this should be well rubbed in, | then allowed to dry, and the article finally polished with chamois leather. ' -- J

A black : . lace shawl that has.' turned brown can be renovated by ■thb'l'oilrjwhic process. Ah. old black-kid glove is boiled! and the lace is spread on a. board 'and sponged with : the liquid. The lace is left- to di oil the board, and the colour

ARE YOU GRACEFUL? ~„•.• ; THE LISSOM FIGURE. ::: ' :J '* To be well 'proportioned is the aim- of every woman, and exercises must, borin-.r dulged in to attain tin's ambition.'; If the chest is harrow" arid the back irdjmd,.;skiu I.■ backwards ten. minute/, every night and morning; throwing- .the- ■■'■armsr* : "wide circles. This'is a - very simple .'remedy, but k at the same time most effective.-- ■' ■•...';',; To- keep the •'• whole body;.: supple standwith the heels together; the toe's out, and the hands oh the hips,"-ami' without removing the : feet - bend -the-'body" ' firsts forwards, then backwards, then from side to side, mid • i-flo winds, '.describeWi;¥iv'clo'':! with the whole, body. "■'"< ■i' :-.,.:,..,.';'.. ...» ; Another excellent exercise; for "Strength--ening the. back 'and keeping the'region- of.' the waist flat, is to lie quite Hiit 'oh-a-bed',--clasp Live hands behind the, head.and,hook the toes in the rail at- the foot of tire bed, then "sit 'up and lie'down \vrthori't'"'re-'"." leasing either the hands or- feet: Aft ! this has 'been tried' for'"three times this, exercise can be accomplished "without;- ahy-' strain for many more -times. - ■■-." -- *>•"' To improve the carnage walk "up" arid" down a room in-.■'-stockinged- feet with -a walking-stick passed through the elbows, the ■-'■hands clrf.s'ped"h), frvi!Vt";* r ;.' Tikis' keeps ~ the. shoulders back and makes the--back"" flat, and, consequently, rows the' chest ' out as well. -' •'-•"• :".---. V ; ''".'' •*"*'•"' ; These simple oVerr-isr-s done '"night:-and"; morning" regularly; "if ftYily. for" a- "'tew';* minutes, improve'- the health--' as", well asthe , e''-tren#:VdoYfsly?'' "' "'.'"" "*." ',""''