"Sweethearts."

Manawatu Standard, Volume XLI, Issue 8155, 4 April 1906, Page 2

"Sweethearts."

In a lecture to young men at Greymouth lately on the above subject, Miss fcfoody Bell, of the Y.M.G.A., Dunedin, gave'her opinion of the girl.most suited | so make a good wife, and spoke against | what she termed " the butterflies of society." She said :—lt was a pity that men gave so much of their time to the butterflies to play with them. (Laughter.) The way for a girl to get ready for a sweetheart was to be able to do without one. A girl who was able to earn her own living, stick to her opinion, and was independent, was the girl that would make the best wife. She' was better value than a prettily-dressed butterfly. The girls of New Zealand resembled the 1 girls Of the Old Country in many parti • culars; but the colonial girls, to use an Irish saying, were ''more so''—more ex-' trerae in'all things. The New Zealand: girl was a terror to ask questions, and wanted to know all about you on the first introduction. (Laughter.) Girls should be ready for the responsibilities of life, and learn to cook, etc. They should practice on their .brothers. —(Laughter).—And also learn to be sweet and good to their brothers, the same as to their lovers. As man was superior to woman in intellect it should be his duty to protect the silly girls, and if opportunity offered lecture them. (Laughter). It i-vas wrong for a man to carry on a flirtation with seven or eight girls, and then go to a good girl and ask her to take what is left. (Laughter). Girls should avoid marrying a man who was given to gambling and drinking. (Applause). And should - also avoid smokers. (Oh, lao !) Girls often stated they liked to see a man smoke; but in truth it was the cigar holder they liked. A man should seek a Christian woman for a wife. this stage stones were thrown on the roof, and the lecturer good humoredly stated, "Boys will be boys.") A voice: "It's the girls. (Laughter). The lecturer stated that, she had received the following questions from some girls : — Question—Should you allow a young man to pay for you on trains, to picnic parties, etc. Answer: —Let him do it onee or twice; but not more. It is not fair to the young man to put lnra to expense if you do not care for him. Question. —Can you judge the extent of a man's love for you by the way he spends his money on you. Answer: — Love is not valued by money. Perhaps his extravagant ways may lead you j into difficulties when married. i Question —If several young men are paying attention at one time how can I And out which means marriage. Answer The girl who has several admirers at tlit? same time, is ready to accept the first?-'one who means business. Take the most noble. Question —How can I tell when I meet the right one'? Answer : That is for you io judge. Question.—Where shall I meet him ? Answer : I don't know what " him " means; but if it is a man, not by advertising in the newspapers. (Laughter). Not in the dance room. (Oh I Oh!) Any man with a good suit on his back and half-a crown in his pocket can get permission to go to a dance. Introductions tiro made ,on a wholesale basis, and a gill cannot pick and choose. Good men have been found in the Sunday School or the churches. Question,—Do you favor long or short engagements? .Answer: It is often a matter of circumstances. Some girls at 20 years are quite womanly; while others do not know as much as a gi } rl of 17 .-years. A young girl thinks she has "a duck of a husband" but finds out after he is not " what lie seemed." The lecturer brought her interesting address to a close by urging the men to protect the young girls from ail harm and to bo sure in choosing a wife to look for the truo principles m the girl he seeks to favur witli his hand.